niu year, new friends, new relationships, new life

[yangyang77]

Dear samsters,

2016 will be a niu ear and i would like everyone to forgo the bad pasts and move on to the future.

Same as everyone of you, everyone including me have had went through a bad relationship or bad past before.

I would like to share a short description of what happened to my previous r/s.

We were together for almost 3 years and things went bad when my she realized that I've been financially and morally supporting her family.
I know some of you might think WTF this TS bullshit or what.

But wait for it,

It happened when she told me not to, but i insisted and chose to help.

So in the end, it didnt end up quite well after she realized it. im being described as a jerk for disobeying her (LOL?) and to screw up her family. because the amount could not be paid back but instead adding onto the debts.

and well, it ended off by me being the 'jerk' but she being the nice person.

I dunno how this conclusion came about (by her), but the r/s ended kindah un-peacefully. and i hope samsters here, male or female (female better as i hope to unstand from their perspective) could ENLIGHTEN me that i m in the wrong.

i hope to learn from my mistakes because everyone makes mistakes and i hope,

2016 will be a better year for all of you!

*Forgo the past, Shape your future.*

[Maxbonker]

there's no right or wrong

only what u feel

[orangeproud]

Originally Posted by yangyang77

Dear samsters,

2016 will be a niu ear and i would like everyone to forgo the bad pasts and move on to the future.

Same as everyone of you, everyone including me have had went through a bad relationship or bad past before.

I would like to share a short description of what happened to my previous r/s.

We were together for almost 3 years and things went bad when my she realized that I've been financially and morally supporting her family.
I know some of you might think WTF this TS bullshit or what.

But wait for it,

It happened when she told me not to, but i insisted and chose to help.

So in the end, it didnt end up quite well after she realized it. im being described as a jerk for disobeying her (LOL?) and to screw up her family. because the amount could not be paid back but instead adding onto the debts.

and well, it ended off by me being the 'jerk' but she being the nice person.

I dunno how this conclusion came about (by her), but the r/s ended kindah un-peacefully. and i hope samsters here, male or female (female better as i hope to unstand from their perspective) could ENLIGHTEN me that i m in the wrong.

i hope to learn from my mistakes because everyone makes mistakes and i hope,

2016 will be a better year for all of you!

*Forgo the past, Shape your future.*

Hi, trying to figure out wat u trying to say, u said tat u hv been financially support ur ex gf family but the amount u support them cannot b paid bk but added onto the debt, I think u means u r trying to help her family member who is a gambler in her house to clear his gambling debt?? Is my guessing correct? If im wrong, pls correct. If someone who is chronically sick & urgently need money for treatment, ur financial support surely help her & change the life of others. But if to help those gambler, then strongly discourage u to do so as bad habit die hard, the more help him to clear his debts, the more he will continue to gamble as he knw there's always someone out there who will clear his shit.......a leopard can't change its spots.

Since u mentioned is previous r/s means u two hv broken up, then dun dwell on it anymore, let it past, treat it as one of the experience. New year, new hope, may year 2016 is a good start for u & everyone.

[arsenal_84]

well sometimes ladies just want their problems heard (listening ear) and not solved...
while men always think in their school of thought that any issues should be solve.
learn to take a step back, if she wanted your help she will say up front else sometimes hear no evil would be better.