Advise please

[adidas88]

Originally Posted by Charmaine

Thank you all. One of the reasons why I'm so confused is because i would like to think she's considered a special breed of Thai - She's Thai at heart (roots from a Thai father and a Chinese mother so she's Thai-Chinese) but Westernised by upbringing.

what make u think she's westernised by upbringing ??
how do u quantify that ?? becoz she hang out with farangs ??
or she have been to western country for study ??

Originally Posted by Charmaine

She's said things like "I chose you - I don't care what my mum says. It's my life" and her respect for her father is waning too ("I don't like him and whatever he says won't affect which man I choose") so it's really a delicate situation but I do know that she still loves her family very much. So we're dealing with someone who is Thai by birth but farang by choice.

that's ur personal perspective ... i see no grounds to support in ur last statement at all ...

Originally Posted by Charmaine

It doesn't help that her ex-boyfriend of 4 years was Singaporean too so she's pretty much inducted into the whole ang mo process. Her best friend's boyfriend is ang mo too so she's been mixing around a lot with the farang community. Girls like that can be traditional but modernised at the same time, and that makes it doubly hard to decipher her. I'm trying.

thai gals like to hang out with farangs becoz they (thai gals) want to look good especially when they bump into someone they know in a pub or club ..
they believe farangs r hi-so people ...
it's almost impossible to change the culture of thai gal regardless where they r ...
to them .. family first, u second ... period ...
is this modernised thinking ??
i seriously doubt so ....

U r really a very confuse guy, bro charmaine ...
i think u hate losing her but yet cannot accept all the facts and doubts that's in ur mind ..
u r in serious problem, bro ...

[NakaSky]

Let me offer my 1baht advice here...

Thailand is a place very different from Singapore. A place whereby thai girls are generally more friendly and more easy to pick up.

U can find short term romance in bangkok. When it's time for u to move on , u have to harden your heart and let go of the "friendship" u had with that girl.

There are plenty of nice girls out there in bangkok.

If u decide to continue the relationship with a WL/FL , be prepared to shoulder all her financial burdens as well.

There are times whereby I am caught in between situations like this. But I know myself that it's a never ending burden really.

The time will come whereby u see a better looking girl , a nicer personality girl whereby u will start to "Regret" on why u are with the current girl.

If u really decide to love the girl , u have to accept her as what she is. Her lies , her personality , her past as well as her financial and baby if she does have.

If at any point of time , u do not trust her or resents anything , u ARE not ready to commit into the relationship.

U are doing harm to yourself as well as her. If u think u cant promise her everything , please do not waste her time in searching for someone who could do so. That is very selfish to do so.

Lastly , I know it hurts to give up the relationship. I have been thru this so many times. And every new relationship will still hurt initially. But just bear in mind that u had good memories with her. Let her go search for what she seeks and if she's meant to be yours , one fine day she will be back with u.

[Jun|ch|]

Originally Posted by CeiResident

Bro i'm staying at sukhumvit too.. when do u wanna pop by breadtalk in central world, was attached here for a few months.. going back soon.... Santika was happening na yesterday... This weekend wanna join me to drive up to wat sothon at chacheongsao?

Which part? I was at central world yesterday though. Go cheong nvr jio me??

[williamangkh]

Bro adidas88, please do not call me sifu....cannot take such kind of weigh on my shoulder!!!

Bro Charmaine, romance exist in Thailand and many other countries too. You must understand, if romance is important to you, then this girl of your is not your cup of tea.
There is a saying in Thailand: -"Thai family has a hierarchy with the parents at the top of it. Children are educated to always honour their parents and to thank them for the time and money spent for education. Children shall have gratitude "KATANJOO" towards their parents. The worst insult for a Thai people is to be deemed ungrateful."

So if your girl is WL, this mean that she is there to make money in order to give better life for her parents and siblings and that is her main objective. Obviously she will not give you an answer on your question because all WL's dream is to become someone wife (usually non-thai men). 2nd dream is to become "Mia Noi" 2nd unofficial wife of a rich thai businessmen.

