the concept of wife, husband and family

[muscleboi]

in today's world, we crave for variety but it doesn't jus happen yesterday. whatever the times may be, there will be men and women having multiple partners. be it in ancient times china or modern day world. the only difference is how. maybe we can give some thoughts to the following:

emperor having empress and concubines. one is to many. this one damn song.

men eating outside, married or not.

how on earth can we really be sure the ones we marry aren't the same ones being eaten before? the numbers don't justify if the ones we are eating outside are totally different group of people from the ones we marry. (take into account of affairs, girlfriend or boyfriend moonlighting as pro etc whom history you never know) educated or not, and still having multiple partners.

other than kids, the group of little ones people are having tougher and tougher times to cope with having even one nowadays, and hdb, I can't think of any reason to marry. yet some of us marry, still.

is it the greed of wanting to have the best of both worlds leading us to marriage? and is that really best of both worlds? for example, pei pei, the female character in bro javlooking's latest story. she's the goody demure sweet girl having affair outside marriage. if that is fiction, imagine one day it come true (or it may be happening among us unknowingly already), aren't we deluded to even think that we are having the best of both worlds? (outside food and family love)

bros here. your thoughts please.

[freezetheDB]

it is programmed into our DNA.

when we are young all we think of is spreading our seeds around
then we grow up and want to settle down. By settling down it means not just to spread the seed but also protect and nurture the seed, hence the need to work harder to provide and secure the family.

Just program codes has ensured the survival of the human race.

[muscleboi]

Originally Posted by freezetheDB

it is programmed into our DNA.

when we are young all we think of is spreading our seeds around
then we grow up and want to settle down. By settling down it means not just to spread the seed but also protect and nurture the seed, hence the need to work harder to provide and secure the family.

Just program codes has ensured the survival of the human race.

That kind of confuses me. To protect and nurture the seed, we shouldn't eat outside food..right? risking to get a divorce is not considered wanting to protect and nurture the seed..imo

[queeniegal]

Nice thread haha.. I can't really ans cause I'm nt married!

[muscleboi]

Originally Posted by queeniegal

Nice thread haha.. I can't really ans cause I'm nt married!

no prob sis. take a look at all the couples around us and I feel whatever we see more than meets the eye. maybe I watch too much jav haha..

[queeniegal]

Originally Posted by muscleboi

no prob sis. take a look at all the couples around us and I feel whatever we see more than meets the eye. maybe I watch too much jav haha..

Hmmmm I have more guy friends then lady friends. But usually I am also their wife and gf best friends so far they seem good and loving.

But one thing I feel for sure those with high profile r much more complicated then those who are just average earner.

So far from what I see lo

[muscleboi]

perhaps to make it clearer, I don't advocate marriage neither did I say visiting pro is not right (since you found me here. hahah)

some loose thoughts..

I am jus thinking if the world will be better if we call gov our father and mother instead and not have what we called marriage and family.

and without a sense of love for the opposite gender (other than for the sole purpose of pro-creation), there will never be a concept called betrayal.

come to think of it...hmmm
if males can fight among one another for the chance to mate with the female they both like. in that way, human race will surely survive and be stronger. since the chemical in our body (scientifically proven) make us bond together as couple (with jus enough time. there're exceptions though.) so we can take care of our offsprings in their early years and then grow distant from each other so we can meet others and mate again, we're in fact jus like animals..

[Darkrise]

Actually, nowadays it is getting more and more common for a person, regardless of guy or gal, to eat outside liao. You need to look at different angle to understand this.

I have known gals who were with a guy or married a guy not because she loves him, but because he is a nice guy with a stable income who is unlikely to eat outside. For gals, a stable port of call is very important mah. But the guy is so stable that he is sibei boring and cannot make it when it comes to sex. So how? Eat outside loh, but eat outside must remember to wipe mouth clean clean lah. I have heard guys bringing gals to his home for ECA thinking his wife not at home, knn happen wife come home that day and break lobang.

