Sexless Marriage...

[rams]

okay, I've gone through at least 11 pages of postings mostly from men complaining abt not having enough sex in their marriage. Let me contribute from a married woman's point of view.
I feel that sex is an integral part in a marriage, I grew up in a somewhat average conservative Singapore family but it didn't turn out that I'm as conservative instead I am also trying to survive in a sexless marriage.
Me and my hubby has been married for 3 yrs, all these years, sex was initiated by me except the very FIRST time.
For those times that I initiate, you would be surprised to know that I can get rejected outrightly saying he is not in the mood. He will give excuses like he is too tired but never tired for TV. Even when I tried giving him a bj in his sleep, he would wake up and give me a good thrashing. There were times I got so disappointed and rejected that I cried myself to sleep.
Tried to talk to him about it but situation never improve. I bought lots of sexy lingeries, it didn't help. I bought adult board games but we've only tried it once. When I tried to arouse him by licking his neck and ears, he would complain its ticklish. I even tried sending him provocative sms suggesting sex but all his response would be, "Crazy ah you?" ???

I got pregnant last yr and due to hormonal changes, I was even more horny than before but he didnt wan sex saying he might hurt the baby but finally agreed when I assured him we won't. Then after I delivered, he didn't touch me for 3 mths until I initiated and then he doesn't want to touch my boobs cos he's afraid that my breast milk will leak.
Tell me how much worse can things get.

All my ex-es have proclaimed me as the sex queen and they can never have enough of me, I can't understand my hubby's behaviour and fact is he didn't think he is abnormal.
I resorted to DIY to relieve myself but its not what i want, I need love and affection and to feel attractive. Fact is I've never felt desired by him.
We have sex now like once a week, I would like to have it 2-3 times a week but its not possible. Each time, he doesn't bother with foreplay and only wants to get his thingie into me.
Sometimes I wonder to myself if I'm normal... Comments please?

[thamkngw]

sister, you sure or not?

maybe you need to get him to see therapist or TCM, maybe his hormones level not high enuff.

you could try some of the methods guys use to delay the ejaculation, or try various position like gal on top?

[rams]

bro, I cannot be anymore sure.

But interesting thing is he surfs porn and sometimes he DIY without me knowing but I'd always find out.

Talking about gal on top, thats his fav position cos the reason is so that he don't have to move an inch while I'm doing all the works..

Freaking depressing..

Originally Posted by thamkngw

sister, you sure or not?
gal on top?

[smartalex]

Hi Rams,

The sex-drive for both me and my wife are slightly similar. There are times I want it but she doesn't, and vice versa too. What I do when my wife wants it but I don't is that I ram her doggie style, which is rather painful for her due to the length of my prick. This makes her lose interest in sex and she stops disturbing me

When I want to fuck and my wife doesn't, I watch porn and DIY, and she is quite happy with that.

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by rams

Me and my hubby has been married for 3 yrs, all these years, sex was initiated by me except the very FIRST time.

Lady your husband obviously not from Mars....no offence meant but if my wife is willing to offer me half of what you did for your hubby, boy i will probably go to bed with a smirk on my face...

[Lioncity]

Is CNY and still no sex in sight, sigh but thank goodness there is sammyboy. To all bros having sexless marriage, thanks for sharing, at least i know is normal. To the ladies, thanks for reminding us that there is another side to a coin.
Maybe we should exchange and all will be happy, kekeke. I have my share of sexlessness but i count my blessing that i have met some ladies who were willing to share a bit of their desire.

So humble opinion is do something about it, if u give up arousing ur wife, sammyboy have a lot of FL, WL, ons etc for both the guys and gals. To each their own, i don't think complaining help but if u accept it and find your alternative, the marriage may last longer and more meaningful sharing soul mate then sex mate. Don't get me wrong to suggest no sex, god forbide, is too good to skip it but if your partnet is not into it then find some other who are. Oh u have to work on it for great sex otherwise payment is acceptable for quick fix. Hope everyone have a fucking good year doing doggy, i know i will regardless of wify lack of desire.

HAPPY NEW YEAR

[nivlac]

man with serious problem

[rams]

Can you explain whats the point you're trying to put across?

Originally Posted by smartalex

What I do when my wife wants it but I don't is that I ram her doggie style, which is rather painful for her due to the length of my prick. This makes her lose interest in sex and she stops disturbing me
When I want to fuck and my wife doesn't, I watch porn and DIY, and she is quite happy with that.

[rams]

haha, that is what I thought all men would loved of their wife to do but strangely and sadly, this is not the case for my man.
I thought of leaving him but now for the sake of the little one I had to stay but I really don't wish for my life to persist this way.. its kind of unbearable
Matter of fact is, I'm not ugly looking, I'm not that fat, I just can't understand why I don't I appeal to him..

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

i will probably go to bed with a smirk on my face...

