Gers Are Still Gers

[Derelict]

Originally Posted by _AXL_

i m currently with a korean (only for a short period of time now) and i m totally bowled over by the experience.

All the best there mate! Try to go beyond the surface and see whats she is like inside. Okay that sounds freaking crude... what I mean is try to know her emotionally for a change.

What color she likes. Is she a day person or a nite. What kind of food she likes or dislike. Who she missed most at home. What makes her happy, sadness and etc etc. Sounds mushy and pointless buts its far from it. When asking questions make sure got flair lah not do a twenty questions. Lol.

Its just to help prepare oneself. When she is feeling the blues you will notice it, she will feel all the more blessed when you slowly hug her from behind. If you dont fancy the show she is watching make a point the read a book beside her. Play with her fingers or whatever so long as you stay connected. This simple gestures will go a long way. Because if a tiff happens. She will feel lonely without you. All her everyday chores will feel longer and empty. The next day when she comes out of her room and look at your radiant smile while you prepared breakfast on the table she will just melt in your arms forgetting why she was mad at you in the 1st place.

The most important thing is you have topics to talk about and not end up into yet another drama... most singaporean suffer as a couple generally. Example "At first, sex was exciting. Then I started feeling funny about myself, and then I started feeling funny about my partner. We argued and fought and finally we broke up. Now we are enemies." its called the morning-after syndrome by Dr.Henry Brandt. Just dont let that happen lor. Make your engagement intimate, exciting and most importantly memorable. If there is a fight. Both of you will suffer from the lost of each other. Thus, the bond will be stronger.

Anyways thats my contribution for today. Lol. Hope you get the picture my friend.

Here's to you.

Cheers!

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by Derelict

The most important thing is you have topics to talk about and not end up into yet another drama... most singaporean suffer as a couple generally. Example "At first, sex was exciting. Then I started feeling funny about myself, and then I started feeling funny about my partner. We argued and fought and finally we broke up. Now we are enemies." its called the morning-after syndrome by Dr.Henry Brandt. Just dont let that happen lor. Make your engagement intimate, exciting and most importantly memorable. If there is a fight. Both of you will suffer from the lost of each other. Thus, the bond will be stronger.

thanks for the heads up, bro. to make u feel better, just some information from me. the sex was good, but not the best thing in this relationship at such an early stage. i can feel her and more importantly, she makes me WANT to want her, to know her and to love and pamper her. aahh, that's the magic right now. and she did something which i feel that not many locals can do for me:- she makes sure i m reassured that i m the only one, even to the point that it might intrude into her personal life. even to the point that there might be financial repercussions, even to the point that she might lose face or even lose friends. i have a good feeling about this. cheers to u too, bro derelict.

bros out there, any of u have met a local girl who could make u feel really assured??? how many of u can safely say that yr local gf has made u feel very secure, feel that u r the one they want to live with for the rest of their lives? cos i have never met a local, m'sian or PRC girl who could do that for me. i feel that is one of the main differences between our locals and well, better species...

[jng1103]

Originally Posted by temperance

1) Girls expect to be dined at expensive and presentable eating establishments
Her Point: It's not true. I think that food is just food. No matter how much a meal cost, at the end of the day, it's just going to end up as crap. I don't mind eating at hawker centres or coffeshops, as long as the food is good. I've had 1st dates where we've went to eat cheap delicious food at hawker centres and we've had a great time. What makes up the date is not the nice restaurant or the good food. It's the company and conversation.

A thief will NEVER confess of stealing. Generally, I find the argument is simply absurd. These sillypore women talk about status and hawker foods are only meant for their rushing hours lunch. A date at hawker centre? ya, that beats me... As a matter of fact, we dont need to ask them, just see with ur naked eyes. If u've been with locals for a long time, u wont hesitate to reject ur lady fren's statement. Oh by the way, the new restaurants at city area open like mushrooms after the rain. Do I need to say more...???

Originally Posted by temperance

3) Gers always say "anything" and end up with black faces when you buy her just 'anything'
Her Point: If you have an idea of what to eat then don't ask us what we want to eat. How the hell do we know what to eat when I cant even decide what I wan to eat in a single foodcourt, let alone trying to guess what foods you'd like to eat? If you feel like having Jap, just say it out and we'll decide where to go. If I have something else on mind, I'll let you know and we'll see which is more feasible; e.g.: location, parking, pricing, crowd, etc.

Human beings are the top of animal chain because we can use our brain to think or analyse. If she cant decide what to eat in a foodcourt, or worse, take no effort to "think", she is nothing but a pet. Nope, they can think but they simply dont bother to think... yes, the words 'dont bother' are crucial and that simplify their stucking attitude.

