My Fillial Daughter

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

no need thai food lah... satay at GL 10 tonight will do.

Your invitation is my command.

[TooFast]

Originally Posted by john teo

Bro...Toofast.....I like you also ...not social....hardly utter a word ...so we can meet tonite at GL10....onzzzzz????kekekek share my story with you lah. photo also have!!!

Just to tell you that I am 21, hardly any story to share lor. Hahaha. Young and inexperienced. What can I say? Hide behind the computer wall, more courage to say things hahaha. That's just me. I might go down and take a look though.

[TooFast]

Have a last minute hiccup from family. I don't think I will head down today.
Anyway, hope you guys enjoy the day. or night hehe.
Remember don't drink and drive.(if you all plan on drinking beer )

[joob]

Just to relate my story, I have a thai tirak too. Met her at Sparks disco in Bkk 3 years ago...exactly 3 years ago. Was having my first working attachment there for 2 months. Well she wasn't exactly an easy catch coz really spend alot of time and effort getting her. Maybe it was just her way of playing hard to get. But till now, I think i gave my tirak around S$20k to build a house. I dun give her any money monthly to her. Went to her village once to see and well it's a very nice house built. Her parents are of coz very friendly with me. Some of these gals really come out to work just because they want to build a house in their village to replace their wooden houses.

I have a friend who had a very good ending with his tirak. He gave the gal some money every month (around $300) and money to build her house too. Now he's happily married with her in a very good thai ceremony. It's always good to visit the gal's village coz you can really see their living conditions.

After so many years with with a thai gf, I've found that most of the thai gals with do almost anything to achieve their goals. So if you're going to find a thai tirak, I think it's best to expect lots of fustrations and lies. If you call her from singapore and she did not pick up the phone, what will you think? Is she out with other guys? Having a great time with them using your money? or whatever, and these things will come to your mind whether you want it or not. The fear is there coz of the stories you've read from here and heard from other experience people.

So if your heart is not 'wide' enough, I guess it's not that easy to maintain a relationship with a thai gal. So no matter how much you love the gal, leave some space for caution whenever it comes to money. You won't want to lose money and gal at the same time, even if you're rich.

Just my thoughts, it might not be true so pls dun flame me. Comments to add are always welcome. Thanks!

[TooFast]

Originally Posted by joob

I have a friend who had a very good ending with his tirak. He gave the gal some money every month (around $300) and money to build her house too. Now he's happily married with her in a very good thai ceremony. It's always good to visit the gal's village coz you can really see their living conditions.

Nowadays 300 where got enough?
Anyway thanks for sharing your story.

[Snuber]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

you'll understand why we think the way we think, and why we don't agree with some of the views of others here, ....

we on the other hand are old enough to be their fathers who has been in and out of Thailand even before they were born.

Nicely said TV! So when will you be penning them down???

Here of new thread?

[siamcutey]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

Don't even talk about my wife. My ex-tirak in BKK don't even ask but I give 50K per month and I don't even blink my eyes to say I'm giving too much or too little. I give according to what I feel I want to give and BTW, I only go to BKK twice a month of 2 nights each trip.

No one will question how much you are going to give your tiraks, wife or anyone else as long as you are comfortable with the amount.

If lets say you pay your wife's parents every month 100K baht as expenses and they ask from you an additional 50K baht monthly, Don't tell me you will not ask why? Of course bottomline is end of the day you must know where the money goes to. Some people use money wisely, while some people spend money blindly, depends on individual.

Anyway, who am I to comment when its not my money too?

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[siamcutey]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

if you can come down tonight will also be fine. You'll learn alot for the seniors there, and you'll understand why we think the way we think, and why we don't agree with some of the views of others here, ....

especially 25 yr olds who speaks as if they know Thailand like the back of their hands while, we on the other hand are old enough to be their fathers who has been in and out of Thailand even before they were born.

It is an untold fact that this kind of stories happen in real life. To others they may think why I am rambling here. I don't see it as kpkb, but to some others, they may think I am kpkb. But if you do see it from another aspect, it holds a certain amount of truth which many people do not like to talk about.

Sadly, the truth always hurts.Knowing something more in life wouldn'thurt. Enriches one's outlook of life and who knows one day he may be the one who is in the picture and will be able to handle the problem easier.

Stories happen daily and its a good way where I see people coming out to share their stories and views. But other than talking about the thread topic, (concentrating on personal attacks, flamings instead), i wouldn't be bothered to reply other than replying back on thread topic.

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[TooFast]

Maybe I will be a bit more direct about my experience so you guys can make judgement. I believe I have posted a brief version in SM's thread. But here's the recap.

About 1 year ago, I met this chiang rai ger in L4H23. First session and we have a lot of chemistry. She can speak decent english and a bit of mandarin. I was told by her that she is half chinese half thai.

I never talk to her alot because language was an issue, so basically it's just pay, make love, hug hug, massage then go. But the GF feeling she give was really comfortable. I think with each visit, the feeling gets stronger lor.

I did intend to woo her, but I also got read the stories here and how one can end up being a sad fuck. I also read Private Dancer and that sort of instill more doubt in the relationship. Is it better to just keep the relationship a client-based one?

I thought a lot about it. I even lose a lot of sleep about it to be honest. I don't know a lot of thing and was so afraid that things might screw up. Also at that time, my dad got retrenched and only my mother is providing the family. If things really go like what the forum say, then how.

Then I visit her one day, she told me she is returning home in a few days. I was a bit shock, only about 3 months and going home liao. But she never say anything about "I like you" that sort of thing. But the sex on that day was remarkable. She even cum. Fake or not, I dunno, but at least she try to make me happy.

