divorced women/widow will be alone - Page 10

zan888 · #**136** 05-11-2014, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Edyta

I agree marriage is to legitimise the kids.

In the past the rich man has wives and mistress. Often the man doesn't have a will cos superstitious ,so being legitimate counts a lot as only legitimate children will inherit the father's wealth. In this day and age there is little meaning to legitimacy as the WC states that the parents are required to support their children legitimate or otherwise.

Edyta · #**137** 05-11-2014, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by july3rd

Oh dear! here so negative!

Just to share with you all, I know a guy he now in his early 50s. Just re-married 4 years, his wife is late 30s they have a little boy age 3 years old.

His elder son is 22 or 23, youngest daughter is around 15 or 16

When is meant to be it will be. Don't be too upset! I'm sure not all girls are selfish! Good luck!

Have a baby in his 50s? Wow thts brave.

Edyta · #**138** 05-11-2014, 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by zan888

In the past the rich man has wives and mistress. Often the man doesn't have a will cos superstitious ,so being legitimate counts a lot as only legitimate children will inherit the father's wealth. In this day and age there is little meaning to legitimacy as the WC states that the parents are required to support their children legitimate or otherwise.

Our law still distinguish between legitimate n illegitimate child. I think its fair to give a proper family unit when having a kid. Jmo

zan888 · #**139** 05-11-2014, 04:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Edyta

Our law still distinguish between legitimate n illegitimate child. I think its fair to give a proper family unit when having a kid. Jmo

It does but a man can still will his property to illegitimate children. Anyway I don't think there is a stigma as in people will discrimate children saying this child is illegitimate? Well I guess relatives will gossip but it is so common nowadays to see single parent family that people don't really care.

sg571958 · #**140** 06-11-2014, 08:01 AM

Bro, I'm okay with having a GF or whatever.....but I doubt girls are looking for a GF status....so far most are looking at getting marry, even for divorcee. I agree I would prefer a life time close GF partner -(do not need to wife status & I'm sure im more than capable both financially and from integrity stand-point).

Anyway, it is what it is after all these years, I have more or less given up.

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Originally Posted by zan888

You can find a divorcee with a kid or kids?

It surprises me after had a bad marriage breakup, people are still willing to take the plunge again! Why not have a gf? Must marry meh? Think signing some certificate is going to bind her for life? Getting married is just to legitimize the children you have together but since she will be 40+ children is unlikely. Do you think a step mum is the best thing for your kids? Few can subsitute real mother's love. If can find an Angel, then you are lucky but I think marrying someone to give your kids a mom is not necessary. I was raised by a single parent and as far as I can know, I am normal and not dysfunctional...hopefully lol

sunhuan-con · #**141** 06-11-2014, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by sg571958

Bro, I'm okay with having a GF or whatever.....but I doubt girls are looking for a GF status....so far most are looking at getting marry, even for divorcee. I agree I would prefer a life time close GF partner -(do not need to wife status & I'm sure im more than capable both financially and from integrity stand-point).

Anyway, it is what it is after all these years, I have more or less given up.

True 90 % of girls wanna get marry and have status. Those tell u they dont mind be a gf of lifetime are bullshit. Even mistresses also hopes to have status too.

maxsee · #**142** 06-11-2014, 12:49 PM

Girls will only not mind maintaining a GF status if your pockets are deep enough.....Otherwise, there is no reason for them not to seek the marriage status...Since there is simply no security with a person who has shallow pockets...

HonkyTonkyMan · #**143** 06-11-2014, 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by sunhuan-con

True 90 % of girls wanna get marry and have status. Those tell u they dont mind be a gf of lifetime are bullshit. Even mistresses also hopes to have status too.

yup that very true, beginning they can tell you all sort of crap how they don't mind playing second fiddle and all they want is your love blah blah blah...after a while they start complaining why cannot spend special ocassion with you, why have to always be discreet going out, why cannot hold hands...than the end is when they start pressuring you for status....

Edyta · #**144** 06-11-2014, 09:34 PM

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Originally Posted by HonkyTonkyMan

yup that very true, beginning they can tell you all sort of crap how they don't mind playing second fiddle and all they want is your love blah blah blah...after a while they start complaining why cannot spend special ocassion with you, why have to always be discreet going out, why cannot hold hands...than the end is when they start pressuring you for status....

Wanting security is a very natural thing to women
And also social pressure for her to "conclude her status"

worker · #**145** 07-11-2014, 12:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Edyta

Yup! U nailed the real issue.
The woman can be very attractive, nice personality and financially capable but with her divorced status and kids she is doom. She will still get plenty of attention with men wanting just sex from her. If she does not give then these men will run like no tomorrow.
The best way to survive is probably keep a low profile n focus on the kids. Find interest/hobbies, charities to volunteer n friends that will see her till the end of life.

I don't mind because i love kids. Anyone want to introduce? Must be financially capable as I am a poor man

AlvinLiew · #**146** 14-11-2014, 12:32 AM

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Originally Posted by sunhuan-con

True 90 % of girls wanna get marry and have status. Those tell u they dont mind be a gf of lifetime are bullshit. Even mistresses also hopes to have status too.

Agree with you bro, very well said

sunhuan-con · #**147** 14-11-2014, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by AlvinLiew

Agree with you bro, very well said

Nothing is free in this world...

Princessy · #**148** 14-11-2014, 04:52 PM

Just curious will guy mind just be bf status? I think it's not just girls mind abt being gf status but guys will proberly mind abt it too at some point of time through the relationship ba right? or guys really don't mind as long they gets what they want - sex?

Edyta · #**149** 15-11-2014, 11:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Princessy

Just curious will guy mind just be bf status? I think it's not just girls mind abt being gf status but guys will proberly mind abt it too at some point of time through the relationship ba right? or guys really don't mind as long they gets what they want - sex?

I guess most (almost all) would be too happy to have sex, romance, company all with NSA. Enjoy the benefits of the relationship without the responsibilities.

jason_ · #**150** 16-11-2014, 09:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Skarlett0

Yes. But support from family is not equivalent to $. My mum helps me with my son. And no amount of money can get me such help that I can completely rely on. That was what I was trying to say. It's priceless.

make sure you give support too if in future your children end up following your footsteps as single parents.