Romance only exist during courtship for couple who has individual earning power but not for WL (unless you are the sponsor).

Why is she throwing a fuss about your drinking with colleague who is interest in you? Is she afraid to lose you? Of course, she damn well, know that she cannot compete.

Bro Charmaine, i think you are not ready to bring your relationship to the next level yet. Please think it over carefully.....if you love her but cannot support her now...please let her go. You still can be friends.

Just my personal view.....immense in BKK scene too long and start to pity these peoples...who are really very unselfish in ensuring their family leads a better life!

[Garage1]

alamak..
all you ah sohs, aunties and aunt agony still discussing this?????
pRease lah!!!!!!!
always recycle material!!!!!!!! dun be so LO-SO can...

[CeiResident]

Bro playman, missed out catching up with up while i was transiting at siem reap on sep, will u still be in krungthep on mid nov??? will be flying back to singapore on sunday for a month first after which i will fly back for a few days with her for loi krathong.... Catch up at club nana on month end see u soon aarchan... chee-wit tee rao ker-ee mee kwaen wai bon dai bang bang, mai roo waa mun ja kaat meua rai....

Originally Posted by Playman

Hahahah Pom mai chai aarchan....ta mai sia jai mak? ...mai dee nai!

Har tirak mai de quah.....

.

[CeiResident]

Shifted to bangna bro,, Pracharat bumphen evokes bad memories na, did i tell u she left me a year ago for uk???? Hey bring your kid to see me na we go to dream world near rangsit... i heard future park there is a happening joint na... Miss krung seafood ja...... So touched to see the thread bustling with life again.. Miss those good old days when we communicate till the wee hours of the morning na hahah.... Hey serious gonna meet up one day tho . i am flying back for a month to do some work stuff, we catch up real soon. your number change already leh... PM me ja.... going off to nonthaburi to do something now take care bro Bkk....

Originally Posted by Jun|ch|

Which part? I was at central world yesterday though. Go cheong nvr jio me??

[Playman]

Originally Posted by CeiResident

Bro playman, missed out catching up with up while i was transiting at siem reap on sep, will u still be in krungthep on mid nov??? will be flying back to singapore on sunday for a month first after which i will fly back for a few days with her for loi krathong.... Catch up at club nana on month end see u soon aarchan... chee-wit tee rao ker-ee mee kwaen wai bon dai bang bang, mai roo waa mun ja kaat meua rai....




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yeap...we will be in Bkk on this month end...with a group of people...business cum pleasure, it would be an honour to meet up with you....by the way, I am a retired old uncle not any aarchan....please please...!

not even qualify to be a cheongster....hahahhaah!

[CeiResident]

Bro Will perhaps Junichi and I could have know u 3 years back then i think we would have a chance to be at ratchada robinson for a drink and meet up with singrakthai hahah.. Dun u agree bro Jun.... Your words touched my heart.... u are indeed the master inself... puts me to shame ja...
chun dtong yorm kao jai gert maa kae piang dai ruk gun. soot-tai mai ben yaang fun chun yorm tam jai.

Originally Posted by williamangkh

Bro adidas88, please do not call me sifu....cannot take such kind of weigh on my shoulder!!!

Bro Charmaine, romance exist in Thailand and many other countries too. You must understand, if romance is important to you, then this girl of your is not your cup of tea.
There is a saying in Thailand: -"Thai family has a hierarchy with the parents at the top of it. Children are educated to always honour their parents and to thank them for the time and money spent for education. Children shall have gratitude "KATANJOO" towards their parents. The worst insult for a Thai people is to be deemed ungrateful."

So if your girl is WL, this mean that she is there to make money in order to give better life for her parents and siblings and that is her main objective. Obviously she will not give you an answer on your question because all WL's dream is to become someone wife (usually non-thai men). 2nd dream is to become "Mia Noi" 2nd unofficial wife of a rich thai businessmen.

Romance only exist during courtship for couple who has individual earning power but not for WL (unless you are the sponsor).

Why is she throwing a fuss about your drinking with colleague who is interest in you? Is she afraid to lose you? Of course, she damn well, know that she cannot compete.

