Retiring from being a Cheongster

[Cat Man]

So many threads now about brudders wanting to settle down with tiraks, whether WL or non-WL. But nobody discussed the flip side of the coin -- you want to settle down, can you retire from being a cheongster?

This is especially important in relationships with WL. They got to know you because you were their customer. They will not trust you when you settle down because they know you are a cheongster.

So how can you assure her that you have quit? How do you stop yourself?

For me, I already 发毒誓 to my wife, but everytime I go and read the FR threads, very gian leh , so have to quickly switch to non-FR before the itch gets the better of me.

Any retired cheongster brudders, or want-to-retire brudders care to share their experience?

[siamcutey]

Originally Posted by Cat Man

So many threads now about brudders wanting to settle down with tiraks, whether WL or non-WL. But nobody discussed the flip side of the coin -- you want to settle down, can you retire from being a cheongster?

This is especially important in relationships with WL. They got to know you because you were their customer. They will not trust you when you settle down because they know you are a cheongster.

So how can you assure her that you have quit? How do you stop yourself?

For me, I already 发毒誓 to my wife, but everytime I go and read the FR threads, very gian leh , so have to quickly switch to non-FR before the itch gets the better of me.

Any retired cheongster brudders, or want-to-retire brudders care to share their experience?

Every night and every morning GIVE her

hahaha
SC

[oakleyeug]

Try my kind of way hope that you can use it, I tried until today I do not have a craving.

1) Cheong almost everyday
2) Cheong until u cannot tahan

Until today trust me (I in China) I never tounch a single women for the last 8 months or so, the reasons are simple cause u sian already.

When I first started in China women are crowding all over me but after 4 to 5 months I so sian until I don wanna touch or feel any forgein object anymore, alot of beautiful ladies but just don get that kind of feeling.

For all information I am a sex hungry man but just like the feeling of doing it with my love ones.

Oak

[Cat Man]

Originally Posted by oakleyeug

Try my kind of way hope that you can use it, I tried until today I do not have a craving.

1) Cheong almost everyday
2) Cheong until u cannot tahan

Until today trust me (I in China) I never tounch a single women for the last 8 months or so, the reasons are simple cause u sian already.

When I first started in China women are crowding all over me but after 4 to 5 months I so sian until I don wanna touch or feel any forgein object anymore, alot of beautiful ladies but just don get that kind of feeling.

For all information I am a sex hungry man but just like the feeling of doing it with my love ones.

Oak

Tried this method before. Even have a few gals each day.

This can work for a while, the sian feeling can last even a few years, but after some time, the itch comes back

Only blood oath and true love for my wife hold me back.

[siamcutey]

If u truly love the girl 100% then u will not fcuk another girl behind her back.

No need blood oath or swear to God.

It's all in the mind

SC

[Cat Man]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

If u truly love the girl 100% then u will not fcuk another girl behind her back.

No need blood oath or swear to God.

It's all in the mind

SC

Not true leh. I have known so many brudders who love their gf/wife/family 100%, but still fcuk behind their gf/wife back, becoz fcuk is fcuk and love is love

[Siong2]

Originally Posted by Cat Man

Not true leh. I have known so many brudders who love their gf/wife/family 100%, but still fcuk behind their gf/wife back, becoz fcuk is fcuk and love is love

Ya, they dun quit, they cut down....
But end of every cheong session, they will remember to go home.
That's the right way of life. heehee

[siamcutey]

Originally Posted by Cat Man

Not true leh. I have known so many brudders who love their gf/wife/family 100%, but still fcuk behind their gf/wife back, becoz fcuk is fcuk and love is love

100% is what they say mah, but the heart maybe only 99 to 90%?

There are people in this world who really quit commercial sex or even any form of affairs after marrying the one they love lor.

It's really all in the mind.

SC

[unicornboy]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

There are people in this world who really quit commercial sex or even any form of affairs after marrying the one they love lor.

