choices

aakumu · #1 30-12-2013, 07:18 PM

Hi bro,
sorry for my bad English...

I started this thread to write down something I have heard from a fellow I have met...
He said, the way girls choose men, is similar to how we choose religions.....
We choose a religion than we find out things to validate it....
It would quite hard to force someone to choose a religion that he or she does not wants....(for me any way)...don't know about anyone else...
When it comes to choosing girls, I should find girls that are in to me in the first place, not the other way around....if you choose a girl that you are interested, but she is not into you; you might not by able to get her, if and when you do...there is a high probability that she leave you or cheat on you when the guy she fancy comes around....

For example, if I am needing a job, and someone offered me a job, I would take; even though if might not be the job I desire, but when a job that I desire come a long....How many people would seriously not give it a thought???

Lets be real here, people are people, we will always go for what we want, we will settle for now, but when the time comes, I will bet on human nature....
It sucks, but sometimes we do not get the jobs we wants, or the other around....We might not get that one employee we want; even though there 1000 others that wants the job you offered.
Not matter how much money we throw at them....some people just have other requirements....that might not have....
End of part 1

My humble two cents.

aakumu · #2 05-01-2014, 02:10 PM

Hi bro,
I would say that I am not very worldly about women, and being older now, money doesn't work as well as before....I come to realize that I must be the best that I could be; as the girls will always choose the men based on their liking....
Having said that....I am sure to get flack for it....guys with money will say " SO WHAT.....I HAVE MONEY"
But to be honest.....I not poor neither, but this holiday session while I am abroad on holiday, and I have found some of the "game" that I have lost.....
I have found that when I used money, there will alway be bros out there that would much more willing to spend 2X......3X......5X the market rate to get the girls they are after....
Not to say that they are spoiling or not spoiling the market....but if the girls like you, money becomes a smaller issue....for some cases no issue at all.
But if your money is average, then someone that throw money at them, that will make your "game" much harder.
But from my personal outing, I have found that even though my money was the largest, the girls would let me know that it is because of the money, not because of my charm......hahahaha.....
Is a kick to my fragile ego, if I have any ego left.....hahahaha.....knowing oneself and improving is my only way I will go....to get back my "game".
My personal opinion....

My humnle two cents.

youngheart69 · #3 12-01-2014, 07:01 AM

bro aakumu, after reading your loong writing. what actually you want to tell us?

jazp · #4 12-01-2014, 10:24 AM

Since there is someone out there with a bigger bait, then move on to another pool, bro. The ocean is large. You can choose to fish somewhere else you think your bait will look more yummy to the fishes..

Risis · #5 12-01-2014, 12:23 PM

Well lets see in short you are telling us that we could mathematically express your life into a trend line where X is the start meaning in this case when you start dating and Y being the Money curve, you tend to find that where X = 16 and Y is low as youth is compensation factor variable. Where X = 40, Y= increase vector is exponential. Where Range of X = 40 - 60, Y Delta is irrelevant and past a certain X variable where X = your current situation, Y is infinity.

Conclusion: There comes a point in your life where you grow up and stop trying to feel young, or try and recreate a new delta based on infinitumus

Risis · #6 12-01-2014, 12:25 PM

Oh wait then you did say you could go somewhere where the Y affordability is better due to exchange rate parity and the lower GDP variable now coming into play where you could theoretically try and feel young again... hmmm case of another discussion with Purchasing power parity ......

aakumu · #7 12-01-2014, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Risis

Well lets see in short you are telling us that we could mathematically express your life into a trend line where X is the start meaning in this case when you start dating and Y being the Money curve, you tend to find that where X = 16 and Y is low as youth is compensation factor variable. Where X = 40, Y= increase vector is exponential. Where Range of X = 40 - 60, Y Delta is irrelevant and past a certain X variable where X = your current situation, Y is infinity.

Conclusion: There comes a point in your life where you grow up and stop trying to feel young, or try and recreate a new delta based on infinitumus

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Originally Posted by Risis

Oh wait then you did say you could go somewhere where the Y affordability is better due to exchange rate parity and the lower GDP variable now coming into play where you could theoretically try and feel young again... hmmm case of another discussion with Purchasing power parity ......

Hi bro,
Thank you for you interesting comments...
Do understand a bit about what you are saying, but what I was writing about is how I realize that how much harder to work on our "game" when we get older....compare to the younger guys...

My humble two cents.

Risis · #8 12-01-2014, 05:25 PM

haha i was just being funny, but seriously dude - why does it bother you so much that your Game is lesser than younger guys man? Age comes with it whole new possibilities, new pools and new experiences. If you ain't poor like you said, there are better things to do than sitting in a KTV pub or go whoring places and try and get girl's to like you man.