[muscleboi]

Originally Posted by Darkrise

Actually, nowadays it is getting more and more common for a person, regardless of guy or gal, to eat outside liao. You need to look at different angle to understand this.

I have known gals who were with a guy or married a guy not because she loves him, but because he is a nice guy with a stable income who is unlikely to eat outside. For gals, a stable port of call is very important mah. But the guy is so stable that he is sibei boring and cannot make it when it comes to sex. So how? Eat outside loh, but eat outside must remember to wipe mouth clean clean lah. I have heard guys bringing gals to his home for ECA thinking his wife not at home, knn happen wife come home that day and break lobang.

so if both husband and wife also eat outside, then there's no faithfulness to begin with. isn't it much more dangerous having sex with our own spouse? because we have the mentality cos she's "safe" so raw nevermind. at least with FL/WL, the danger signs are clear obvious enough to put on protection.

[queeniegal]

Originally Posted by muscleboi

perhaps to make it clearer, I don't advocate marriage neither did I say visiting pro is not right (since you found me here. hahah)

some loose thoughts..

I am jus thinking if the world will be better if we call gov our father and mother instead and not have what we called marriage and family.

and without a sense of love for the opposite gender (other than for the sole purpose of pro-creation), there will never be a concept called betrayal.

come to think of it...hmmm
if males can fight among one another for the chance to mate with the female they both like. in that way, human race will surely survive and be stronger. since the chemical in our body (scientifically proven) make us bond together as couple (with jus enough time. there're exceptions though.) so we can take care of our offsprings in their early years and then grow distant from each other so we can meet others and mate again, we're in fact jus like animals..

Ha as the pm I promise to reply u.
Our Mother Nature create woman and man.. For them to get together and create new human being, raising them, going thru emotional, love, hate, tears.

We are born, we forge our life we aged and we die is a life cycle is the same as animal but only diff we conquer the world of animal. As a human being we are the ruler of animal. We can easily kill ants, lizard. (Etc) but human wont be kill easily. We are given a life that we can forge our own life.

Just like a game, you play. Getting married is just another level in life.
Getting married does not mean just sex. Everyone need a partner in their life. Someone who is there to talk with, share your joys and tears.

Sex it could be a test for both person being together whether they are able to compromises each other needs or one don't give in they will go for other alternative?

In olden days, those hunter why they can go into forest to hunt for food for days and weeks because they got a wife at home. He know once he hunt something he can feed his wife and his wife will pleasure him with his needs...just like a man slogging hard to bring bacon home, wife will be taking care of kids and at night pleasure the husband.

To me at least, woman nowadays have forgot they are being woman, they got to have the feminine side to keep their man..

Or too much temptation that result guy and man eating out.
That lead to all the commercial activities growing so well.

However, is fine nt to get married but still everyone need someone in their life. One person is too lonely.

Hope u find that someone (:

Oh dear I'm sleepy.. Hope nt many typo

[Iluminati]

Well said Sis Queenie!
Indeed well said! *APPLAUSE*

[queeniegal]

Originally Posted by Iluminati

Well said Sis Queenie!
Indeed well said! *APPLAUSE*

Did I owe u a reply? I remember I owe someone... Can't deal need to slp after my exam then can come back here if not sure fail haha

I just speak out if my thought (:

[HCKing]

family makes one feels that he's not alone in this cold, hard world.

friends, girlfriends, flings, FB are fun to be with but all come and go easily. rem if u want someone to commit themselves to u totally and love u totally u also have to commit the same likewise.

[queeniegal]

Originally Posted by HCKing

family makes one feels that he's not alone in this cold, hard world.

friends, girlfriends, flings, FB are fun to be with but all come and go easily. rem if u want someone to commit themselves to u totally and love u totally u also have to commit the same likewise.

Yeah! Right!

[muscleboi]

sis queenie, i think i got some of your points.

family is there so that we will not be lonely, regardless if sex is in the picture or not. yes?