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by rams

haha, that is what I thought all men would loved of their wife to do but strangely and sadly, this is not the case for my man.
I thought of leaving him but now for the sake of the little one I had to stay but I really don't wish for my life to persist this way.. its kind of unbearable
Matter of fact is, I'm not ugly looking, I'm not that fat, I just can't understand why I don't I appeal to him..

well i guess for every married man in a sexless marriage, I would imagine a equal number of married woman are in this state...don't mind me asking ram but are you a stay home "wong liang po"... becos most of the woman who complains of a sexless marriage are normally the typical housewife and most of the guys who complains of this have a career woman as a wife..

btw on the boobs part about milking, i absolutely love it, fought with my kid to suckle on my wife breast..

[KingEros]

Originally Posted by rams

But interesting thing is he surfs porn and sometimes he DIY without me knowing but I'd always find out.

Talking about gal on top, thats his fav position cos the reason is so that he don't have to move an inch while I'm doing all the works...

IMHO, he's lost interest of you ... as a sex object, that's all.

Originally Posted by rams

... but he didnt wan sex saying he might hurt the baby but finally agreed when I assured him we won't. Then after I delivered, he didn't touch me for 3 mths until I initiated and then he doesn't want to touch my boobs cos he's afraid that my breast milk will leak.

More convinced that he gave in to you after he realises that you didn't belong to that ignorant group who believed the baby would get hurt by an inserted bonking prick. Doesn't he know that it's the hubby's duty to relieve the pressure in those beautiful boobs, as well as to ensure the lactating process gets stimulated enough to go on & on & on?? Sheesh, no wonder I had to work overtime ... outside my jobscope of a part-time lover.

Originally Posted by rams

Matter of fact is, I'm not ugly looking, I'm not that fat, I just can't understand why I don't I appeal to him.

This is all very relative ... I, for one, like my bonks to be meaty with more than a handful of tits ... but perhaps, your hubby gets his thrill from the pelvic blue-black he gets from his bonks.

Originally Posted by rams

I thought of leaving him but now for the sake of the little one I had to stay but I really don't wish for my life to persist this way.. its kind of unbearable

Well, whether it's for the little one or for the comfort that your hubby provides ... most women will not think twice about staying in their marriage but getting their physical & emotional feed on the side - personally, I already know there're 3 samstresses in this category.
I'm sure there're more than a few samsters who've dropped you PMs volunteering their services ... but bear in mind, discretion must be of highest priority when you choose to take this path.

Originally Posted by smartalex

This makes her lose interest in sex and she stops disturbing me
When I want to fuck and my wife doesn't, I watch porn and DIY, and she is quite happy with that.

Originally Posted by rams

Can you explain whats the point you're trying to put across?

Well, the only thing I could see standing out glaringly from his crap is ... the fact that this loser is really just SMART ALEX.

[KingEros]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

btw on the boobs part about milking, i absolutely love it, fought with my kid to suckle on my wife breast.

Yeah ... I absolutely love it too - especially when this is like a rare treat for me. I mean, what are the chances of bonking somebody else's women who qualified as MILFs & are lactating??

[jag_71]

Rams,

if you are as good looking as we all think that you are then your husband is either :

-GAY
-Fucking someone else on the side
-A big mummy's boy
-Wants a divorce for whatever reason

I'm totally amazed that he would not be ramming you everyday.... I know I would be keeping you busy if you were my wife...... anyway....

GENERAL COMMENT TO ALL SEXLESS MARRIED PPL HERE : Have you talked to your partner, and, actually asked them the question "Why don't you like sex ?"

Simply running into the arms of a 3rd party is not going to fix much more than your short term needs...... it's about talking..... it may be hard to discuss, but in the long run it is going to affect the health of your marriage, and YOU......


Lucky for me in some ways, my wife when she's in the mood, is a horny slut....... but it can be 1-2 weeks everytime she gets that way... but she makes the wait worth while !!!

Everyone is different, so you need to learn what gets your partner IN THE MOOD..... or what is the reason they are turned OFF, then you can hopefully do something about it.....

Cheers

JAG_71

[rams]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

are you a stay home "wong liang po"...

Well, as a matter of fact, I'm a career woman who dressed up nicely for work and brings home the larger share of the dough. So that rules me out of the Huang Lian Po category..

btw on the boobs part about milking, i absolutely love it, fought with my kid to suckle on my wife breast..

I actually have to contemplate on stopping breastfeeding my baby for this reason.. and as a matter of factly I've stop but the sex didn't come with it..

[rams]

[QUOTE=KingEros]IMHO, he's lost interest of you ... as a sex object, that's all.

He was never interested in me in the first place, which I've been cracking my head trying to think of how to turn him on but it all didn't seem to work. He would rather spend time with friends, his fishes and everything else but me.

more than a few samsters who've dropped you PMs volunteering their services ...

To get sex from another party? This has crossed my mind but its not the route I would choose, what I'm yearning for is the affection and love. Infidelity is not in my dictionary.