Bro Charmaine, i think you are not ready to bring your relationship to the next level yet. Please think it over carefully.....if you love her but cannot support her now...please let her go. You still can be friends.

Just my personal view.....immense in BKK scene too long and start to pity these peoples...who are really very unselfish in ensuring their family leads a better life!

[CeiResident]

Its a pity i will be flying back to singapore on mth end.. will be back tho for a few days for loi krathong with a kik on november mid end... If time permits we shall catch up either in bed supper club in krungthep or club nana in singapore bro...

Originally Posted by Playman

yeap...we will be in Bkk on this month end...with a group of people...business cum pleasure, it would be an honour to meet up with you....by the way, I am a retired old uncle not any aarchan....please please...!

not even qualify to be a cheongster....hahahhaah!

[CeiResident]

Yo bro became a counsellor here na haha... soot taai rak nan keu a-rai ying chan rian roo man maak kae nai ying roo ying mai kao jai ...

Originally Posted by lostmypants

Bro Adidas....

I saw....read ur comment.....sat back....read it again...tried to really absorb it.....and well......Bro.....just one word..."BRAVO"....

LMP

[Playman]

Originally Posted by CeiResident

Its a pity i will be flying back to singapore on mth end.. will be back tho for a few days for loi krathong with a kik on november mid end... If time permits we shall catch up either in bed supper club in krungthep or club nana in singapore bro...

Wow lau ee..... you speak thai keng mak!

[CeiResident]

Wow bro u just quoted something i told myself about 4 years back when i met my girl. I guess it was the same time bro Junichi got trapped in the nana joints burger stands hahah.. Well i shall extract out something this humble servant posted years back. Well it hordes of rubbish compare to wise words by the masters here.. bro adidas u rock too kudos to u na...

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season....

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Now do u get my point bro charmaine.. the road is long u have to pace. It is not easy. think twice before u act.. I spend my entire lifetime savings. Was back to square one last year.. life goes on

Originally Posted by Charmaine

Thank you for all your kind words, especially Playman and CeiResident.

I didn't choose. I fell in love. She could have been WL or a non-WL, a Thai or a Japanese. All I know is that I met her and never looked back.

[CeiResident]

Pii Kup pm put thai mai geng na ja...took yaang wan nee man loie daai son chan mai? waa rak kae nai gor mai mee taang tang chee-wit man yang noi bpai....hai tam yang ngai gor mai piang por..

It is by ciurcumstances bro not by chance. If given a chance again i would not have chosen this path again.. It is too traumatising for the faint hearted .Ask bro Junichi hahah... anyway never regreted what i did.. Wish u well bro charmaine... Just surprised our old thread is being dug up again.. old players of the past are gone, here comes the new kids on the block.. I am sure all u guys out there are wiser than us compared to few years back with so much inspirational quotes posted here Bro Junichi, we can seek solace in them na haha.... Shall we have seafood tonight?

Originally Posted by Playman

Wow lau ee..... you speak thai keng mak!

[CeiResident]

To the captain of TirakShip:-

Believe in yourself that you are really your own magician. It's only the truth.

Love is indeed magical because it puts one into an unearthly emotional adrenalin rush, feels like on cloud 9, but when reality sinks in, our feet get put back on earth again.

Boredom, overfamiliarity, dislikes grow like a disease spreading its virus of separation from the one you love.

Think back on how that magic you created that made the one you loved love you and try to re-create that magic, that spark that will light up the fire and passion back into her.

Find out what are her dislikes and if you really love her, try to change yourself to fit into her mould of an ideal mate. But if change is impossible and time taken had been too long, either you persist on or you remain yourself and get over your loss. Billions of females in the world, there's someone waiting for you.

The real magic of love lies within yourself, for within you lay the power to charm another being. Such charm is called integrity, sincerity, honesty and respect.

Black magic of love is lust - it will only leave one dissatisfied and disillusion. Stray not into the darkside, no matter how desperate you may be, for no one can live life in an illusion or a fantasy. Wake up and feel the true magic of love with another...

Just my 5 baht worth na...