Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Thom07]

Originally Posted by SingViet

bro, lots of viet gals of better quality than that in Vietnam.

Haha. Yup. When on the motorbike with gf, I kept glancing left and right. Hehe. When she asked me why I kept looking here and there, I only said I'm just looking around at the building.

For me, I always tell my gf not to wear any make-up or keep it to a minimal. Purpose is to get used to it asap even b4 getting married..

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Bro Sha_Gua75 and killerkiller,

Thanks for the pts. I guess he had bad experience before. Oh well, the pics are making me miss my gf and tempting me to look for 'release'.

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by Thom07

For me, I always tell my gf not to wear any make-up or keep it to a minimal. Purpose is to get used to it asap even b4 getting married..

your gf look ugly without makeup meh

[Thom07]

Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75

your gf look ugly without makeup meh

Hmm I mean that normally girls with make-up would look much better. But my personal preference is the natural looks. Had a hard time convincing her. I just like the way she looks when she just wake up. Hehe. Might seem weird to others.

[SingViet]

Normally, when your Ba Xa not so pretty, you will tend to want to look at other better ones. Even at bars and discos, you will be on look out for better ones. But if your ba xa is pretty or above average, you will tend to look less as most of them out there cannot compare to your ba xa. So what type are you? No matter what, outside fun is just a short fling, love your ba xa and give her happiness if your ba xa can go thru a few years of ups and downs with you and still stick with you, then she is really the right one for you

[Thom07]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Normally, when your Ba Xa not so pretty, you will tend to want to look at other better ones. Even at bars and discos, you will be on look out for better ones. But if your ba xa is pretty or above average, you will tend to look less as most of them out there cannot compare to your ba xa. So what type are you? ... if your ba xa can go thru a few years of ups and downs with you and still stick with you, then she is really the right one for you

Hmm I find my gf to be above average. Even my female friends also say so. Hehe. I'm the type of guy who would always be 'looking' around only. No harm 'scanning' around for babes right? I only look and see but never touch. I feel that males will always be on the 'lookout' for the opposite sex. Somehow, it seems to be our 2nd nature.

Nowadays, I'm controlling myself not to chiong anymore(my CNY resolution). It had been weeks since I last stepped into a KTV. Or should I say I'm giving up chionging for her?

Yup, if all goes well during these few years, I am definitely going to ROM with her. And, I do hope she is the one for me.

BTW, Thanks for the pts.

Bored and alone at home so kept logging in and off.

[Intel Ops]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

this morning went to ICA to apply for extension of stay for my future bxa! waiting for 3.5 hours, KNN ended up cannot extend.

ICA officer told me my ROM date is about 2months away, so cannot extend for me. the ICA officer tell to go other country and bring her in again.

ANy bro here encounter this problem, please advise me!!!!!! i feel like official writing to president of SG>>>>>

Hi Bro, so how is it now ?

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by Intel Ops

Hi Bro, so how is it now ?

think that history roi

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by Thom07

Hmm I mean that normally girls with make-up would look much better. But my personal preference is the natural looks.

IMHO i thk majority of the viet gals do not make-up often.

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by Intel Ops

Hi Bro, so how is it now ?

S_G hv given u the answer.

[Thom07]

Hi all Bros, if this is not the place to write about this then pardon me ok? This is a real-life situation and I’m not making up the story. I just wanna hear some views on this and perhaps we could have a mini discussion and keep this thread on the first page.

Last week, my gf told me an incident that happened to her friend which makes my blood boil and pity her friend. Father passed away and the elder brother and sister act blur and didn't help out with the funeral. Keep saying no money then bo pian. I was like: "Hey, this is your father and how could you behave like that?" In the end, the friend had to borrow money for the funeral. My gf also can’t afford to lend much when her friend came to her house asking for help.

I thought that the end of this but I was very very wrong.

Only just yesterday, I thought I saw that friend at my gf house while on yahoo with her. From the small webcam window, I could see that she was sobbing in a corner or was she not?

Me: Who came to your house to play?
Gf: Ah vi (name of that friend)
Me: Ok.
Me: I think she is crying but not sure.
Gf: Really?? I go see her you don’t angry me ok
Me: Ok.

About 10 mins later,
Gf: Sorry today vi cry a lot
Me: Why she cry?
Gf: She argue with brother then brother hit her.
Me: Hit? Why brother hit?
Gf: They argue about their father thing.
Gf: Her brother not good.