Sometimes I wonder, if those locals take no effort to decide the food to order, they are very likely end up at the bottom of our society. But hey, they still got our govt to feed them during sunset days or marry a "Robert"

jimbo

[jng1103]

Originally Posted by _AXL_

bros out there, any of u have met a local girl who could make u feel really assured??? how many of u can safely say that yr local gf has made u feel very secure, feel that u r the one they want to live with for the rest of their lives? cos i have never met a local, m'sian or PRC girl who could do that for me. i feel that is one of the main differences between our locals and well, better species..

Yes, when u r either loaded or drive fast cars. (joking) As a matter of fact, Yes I have (yes, present tense...). Well, I feel like striking CNY TOTO coz it's so rare. Like Adidas, nothing is impossible, BUT WE MUST KNOW THE PROBABLILITY.

jimbo

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by temperance

2) Local girls aren't willing to provide BJs for their men
Her Point: Sex isn't just about satisfying the man. Have you ever heard of how some men refuse to give cunninglingus to girls cos they think that it's unhygenic? If our pee holes are 'unhygenic', then how can you expect us to lick and suck at your pee holes without that same notion?
If you really really love blowjobs so much, then do the same for us. Chances are we'll reciprocate the favour and probably enjoy the whole process much better.

hello bro, r u the girl or really yr lady friend from msn??? yr friend asked u to use dark orchid colour ah??? very difficult to read leh...

agreed, if the guy cannot go down on his own girl, he dont deserve a bj. in fact, i would feel that he is selfish, taboo or not. i know of friends who dont go down on their partners during weekends starting from friday nite cos they will be gambling all weekend. sometimes midweek too!!! but do u want me to introduce u to women who liked me to go down on them and tell me that they dont do bjs??? i might very possibly give u a list, starting from my ex-gf...

3) Gers always say "anything" and end up with black faces when you buy her just 'anything'
Her Point: If you have an idea of what to eat then don't ask us what we want to eat. How the hell do we know what to eat when I cant even decide what I wan to eat in a single foodcourt, let alone trying to guess what foods you'd like to eat? If you feel like having Jap, just say it out and we'll decide where to go. If I have something else on mind, I'll let you know and we'll see which is more feasible; e.g.: location, parking, pricing, crowd, etc.

yup, let's talk abuot what to eat if u want me to have a stroke and claim my insurance. tell me bros out here, m i facing this alone or r u having this problem as well??? ask the girl what she wants to eat, answer:- anything. ok, let's have jap food. ooh, i just had that yesterday for lunch. ok, what about thai? cannot, think i m coming up with an ulcer... ok, how about going for steaks? no lah! so fattening!!! u want me to get fat isit? ok, we go eat dim sum... okie!!! go restaurant see long queue, then turn to me:- see lah, all yr fault, make me feel like eating dim sum, now queue so long!!!

my questions r:

1) if she wanted to eat dim sum, why didnt she tell me earlier that she wanted to eat dim sum? (fyi, i m a rubbish bin... so long i m full, i m quite fine, but i do go out of my way to get good food with appreciative company)

2) do i look like i know that the chinese restaurant was going to be crowded???

how i felt, damn stupid!!! to have rushed with my work, drove through peak hour traffic to pick her up at home, drove back to town (still peak hour traffic), get berated for taking the congested way and making her grumpy, reached town, let her off first to go shopping while i struggled feebly to rob a parking lot, racked my brains out to think of what to eat and finally get blamed for the chinese restaurant's good business. my friend, u think i still have an appetite???

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by jng1103

Yes, when u r either loaded or drive fast cars. (joking) As a matter of fact, Yes I have (yes, present tense...). Well, I feel like striking CNY TOTO coz it's so rare. Like Adidas, nothing is impossible, BUT WE MUST KNOW THE PROBABLILITY.

jimbo

loved that adidas campaign, impossible is nothing, very inspiring...

yes, i drive a fast car, 2 seater hard top convertible somemore, at least until tomorrow when i hand over to the new owner!!! but then, still no such luck... damn!!! i must look really ugly!!!

good for u then. but u still together with her? then why on earth did u sound so pessimistic in your previous post???

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by _AXL_

bros out there, any of u have met a local girl who could make u feel really assured??? how many of u can safely say that yr local gf has made u feel very secure, feel that u r the one they want to live with for the rest of their lives? cos i have never met a local, m'sian or PRC girl who could do that for me. i feel that is one of the main differences between our locals and well, better species...

Yes. I have met one. I married her.

Why am I still philandering? The problem lies not largely with her but mostly me. I guess we have to look at ourselves first before we shell out blame.

Although she is not the one I love most, she is the one that I could probably live with the most.

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by surfer888

Yes. I have met one. I married her.

