7 year itch

[maxboy89]

Really have 7 year itch? this year me and wife 7 years married. sex is becoming routine, everytime just 1 position finish. Not that I want to cheat but miss the sexcitement before marriage

[lustygrandmas]

If sex is still on the table, you should be fine right? You might wanna look up for more interesting ways to spice up your sex life. I’ve seen multiple articles on this actually.Toys/positions/kinks etc... communication is key. Perhaps your wife might be feeling the same way and she’s just waiting for you to bring it up.

If anything, it shows you’re still attracted to her I guess?

[larue]

True, sexcitement also up to you to build. Won’t magically appear. Or reappear in this case.

Unless you’re really just looking for an excuse to eat out. But don’t try and justify it, it really isn’t necessary.

[Pictionary]

Originally Posted by larue

True, sexcitement also up to you to build. Won’t magically appear. Or reappear in this case.

Unless you’re really just looking for an excuse to eat out. But don’t try and justify it, it really isn’t necessary.

U are a woman and you are very outspoken. Why dun u write openly elsewhere?

[maxboy89]

my wife self admits she has low sex drive. and she usually only ok with the standard missionary position. other positions says painful or not comfortable. As a guy i also want to be gentleman in bed.

[larue]

Is she aware of how frustrating her low sex drive is for you? The best outcome might be you all find a way to boost it?

Maybe you should be less of a gentleman in bed?

Maybe you all will come to some agreement as to how you can fulfil your needs elsewhere?

Or just keep it simple and do what many guys do which is to keep the domestic peace but just eat out carefully. Seems to preserve the sanity of many guys.

[larue]

Originally Posted by Pictionary

U are a woman and you are very outspoken. Why dun u write openly elsewhere?

Never realised I have a fan club. A club of one and a complete psycho, but still fan, so never mind.

[Sodalime]

Common problem for many folks. Sigh.

[Pictionary]

Originally Posted by larue

Never realised I have a fan club. A club of one and a complete psycho, but still fan, so never mind.

You talk too much. Better for you to stop your writing further.

Go and sleep naive little girl. You want to wear a cone-shaped bra for further protection or not? You can wear whatever you want, nobody cares.

[fallen11]

Originally Posted by maxboy89

Really have 7 year itch? this year me and wife 7 years married. sex is becoming routine, everytime just 1 position finish. Not that I want to cheat but miss the sexcitement before marriage

my best friend secretly bought spanish fly and put in the wife's drink before bed and sex. works wonders.
after some time he revealed the secret to her. Now wife very cooperative. Will ask him for some of the potion when they planning to have sex.

[johnlo]

explore different position, made your bed time more interesting

[Johndick]

Originally Posted by larue

Is she aware of how frustrating her low sex drive is for you? The best outcome might be you all find a way to boost it?

Maybe you should be less of a gentleman in bed?

Maybe you all will come to some agreement as to how you can fulfil your needs elsewhere?

Or just keep it simple and do what many guys do which is to keep the domestic peace but just eat out carefully. Seems to preserve the sanity of many guys.

Hmm.Just a passer-by and for the record yah I do eat out, else won't be in this forum.

Kinda sense some angst in your comments or perhaps you are more of a straight talker, which could benefit some readers of this thread.

But valid points you made. More often than not couples don't communicate their xxx frustration openly, be it shy, scared to hurt the partner feelings or as you have rightly pointed out, seeking an excuse to eat out.

My take is this, if the xxx doesn't wow since beginning,it is very unlikely to be spicy later on unless one/both parties suddenly change of personality. If a guy/ gal dun wish to cheat, then just live with the mundane xxx and find ways to satisfy own needs through porn (more for males) and juicy novels (ladies loves it). But if even self pleasuring feels like cheating to the person then one just have to tell himself/herself that xxx will just be a "duty" from now on, and focus on the partner's non xxx related positive traits to keep the marriage strong.

For me, haven't touch my partner for a decade. Still together, we just focus on other aspects of the relationship. Not gonna pin any blame on anyone but xxx with her is just not arousing since beginning. Tried to improve but sometimes things are just as it is. Instead of going through the motion and becoming a chore, I just stopped and told her xxx is nolonger something I feel I want to carry on in the relationship. After much debate, she accepted and to be honest, it is much better since then, as I no longer have to fake it, feeling bad in the process, which totally defeat the purpose of having xxx.

Eating out has shown me a different xxx world, and I don't mean just transactional type. Have my share of great xxx long relationship with married ladies, whom too, have dissatisfied xxx life at home. My best xxx experience are with them. For paid xxx there are very good ones too but end of the day gotta remember is just a transaction to meet a moment of need. Nothing more.

So yah, for me peace is maintained at home due to my eat out and self pleasuring, when xxx are met, less friction/ frustration. Is it right? Well, we choose our own paths and be our own judge. Apologies for the long post, as said, happened to passby and got intrigued.

Lastly, readers here should take heed of your golden advice. That too gentlemen in bed is boring as hell and one key reason married ladies seek to be pleased by other man. If I may add, most importantly is to put the xxx focus on pleasuring the ladies first and foremost. Too often men are overly fixated on own needs and not realising that gals needs to be warmed up and feel desired. Practice this and most of the time, she will reward you handsomely. Pity it didn't work on my own legal partner, hope other guys have better luck.

[1KnightinBKK]

Originally Posted by Pictionary

U are a woman and you are very outspoken. Why dun u write openly elsewhere?

larue is not a woman

[larue]

Originally Posted by 1KnightinBKK

larue is not a woman

Indeed I’m not. Only that psycho stalker of mine assumes so.

[badboynani17]

Originally Posted by fallen11

my best friend secretly bought spanish fly and put in the wife's drink before bed and sex. works wonders.
after some time he revealed the secret to her. Now wife very cooperative. Will ask him for some of the potion when they planning to have sex.

Sorry brudder, ask a noob question: is Spanish fly legal? I mean some people can misuse it...