erection problems !!!

confusion · #1 06-12-2011, 09:00 PM

Dear bros,

i hardly log in nowadays , but i do need some advise from all the lao jiao here, alot of times when i having sex, be it with pros or with a normal gal, i can get an erection initially, but after awhile, i seems to lose interest and my di di soften, before penetration.
Once in awhile i am able to penetrate and have sex and even shoot inside, but on and off alot of times i can't get an erection when strip naked, and the more i am worried and try to get it stand up, the softer it gets. Is it ED? or my sex drive is becoming lower or simply my expectation is too high and my partner fail to arouse me?? But i have no problem at all when i watch porn and diy and when i wake up in the morning, my di di is hard.

I am really depress now, i am hitting my 30 and i am not over weight, runs regularly. Is it due to stress? This problem 1st begins 6 yrs ago.

What should i do, if i am to consult a doc, which clinic is good in this sort of issue? The DSC at kelantan?

All advices are welcome, no flamming pls.

utd4ever59 · #2 06-12-2011, 11:03 PM

Brother,you may have diabetes. I advise you to go for a check up.

nine9nine · #3 06-12-2011, 11:24 PM

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Originally Posted by utd4ever59

Brother,you may have diabetes. I advise you to go for a check up.

Wow everyday I learned something new.

TS are you working in a very stressful environment and sex is not exactly in your mind when doing it? Sometimes I did for the sake of doing it and the feeling is like a super waste of time. Sometimes I only think of sex when in front of computer and nothing to do. Most times I dont even think of it when I am outside with all the opportunities surrounding, because its not worth committing a single mistake and possible regret for the rest of my life. Yes, I am leading a double life and its not easy.

confusion · #4 06-12-2011, 11:35 PM

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Originally Posted by utd4ever59

Brother,you may have diabetes. I advise you to go for a check up.

i don't think i have diabetes, no diabetes symptoms ...

kristoa7 · #5 06-12-2011, 11:40 PM

Looks like ED.Go to any clinic.Point thumb down to doctor.He'll have you fix.

Samroy · #6 06-12-2011, 11:41 PM

Bro
you don't have any physical problem. if u had u can never get errection . its a psychological thing only. you have abit performance anxiety which you don't face when you are alone. more you try to get good performance thoughts in mind more u ll fail.. take it easy... try to get in a relationship and slowly go with your girlfriend. never drink and do sex, alcohol increase desire but decrease performance. you have to do sex with same girl few times to get ur confidence back. keep in mind one thing, u don't have any physical problem.

Samroy · #7 06-12-2011, 11:45 PM

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Originally Posted by confusion

Dear bros,

i hardly log in nowadays , but i do need some advise from all the lao jiao here, alot of times when i having sex, be it with pros or with a normal gal, i can get an erection initially, but after awhile, i seems to lose interest and my di di soften, before penetration.
Once in awhile i am able to penetrate and have sex and even shoot inside, but on and off alot of times i can't get an erection when strip naked, and the more i am worried and try to get it stand up, the softer it gets. Is it ED? or my sex drive is becoming lower or simply my expectation is too high and my partner fail to arouse me?? But i have no problem at all when i watch porn and diy and when i wake up in the morning, my di di is hard.

I am really depress now, i am hitting my 30 and i am not over weight, runs regularly. Is it due to stress? This problem 1st begins 6 yrs ago.

What should i do, if i am to consult a doc, which clinic is good in this sort of issue? The DSC at kelantan?

All advices are welcome, no flamming pls.

Bro
you don't have any physical problem. if u had u can never get errection . its a psychological thing only. you have abit performance anxiety which you don't face when you are alone. more you try to get good performance thoughts in mind more u ll fail.. take it easy... try to get in a relationship and slowly go with your girlfriend. never drink and do sex, alcohol increase desire but decrease performance. you have to do sex with same girl few times to get ur confidence back. keep in mind one thing, u don't have any physical problem.

lasupkia · #8 06-12-2011, 11:56 PM

You are hitting 30 and the problem started 6 yrs ago... this is not normal.
As the other bro said, best to see a doctor. There are many different types of ED and most can be treated. In fact, ED is very common for men in various degrees. Some are stress related or sickness related. Drop your pai seh feeling and see a doctor.

becky80 · #9 07-12-2011, 01:05 AM

I have the similar issue as TS.

But to i just simply walk into any neighbour clinic and ask doc for referral? Or are there any specialise clinic meant for men de?

Kraves · #10 07-12-2011, 01:23 AM

It does sound like anxiety and performance issues. The mere act of needing your manhood to stand at attention may instead, cause the opposite effect. As you've mentioned that you are able to attain an erection at times, you may not have ED.

Though, nothing is for certain. I'm still guessing that you are fine and there is no cause for alarm, yet. It is a common issue that men face. Losing interest and not maintaining a constant state of arousal could make one's penis flaccid. It's all in the mind.

Once again, you may wish to speak to a doctor about it.

KampungChicken · #11 07-12-2011, 02:54 AM

You don't need us ya? You need a doctor.

wally888 · #12 07-12-2011, 04:36 AM

Stop the DIY, coz it'll numb your senses of your cock.......

embraced · #13 07-12-2011, 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Kraves

It does sound like anxiety and performance issues. The mere act of needing your manhood to stand at attention may instead, cause the opposite effect. As you've mentioned that you are able to attain an erection at times, you may not have ED.

Though, nothing is for certain. I'm still guessing that you are fine and there is no cause for alarm, yet. It is a common issue that men face. Losing interest and not maintaining a constant state of arousal could make one's penis flaccid. It's all in the mind.

Once again, you may wish to speak to a doctor about it.

Bro kraves is correct, try to keep yourself in a relaxed mood and everything will be fine, if your feeling stressed/uptight, chances that you won't enjoy the session also very high. And if all else doesn't work, its time to see a doctor..

confusion · #14 07-12-2011, 07:50 AM

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Originally Posted by KampungChicken

You don't need us ya? You need a doctor.

But any recommendation of doc? Or any clinic will do, DSC ?

confusion · #15 07-12-2011, 07:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Kraves

It does sound like anxiety and performance issues. The mere act of needing your manhood to stand at attention may instead, cause the opposite effect. As you've mentioned that you are able to attain an erection at times, you may not have ED.

Though, nothing is for certain. I'm still guessing that you are fine and there is no cause for alarm, yet. It is a common issue that men face. Losing interest and not maintaining a constant state of arousal could make one's penis flaccid. It's all in the mind.

Once again, you may wish to speak to a doctor about it.

hmm.. is it adviseable to take tongkat ali or horny goat weed? Thats no side effect if i stop taking this right?