I would fucking go explore the world, buy myself a carbon bike, trek, sit in a cafe in Paris, sip wine in St Emillion Bordeaux, have a nice lakeside breakfast at the Chateaunaux and the list goes on.

And trust me, many girls would love to jump in your pants if you are doing all of that with them

aakumu · #9 01-02-2014, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Risis

haha i was just being funny, but seriously dude - why does it bother you so much that your Game is lesser than younger guys man? Age comes with it whole new possibilities, new pools and new experiences. If you ain't poor like you said, there are better things to do than sitting in a KTV pub or go whoring places and try and get girl's to like you man.

I would fucking go explore the world, buy myself a carbon bike, trek, sit in a cafe in Paris, sip wine in St Emillion Bordeaux, have a nice lakeside breakfast at the Chateaunaux and the list goes on.

And trust me, many girls would love to jump in your pants if you are doing all of that with them

Hi bro,
What you have said is very true...
But as we get older, do we really have settle on our money as our main source of "Game"....if that was true; it would be very sad....
I would used is a last resorts if all else fails....
I am working very hard to loss weight and gaining back my figure.....
Getting back my "Game" or learning new ways is my other focus....

my humble two cents.

Risis · #10 04-02-2014, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by aakumu

Hi bro,
What you have said is very true...
But as we get older, do we really have settle on our money as our main source of "Game"....if that was true; it would be very sad....
I would used is a last resorts if all else fails....
I am working very hard to loss weight and gaining back my figure.....
Getting back my "Game" or learning new ways is my other focus....

my humble two cents.

Well i am not sure of your age. But I think it's all in the mind. I am no longer in my 20's but I have no lack of women despite the fact that I do not try very hard to impress anyone. I guess it's all about being yourself. It's just what I feel tho dun take my word for it!

aakumu · #11 05-02-2014, 01:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Risis

Well i am not sure of your age. But I think it's all in the mind. I am no longer in my 20's but I have no lack of women despite the fact that I do not try very hard to impress anyone. I guess it's all about being yourself. It's just what I feel tho dun take my word for it!

Hi bro,
Do you feel that you have to spend...... more money compare to when you were younger?

My humble two cents.

2222 · #12 05-02-2014, 01:04 PM

I agree with bro aakumu. What he's saying is so true.
In the end it's not about the money... There will always be someone who can throw more then you. (If that is wat he's saying. Lol)
Even if you "buy" your girl and marry her, she will never truly be yours.

I think the only thing a guy really can do, If he's really looking for a real relationship. Is to give the best of himself to this world and take whatever it gives back to him.

A lot of guys out there really don't have much to offer their girlfriends in my humble opinion(no offense meant). But it's how they portray themselves and their attitude towards life that gets them wat they want. And sometimes there's Luck...right place right time.

Risis · #13 05-02-2014, 07:16 PM

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Originally Posted by aakumu

Hi bro,
Do you feel that you have to spend...... more money compare to when you were younger?

My humble two cents.

Absolutely. As we age, we enter the workforce and our disposable income rises. Our taste for the finer things in life makes me spend more. And why should I not? After all I earned it. So hence, it's not about having to spend more to attract the opposite sex. I spend as I see fit and live a lifestyle i like. And hence some get attracted to you but so what?

aakumu · #14 05-02-2014, 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Risis

Absolutely. As we age, we enter the workforce and our disposable income rises. Our taste for the finer things in life makes me spend more. And why should I not? After all I earned it. So hence, it's not about having to spend more to attract the opposite sex. I spend as I see fit and live a lifestyle i like. And hence some get attracted to you but so what?

Hi bro,
Totally agree with your point of view, as long as you are in control, more power to you.....

The worse thing is to have girls makes us uncontrollable with ourselves and we resort to spending money getting girls to like us....
My humble two cents.

aakumu · #15 05-02-2014, 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by 2222

I agree with bro aakumu. What he's saying is so true.
In the end it's not about the money... There will always be someone who can throw more then you. (If that is wat he's saying. Lol)
Even if you "buy" your girl and marry her, she will never truly be yours.

I think the only thing a guy really can do, If he's really looking for a real relationship. Is to give the best of himself to this world and take whatever it gives back to him.

A lot of guys out there really don't have much to offer their girlfriends in my humble opinion(no offense meant). But it's how they portray themselves and their attitude towards life that gets them wat they want. And sometimes there's Luck...right place right time.

Hi bro,
I see your point, but luck is something that I would like to have by my side, but I cannot bet on it.

My humble two cents.