An affair with an ex-colleague (im married)

[lustandfast]

Hi all, just wanted to share my experience and get some advice from fellow bros/ sis who have been in my shoes before.

I’m married with a kid and my affair knew it. We lasted for 3 years before she decided to break up with me as she dont wanna destroy my family. Things started going bad when my kid was born last yr and i dont have time for her. Before my kid was born, we were still happy, going out during office hours and making out. The affair was the best sex ever. We took pics and vids of our fun times. When she gave me the cold shoulder last dec, i was abit devastated. I threatened her with alot of funny stuffs. I knew i was wrong coz i was lost.

We are still in contact on and off but we no longer follow each other on ig. As much as i dont want her to have a partner, i cant be with her and she needs love.

Have anyone encountered this before?

[godslayer007]

Hey bro, I had an affair with another married colleague too. we both knew it was just for the sex and we have our own families to return to.

I was sad when it ended but the feeling towards her just subsided over time. You'll get over it. Just accept it like a gentleman and move on, harping on it will do no one any good.

[lustandfast]

Originally Posted by godslayer007

Hey bro, I had an affair with another married colleague too. we both knew it was just for the sex and we have our own families to return to.

I was sad when it ended but the feeling towards her just subsided over time. You'll get over it. Just accept it like a gentleman and move on, harping on it will do no one any good.

I told her that she’s single and all during the period when i had no time for her and shes free to do what she wants, and now im trying hard to focus. True that it will subside after awhile but it sucks. Thanks anw bro

[blastit]

Originally Posted by lustandfast

I told her that she’s single and all during the period when i had no time for her and shes free to do what she wants, and now im trying hard to focus. True that it will subside after awhile but it sucks. Thanks anw bro

I had an affair too but we knew we were just in it for the sex.
We both had our partners and when she left, it was still ok

[nuclearkid]

You probably have more to lose if this affair comes into the open. Walk away while you still can. Be graceful, who knows what can happen in future. Don't burn the bridges.

[junior_cannibal]

Not everyone can handle an affair. What started as lust might evolve and become feeling. Though this feeling is not likely to be love, it's worst as it's more like obsession that you try to possess each other.
As the old saying, don't play with fire when you can't afford to be burnt.

[Capricorn69]

In affair if you don't regularly fuck then it's the end. If you want to continue, then make time to fuck her

[lustandfast]

Tks all. While i always believe it takes two hands to clap, im trying to get over this. Tho its hard to be friends again, it takes time to heal. It is not the right thing to do but it started off as feelings instead of lust. But now it is abit more of a habitual lust than strong feelings.

Shall stick to being a gentleman and not get sour over this.

[dgsk]

I felt the same way when my 1st FWB ended it. But subsequently I always wish them well when it ends and be grateful for the experience. I have also learnt to continue to be friends without the benefits.

[lustandfast]

Its like i want to be friends, but its always me doing the texting. So what if she has a bf already? What would y’all do? Continue to text her?

[waaaaaa]

Hard to swallow. But be thankful it’s she calling it quit. Often it’s messy if he wish to end. She are emo animals

[waaaaaa]

Originally Posted by lustandfast

Its like i want to be friends, but its always me doing the texting. So what if she has a bf already? What would y’all do? Continue to text her?

Let it go. I feel when a gal call it quit. Usually they quite determined.

[toyotarush]

Originally Posted by lustandfast

Its like i want to be friends, but its always me doing the texting. So what if she has a bf already? What would y’all do? Continue to text her?

Bro. Forget it and move on to another target.

[TequilaSunrise]

Originally Posted by waaaaaa

Hard to swallow. But be thankful it’s she calling it quit. Often it’s messy if he wish to end. She are emo animals

Was thinking the same thing as well

[lustandfast]

Really appreciate all ur advice.