Before I leave that day, I was wondering if I should get her address or not. But in the end I never. I go home and I start to think again. Should ask or not? Should I tell her how I feel or not?
And with that I thought for 2 days straight.
Then I decide, aiya ask address nia. Won't hurt right. At least I know where she stays. So on the third day, I go down.
Then OKT tell me she ba lei kampong liao.

KNN......so that's how it ends.
Honestly, I still regret that I never ask where she stay.

[TooFast]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

Bro, you have allow some people's personal "sad" experience to affect you as the "whole" truth and that is why you regret what you didn't do, that is to follow your heart and get her address, or to woo her.

I never regret so much until I recently read that out of all sad fucks, there are those who turned out happy fucks also. A bit surprised that time. But everyone has been saying ya, success story got. But always nothing more than 60 words. No process were discussed too, unlike the sad fuck story where every detail has been clearly defined.

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

If you read such books, you should read it like a "novel" and enjoy the book as such, nothing more. And if anyone were to quote to you examples from such books to advise you in any matters, tell them to "fuck off" because it is rediculous to let a book determine your life other than books like the holy bible, koran and of such.

Young and naive back then, on top of that, the author write it so convincingly, I can't help but believe every single word. The ending still etched in my mind though.

[siamcutey]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

No I don't ask why... If I have the spare money I give, If I don't have, I'll just say I don't have. Because for me, it's that simple, want to give, just give, why the fuck need to interogate first? Life is too short to be petty over small matters.

Life is really too short to be petty over small matters.

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[siamcutey]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

Private Dancer and all other books are written by people who wants to make the books into "best sellers" and at most is only 15% accurate or reflects only 15% of the Thai WL society. Authors will of course "claims" this or that credentials to help sell their books even more, and I think it is absurd if any body were to talk the book as the "bible" to even the simpliest Thai culture.

Most books are written by Farangs who, generally does not tells you the truth or hides the facts to make them more "authoritative" (if there's such a word) and as Mr Knows It All, a behaviour that some samsters have already adopted in the postings in these Forums.

I know there are many people who are affected by these books and whenever they come to a cross-road of a relationship, they take the examples from these books to "help" them move on, which is actually very suicidal.

If you read such books, you should read it like a "novel" and enjoy the book as such, nothing more. And if anyone were to quote to you examples from such books to advise you in any matters, tell them to "fuck off" because it is rediculous to let a book determine your life other than books like the holy bible, koran and of such.

My 2 cents worth and waiting for anyone to challenge my views.

Correction in the part where Private Dancer was to be made into a best seller. It wasn't published in hard copy and its an online version. Sad to say the author couldn't make money over his book.

And whether it is 15% accurate, 30% accurate, 50% accurate or even 99.9% accurate, to bring it to the cult status of a religious book is a bit way too exaggerated.

True or false, every individual decide for themselves.

Enjoy the experience, Enjoy the book, Enjoy the Culture, Best of all , Enjoy Life.

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[free]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

Bro, you have allow some people's personal "sad" experience to affect you as the "whole" truth and that is why you regret what you didn't do, that is to follow your heart and get her address, or to woo her.

My 2 cents worth and waiting for anyone to challenge my views.

TV, how right you are. One of the things I have always done is to choose to listen to people like you who have very balanced views, try to understand their perspectives and then seek to apply them to my own life, bearing in mind the similarities and differences. I am glad I had never let ppl with very one-sided views affect my decisions much, except to be perhaps a bit more careful with what I am doing. Some of the things you told me when we met at GM have remained with me.

In a way I have never regretted what I have gone thru, and the 1st gal I haved love with 2 years ago, is back with me today, against all the odds. Cos her behaviour was so untypical of those described by the "one-sided advisors", I had to recognize her for who she is. After 2 years, she is doing what she said she would do - be with me after her Uni graduation, after she had gone thru a long period of "self-imposed" hardship to struggle thru Uni - just to prove to me her love for me is not for the money. She did not want any financial help for me during her final year in the Uni, cos I had questioned her if she loved me or the money I had provided the year before and then she wanted to stay single for her final year to concentrate on her studies. On looking back, she did not have a change of heart. She had simply gone back to her original decision not to be attached while Uni, but I had distracted her.

Whatever has happened between us in the 2 years, it is for both of us to know and for other "busy ones" to speculate if they so wished. Sad part is that she had remained faithful, whereas I have not. The irony now is whether I should allow her to return to me. There are good reasons to do so, for she has proven herself to be who I had thought she was and we had somehow continue to love each other despite "not being together" for 1 year, but there also good reasons to say "NO", for it would also mean hurting another who has given me her heart (and probably also needs me more).

Hope I will be wise enough to choose wisely. And lessen the pains of the one (maybe even 2) whom I will have to say "No" to. The time to make a decision and settle on one is fast approaching. I think it will be before Songkran, cos I can only visit one set of parents at their home then and doing so will also mean a certain level of commitment after.

[ciakpachineng]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

True or false, every individual decide for themselves.

That is a very diplomatic way to put it.... but shouldn't there be "method in the madness" rather than "madness in the method" ....

Originally Posted by free

after she had gone thru a long period of "self-imposed" hardship to struggle thru Uni - just to prove to me her love for me is not for the money. She did not want any financial help for me during her final year in the Uni, cos I had questioned her if she loved me or the money I had provided the year before and then she wanted to stay single for her final year to concentrate on her studies.

First of all, is she a WL? If not, then, perphaps it's not applicable here? My opinion that's all, no offence pls...