It's really all in the mind. SC

Agreed with bro cat man and siong2. They may quit commercial sex just to marry the one they love. But what happen few years after their marriage is anybody guess. Love is what the mouth said. But dick may not agree when later on the love may fade away......Till Death Do Us Path??

[free]

Originally Posted by Cat Man

So many threads now about brudders wanting to settle down with tiraks, whether WL or non-WL. But nobody discussed the flip side of the coin -- you want to settle down, can you retire from being a cheongster?

This is especially important in relationships with WL. They got to know you because you were their customer. They will not trust you when you settle down because they know you are a cheongster.

So how can you assure her that you have quit? How do you stop yourself?

For me, I already 发毒誓 to my wife, but everytime I go and read the FR threads, very gian leh , so have to quickly switch to non-FR before the itch gets the better of me.

Any retired cheongster brudders, or want-to-retire brudders care to share their experience?

tell myself this:

1. I won't be at peace within myself after cheonging, knowing I broke a convenant to be faitthful to each other
2. If I really love her, I also must control myself even as I expect her to do the same
3. Knowing the past, the last thing I want to do is to fail her & betray her trust in me.
4. Can't imagine doing it with another I dun love now
5. Rather her than anyone else.

Really tough at first but it does get easier as time goes by. Finally have reached the stage where I can happily walk thru GL and ignore all the FL's calls or go sit in a Cat40 hse to wait for bros to do what they had to do. All the beckonings from the pooyings have no more effect. Just think of her can liao.

[Cat Man]

Originally Posted by free

Really tough at first but it does get easier as time goes by. Finally have reached the stage where I can happily walk thru GL and ignore all the FL's calls or go sit in a Cat40 hse to wait for bros to do what they had to do. All the beckonings from the pooyings have no more effect. Just think of her can liao.

But when more time goes by, and more, and more, do u think it gets easier or tougher? How can you be sure in 5 yrs time? 10 yrs?

[free]

Originally Posted by Cat Man

But when more time goes by, and more, and more, do u think it gets easier or tougher? How can you be sure in 5 yrs time? 10 yrs?

I dun know, maybe cos I am intrinsically a "1-woman" man? My past experience exceeded 10 years and if she had treated me anywhere near half of what I have now, I know it would be still going strong. Again what I said works for me, maybe not for others.

[Cat Man]

Originally Posted by free

I dun know, maybe cos I am intrinsically a "1-woman" man? My past experience exceeded 10 years and if she had treated me anywhere near half of what I have now, I know it would be still going strong. Again what I said works for me, maybe not for others.

"1-woman" man means you only love her, rite? But I have seen so many "1-woman" men, who will never think of leaving their "1-woman" for any other, and really love their "1-woman", but because they have been cheongster so long, they cannot quit cheonging. Like I said before, to these guys, love is love and fcuking is fcuking. Call them hypocrites if you will, but in their hearts, they really love their "1-woman"!! sometimes their "1-woman" even understand their "addiction" and forgive them for cheonging!!

So u mean in yr 10 years past marriage u never cheong at all?

[thaivisitor]

After married, every week at least two or 3 nights, start going to church with wife lor.....

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Cat Man

This is especially important in relationships with WL. They got to know you because you were their customer. They will not trust you when you settle down because they know you are a cheongster.

They dun trust u, but u will also have doubt in them. Cos they r WL b4....since dun trust each other, then dun settle down till the trust thing is resolved.

Originally Posted by Cat Man

So how can you assure her that you have quit? How do you stop yourself?

How she assure u then??

Originally Posted by Cat Man

For me, I already 发毒誓 to my wife, but everytime I go and read the FR threads, very gian leh , so have to quickly switch to non-FR before the itch gets the better of me.

Dun stop loh, y stop?? If want to stop then stop all these activities like going HC, KTV... then when itchy, bonk your wife or download AV to pcc.