As the conversation goes on, this is what I gathered. As they were supposed to do the weekly rituals for their deceased father, the 1st one was done by vi. (In this aspect, they seems to do the same as us in S’pore) Yesterday, during the afternoon, Vi ask her brother to do the 2nd one because she need to go to work but her brother refused. He said that CNY is coming so he don’t want to do. I was flabbergasted when I heard this. Such an unfilial son. Even worse than a bastard. This also anger Vi greatly and as a result, an argument erupted. In the midst of the argument, her brother punched her. This is a guy who is hen-pecked and doesn’t even dare to disobey his wife and yet he punched her own sister. Not once but a few times as a matter of fact. I did manage to see Vi’s face while consoling her. There were indeed a few visible bruises there and who knows the extend of damage in her other parts of the body.

Now, I want to send the most venomous sms(curse) of VN words to this ‘brother’ because we are acquaintances no more. For the first time in my life, I feel like ‘killing’ someone. I can’t believe that such people actually exist and that I knew him. Whenever I read about similar cases in the news, I don’t really feel anything. However, this is a wholly different experience. Perhaps such is common in many countries but when this actually happens to someone who you consider to be a friend, it changes the whole equation.

Thanks for bearing with me. I guess I need an outlet to vent my thoughts. Personally, I feel that Vi is a good girl and deserve a much better siblings. FYI, Vi is definitely not a WL in case there is any misunderstanding.

Hmm for the sms, I would need some inputs because my tieng viet really cmi. Your views on this? Is such case common? Let starts the ball rolling…

Thom

[gremio82]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok
this morning went to ICA to apply for extension of stay for my future bxa! waiting for 3.5 hours, KNN ended up cannot extend.

ICA officer told me my ROM date is about 2months away, so cannot extend for me. the ICA officer tell to go other country and bring her in again.

ANy bro here encounter this problem, please advise me!!!!!! i feel like official writing to president of SG>>>>>


Sorry for bringing this up again. My nephew recently went ICA to try to extend his going-to-be wife and got told the most is 1 month extention. She came over at Dec end and going ROM at March end. Thats mean Fen end she needs to go back and come again.

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by Thom07

Now, I want to send the most venomous sms(curse) of VN words to this ‘brother’ because we are acquaintances no more.

Hmm for the sms, I would need some inputs because my tieng viet really cmi.

forget about the sms and move on. It will bring u nothing but trouble

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by gremio82

Sorry for bringing this up again. My nephew recently went ICA to try to extend his going-to-be wife and got told the most is 1 month extention. She came over at Dec end and going ROM at March end. Thats mean Fen end she needs to go back and come again.

This is ICA rule and regulation, she hv to go back first becos of the only 1 mth extention rule. after rom she can apply for long term social visit pass and at the same time apply for PR. for more info can ask bro SV.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

This is ICA rule and regulation, she hv to go back first becos of the only 1 mth extention rule. after rom she can apply for long term social visit pass and at the same time apply for PR. for more info can ask bro SV.

That's why my ear itchy... my name mentioned again.. hahahha. from my knowledge, no matter if you have booked your ROM date 3 mths or 2 mths later, one day the lady not married to you officially by law, she is still not allowed to stay in singapore for long. Best is for your ba xa to be in singapore 10 days before ROM, this is the safest and need not wait for damm long at ICA and realised later that cannot extend. Think about it, any tom dick and harry can say the viet gal and him ROm 3 mths later, but whether will really ROM, no one will know until that actual day. ICA doesn't want this to be used as excuse for viet or China WL to stay longer term in singapore.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Thom07

Hi all Bros, if this is not the place to write about this then pardon me ok? This is a real-life situation and I’m not making up the story. I just wanna hear some views on this and perhaps we could have a mini discussion and keep this thread on the first page.

Thom

Bro, not to pour cold water, but only believe 30% of what the viet gals say. I do understand that your future BA XA will marry you soon, but i will think that its better to only fully trust her after she has officially marry you for 2 years or more. If you do know how the vietnamese view foreigners, you will understand why i say this. You need to stay in vietnam for a few years and mix with the locals daily before you can understand. Even for my wife, i didn't trust her fully till 2 years after marriage when she has shown to me that she's worth the trust. Staying together is very different from dating, plus vietnamese are always full of ideas on how to trick foreigners. Get married first and let her prove her worth to you before throwing in all the trust