Why am I still philandering? The problem lies not largely with her but mostly me. I guess we have to look at ourselves first before we shell out blame.

Although she is not the one I love most, she is the one that I could probably live with the most.

well, u have answered yr own question with another question. now, only u will have the answers to the more serious question that has popped up.

to make matters worse, i have another question... would u have stopped yr philandering if u r with someone u trully love and have u met someone who would make u give up yr philandering ways? ok, ok, i cheated. there were 2 questions there.

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by _AXL_

well, u have answered yr own question with another question. now, only u will have the answers to the more serious question that has popped up.

What was the serious question again?

"do i look like i know that the chinese restaurant was going to be crowded???" or "u think i still have an appetite???"

Originally Posted by _AXL_

to make matters worse, i have another question... would u have stopped yr philandering if u r with someone u trully love and have u met someone who would make u give up yr philandering ways? ok, ok, i cheated. there were 2 questions there.

Yes and yes. At least for now.

[yinyang]

Originally Posted by _AXL_

.. would u have stopped yr philandering if u r with someone u trully love and have u met someone who would make u give up yr philandering ways?

Originally Posted by surfer888

.. Why am I still philandering? The problem lies not largely with her but mostly me. I guess we have to look at ourselves first before we shell out blame..

Gents, as I'm near past shelf life.. without benefit of wide spectrum of recent experience, unable to add more objectivity to debate on local produce.

But I can relate to surfer's mirrored view.. trouble is we guys are an enigma ourselves. Sounds cliched, but it's not far from truth..we want our cake and eat it too.

And bro Derelict... can afford us LIGHT version bo? Rather be intoxicated by liquid refreshments than exuberance of your verbosity. Ok, myself will not go route of idioms again..

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by yinyang

Sounds cliched, but it's not far from truth..we want our cake and eat it too.

Not only want and cake and eat it. We still want whipped cream and hot fudge toppings plus a nice cuppa expresso after that.

And oh... we never tip the waitress.

[Derelict]

Originally Posted by yinyang

And bro Derelict... can afford us LIGHT version bo? Rather be intoxicated by liquid refreshments than exuberance of your verbosity. Ok, myself will not go route of idioms again..

Okay.


On another note. Brother AXL, glad that things are rolling goodly for you. Here waiting with bated breath on yon explorations. May thou bask in the sunshine of happiness, may it also hark an epoch of fathomable bliss.

[jng1103]

Originally Posted by _AXL_

good for u then. but u still together with her? then why on earth did u sound so pessimistic in your previous post???

Hmm... Once bitten, twice shy. Got lucky lately but always prepared for the worst. As a matter of fact, I'm trying to implement "men charter" in our r/s and yes, walking down the aisle very soon. Why is that so? Simple yet logic (just like why Sillypore govt gave green light for the IR, and 20yrs ago, "someone" told Stanley that NO IR in Sillypore, NOT over my dead body), it's monetary "carrots". Anyway, that's not important here...

Yes, I'm being very pessimistic over locals and already consulted my fren (who works in a law firm) if shits ever happen. No property (except HDB) investment in Sillypore but other countries. If I ever spend $$$ on her, I'll make sure the ROI is good... *LOL* (I expect ppl will start zapping or cursing on me liao...)

jimbo

[Derelict]

Originally Posted by surfer888

Why am I still philandering? The problem lies not largely with her but mostly me. I guess we have to look at ourselves first before we shell out blame.

Thats the way aha aha I like it aha aha...well at lease you understand the nature of things. Good enough a start in your (current) family book. Like a cigarette you need to slow it down and hopefully kick the habit. I mean you know it and I know it that act you're in is not right nor is it good in the long run for you and yours. Lets hope its just a phase thingy. Lol.

Originally Posted by surfer888

Although she is not the one I love most, she is the one that I could probably live with the most.

the pursuit of happiness is something thats hard to justify. Infact its kinda illusive to say the lease. You have found one... thats pretty plausible u know but unfortunately you found it against the grains of societies doctrine. Like it or not you're in the wrong in the eyes of the beholder.

In your above context I quoted it is a quantitative love. Is that really the main issue we should be discussing? Nope it isnt. The main issue here, now, currently; is what are you gonna do once your spouse ever get wind of your infidelity. I think that question preceeds any other. Therefore, to sum it up. Is your gratification qualifies the uppermost justification to that of your family.

Okay, enough drama. Whatever the outcome I think you already know the issue. It is hindsight to say you know whats best. What I see is a man looking to put some sort of semblance to ones being. Again I wish you foresight irregardless mate.

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by surfer888

What was the serious question again?

this was the question:

Why am I still philandering?

this was the question u raised yourself while answering the question above. duh...

The problem lies not largely with her but mostly me. I guess we have to look at ourselves first before we shell out blame.