The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[freezetheDB]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

Can I add also the one you have the best sex is not always the one you love most?

and the one you have the best sex with, if it lasts, over time, it fizzles as well.

people just get lazy and start taking each other for granted.

yah this is true bro, especially with the spouse; over time take things for granted, no more romantic preludes and long foreplays; sometimes prefer quickies (BBBJ+CIM), sometimes prefer to play computer game due to limited personal time after work.

[SinDellman]

Just want to see the views of bros and sisters here. If there is ZERO sex, zero intimacy, but couple gives 80% freedom to each other, 70% respect to each others, and to the outsiders, couple "appears" normal, can there be LOVE? Of course, couple still love the children and the family lifestyle.
What is the future for this couple being together till the end?

[AmericanExpress]

Originally Posted by yinyang

Best if mutual bad feeling. Just bugger off. Just like switching from Amex to Visa (or another bank plastic)

...you always change card. Use centurion card forever

[naan1974]

Originally Posted by ThunderMonkey

This a true story.
Choose with your mind then your heart.Especially not with your little brother.
The looks,the sex and whatever trophy you get to flaunt will not suffice the torture you go through everyday in your life.

If you choose with your mind then your heart will forever be missing someone else which is a lifetime of regrets and pain, isn't is so?

the last phase is true words of wisdom ... or somebody's lesson of a lifetime

[naan1974]

Originally Posted by SinDellman

Just want to see the views of bros and sisters here. If there is ZERO sex, zero intimacy, but couple gives 80% freedom to each other, 70% respect to each others, and to the outsiders, couple "appears" normal, can there be LOVE? Of course, couple still love the children and the family lifestyle.
What is the future for this couple being together till the end?

I am afraid there's a significant proportion of marriages in Singapore
which is like that. Divorces in Singapore can be very complicated.
Some worry about the image, family and society scrutiny, adverse effects on children, financial aspect and some even worry about their existing hdb flat eligible.

[juzhavefun]

Originally Posted by SinDellman

Just want to see the views of bros and sisters here. If there is ZERO sex, zero intimacy, but couple gives 80% freedom to each other, 70% respect to each others, and to the outsiders, couple "appears" normal, can there be LOVE? Of course, couple still love the children and the family lifestyle.
What is the future for this couple being together till the end?

My opinion is, some r leader n some r followers. A leader should not ask how the followers feel, instead he or she as a leader, need to guide n make the follower follows. So, r u a leader or follower? if u r the latter, then y not ask the leader what he or she is thinking. If u r the former, then u should lead n guide him or her to achieve towards your goal.

[kongkek]

Originally Posted by SinDellman

Just want to see the views of bros and sisters here. If there is ZERO sex, zero intimacy,
What is the future for this couple being together till the end?

That's worse than prison

[zhellboyz]

Think im facing the same plight ....

[kongkek]

Originally Posted by zhellboyz

Think im facing the same plight ....

Why not share your disdain

[silk_magic]

This could be very true as sometimes we took the first opportunity to settle down instead of waiting because we do not know if your true love will come along.

It is easy to say that we should fight for our love but difficult to execute.

[vehmem]

Guess alot folks facing similar problem. Let me share mine. I been dating my gf for 2 yrs. I must say im very lucky to have her as my gf. She is kind and with down to earth personality. Nv once ask for expensive gifts and stuff. Didn't expect me to pay for everything. However, one thing that is missing is our sex life. Yes, we are having sex. But thats it. Just pure normal sex. Maybe is just that im greedy, but i really wanted her to put in more effort in our sex life. This make me pause in thinking about our future. I love her, but im worry about her libido in the future.

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by vehmem

Guess alot folks facing similar problem. Let me share mine. I been dating my gf for 2 yrs. I must say im very lucky to have her as my gf. She is kind and with down to earth personality. Nv once ask for expensive gifts and stuff. Didn't expect me to pay for everything. However, one thing that is missing is our sex life. Yes, we are having sex. But thats it. Just pure normal sex. Maybe is just that im greedy, but i really wanted her to put in more effort in our sex life. This make me pause in thinking about our future. I love her, but im worry about her libido in the future.

bro

its normal. It doesn't get better after marriage. trust me, they get more comfortable and you are most often high and dry. You talk about it, say you will improve things, and its left to nothing. You try all kinds of things to make it better, and end up disappointed
You are left with 2 choices, find another way to let go your steam be it WL, FB, or PCC and stay true to her.
Its nothing to do with character, its something that happens after people get familiar with each other
I love to bonk my FB, sadly, she doesn't love to fuck me. It started great for 2 years, now its been shit for 2 years.

[makinglove]

I also have a problem now, been with my gf for 8 years, shes quite pretty, just that she doesnt like sex that frequently, maybe once every 1 or 2 weeks.. and she doesnt like to put makeup or dress sexily.. dun like me to paint her or give me bj... ever since i try FL and geylang, im like addicted to it because of the hot makeup, dressing and service..

Only good point about my girl is she is very thrifty, other than that very kaobei, everytime raise her voice at me.. Thinking of what to do now...

[gixxer04]

Agree with brow and sister .that y outsouce become a issue ....after 4 yrs of marriage life total not more 15time .where thing turn upside down.
Once outsouce .....n feeling developed for both parties .....it is just like living in hell .......as u cannot gibe the other party any commitment .....

[lotsfits80]

Truth is, there is nobody we loved most. We are born to be capable of loving anybody and everybody. You may love someone for her X characteristic but not love her Y habit or attitude. Marriage is a scam. Monogamy and polygamy are both practiced in animal kingdoms but humans forcibly make polygamy a taboo, therefore perverting the human behavior itself.