My Fillial Daughter

[Snuber]

Originally Posted by Hakoshu

Yes, agree totally.. No pt forcing them either... So normally i would respect their decision.. And i would always treat their parents like my own..

From your earlier posting, I supposed the both of you are no longer together?

Guess it's all tears during the breaking up part. Sad to know that lovers can't be together though very much in love.

As for parents, it doesn't apply to the TGs only. Which husband doesn't want his wife to treat his mum like her own & live in harmony?

[Hakoshu]

Sadly to say.. No longer together.. but can never be forgotten.. The parents actually played a major influence in her life.. Too much and big.. I feel its abnormal.. Maybe i wasn't an obedient kid.. So bro snubber, how's urs?

Originally Posted by Snuber

From your earlier posting, I supposed the both of you are no longer together?

[Snuber]

Originally Posted by Hakoshu

Sadly to say.. No longer together.. but can never be forgotten.. The parents actually played a major influence in her life.. Too much and big.. I feel its abnormal.. Maybe i wasn't an obedient kid.. So bro snubber, how's urs?

See some similarities in both our characters & story here.

Going to give it my final shot trying to let her see the bigger pic. If it still doesn't work out, it's better to call it quits since it will be better & less painful this way. No point dragging on.

Remember TV mentioned earlier here that how can she be "lucky" to have someone who loves her so much & vice versa, yet leave her. Well, it depends on individual, i would say.

Wish me luck!

[Hakoshu]

U will have all the luck, wish me luck too
haha

Originally Posted by Snuber

See some similarities in both our characters & story here.

Wish me luck!

[Snuber]

Originally Posted by Hakoshu

U will have all the luck, wish me luck too
haha

Okie! Same goes for you! Same story AGAIN for your side or what?

[Hakoshu]

Eh.. Will be making a trip there... Wat's ur incident/case?

Originally Posted by Snuber

Okie! Same goes for you! Same story AGAIN for your side or what?

[TooFast]

Nice story TV. Finally get to see what is like as the lucky one.

I think the forum should have a fair share of success stories.
Too many negativity has been spreaded about the thai gers.

Hope to read more success stories in the future

[honda_jazz88]

Hey,

Me want to contribute my story here. It doesnt involve me but a close friend of mine. I will put in a fake name. to many it may sounds like a fairy tale but it is a true story. Here how it goes,

this friend of mine was an enginneer in a govt related firm. He is engaged to his NUS gal friend and plans for marriage. Like me, he too bong quite a bit esp in G area. Thru me and another close friend of mine, we recommend him to a gal to bonk. as her service is damn good.. it was 4 yrs ago. Soon he fall for her and decide to break off with his present gal friend for her. At that time, we discovered that it is difficult for him to marry her as she working here and she is a pros. our common friend went to internet to search and finally we "managed" to get her back to her hometown via "legal" means. Once she back there, my friend flew over, get her name changed and marry her. I was surprised that the marriage last till now. and she is the mother of 2 kids to him within 4 yrs. Thou at the wedding dinner (so call), a simple one, none of my friends who bonk her dare to attend the wedding as we felt embrassed. Imagine, few of us bonk her before.

Thou they have quarrels and disputes but honestly as compared to local gals, they really know how to treat the husband well and a good daughter in law. Like the bro abv when her husband got retrenched when the govt firm privateised, she help in family income till he got a job in 2 month time.

Right now they are happily staying in a apt in g. Like abv, she is blur to singapore and not much friends but she adapt to here well.

thats my story..

[TooFast]

Thanks for sharing your friend's story

[Snuber]

Originally Posted by TooFast

I think the forum should have a fair share of success stories.
Too many negativity has been spreaded about the thai gers.

Actually, the toughest part is the duration when you just started out with the girl & the following 1 year. But then, most people find it too unbearable that they gave up, with most citing negative reasons.

While those who managed to see & reached the end of the other side, are enjoying the fruits of it.

Success story or not, it depends on your girl & you.

[chinaboy]

This is by far the most informative and educative thread and only happen to come across it recently and have spend the past 3 days reading it in between my work in the office.

And many thanks to bro SC, TV, JohnTeo, Snuber, Naemlo and many others for contributing and sharing their opinions, feedbacks, advises and stories ...
and kudos to bro SC for starting this thread which is so meaningful ...

This thread has given me an insight into the life of WLs in thailand ...
and i've learned a lot from it ... and hope i can make good use of it ..

Honestly i am starting to fall into the same situation with a gal that i recently get to know in BKK ....
although everything is in very early stage but i know it will be a matter of time if i do not implies any self control over such situation ...
and the deeper i go, the harder it will be for me to get out ...
and the pain and hurt will be unbearable ....

No one can understand the pain, hurt, frustrations and problems unless one have gone through it .....
there are many sad stories in here and it's really hurt to know that such culture actually do exist ...

i always feel sorry for those gals in the fish tank ...
imagine the long hours they've to sit there and wait for customers ....
and not knowing when or what type of customers they've to serve ..
and now, knowing that they sent their hard-earned money back to their home for their parents, brothers or sister or even b/f for reasons beyond our understanding is really sad ....
and the gals feel that it is their duty and are obliged to do it ...
it's really sad ...

of course, there are also success stories and it's a blessing that thing work out well for them ...
it takes a lot for 2 ppl to be together ... and even more when they're of different culture and so far apart ...
therefore one should value the relationship and make the best out of it ...
it's easy said than done ... and that's truth ..
that's why it's never a easy task for 2 ppl to be together ...

i read bro TooFast case about how he's undecided about getting the contact of the gal he has feeling for .. in the end when he make up his mind, the gal has already left town ...
i used to behave like him when i was a lot younger ... undecisive and unconfident of oneself ... and regret later for not doing what i should have done in the first place instead of hestitaing ...

Now I believe one should live life to it fullest ....
Do what u believe u have to ... your inner self is the best "conductor" ...
if your consicious mind do not trigger it, than it's probably a "nothing" ..
but if u have to make a decision, than do what u believe u must ...
it's not about right or wrong ...
2 wrongs do not make a right ...

at the end of the day, when we lay down on our bed ...
asked ourself this question:
"did i regret not doing what i should have done today" ????

[vmtech]

IMHO, WL's fairytale ending can be true.. if the sg guy goes over to stay....
but of cuz .. if it's other way round.. quite hard...
i myself.. is really figuring out how to bring my tirak back to sg to stay
wonder if bros here noe how, be it legal or illegal. this alone is giving a spliting headache, let alone trying to get married in sg or wadever..

at a lost..
my tirak just went back to her homeland 2 days ago...

[bollocksman]

Originally Posted by vmtech

IMHO, WL's fairytale ending can be true.. if the sg guy goes over to stay....
but of cuz .. if it's other way round.. quite hard...
i myself.. is really figuring out how to bring my tirak back to sg to stay
wonder if bros here noe how, be it legal or illegal. this alone is giving a spliting headache, let alone trying to get married in sg or wadever..

at a lost..
my tirak just went back to her homeland 2 days ago...

here is the most straightforward method ( Not the easiest though)
. Mind you it will take a while , timeframe is in Years then again, its doesnt really matter if it is true love/true tirak level.

ask her go home, make another passport/ID card, under sister/cousin/relative's name.

Enrol her in a local night skool, get her to complete her education, after that enrol her in uni, graduate in something useful like Bis ad/Accountancy/Media.
in the meanwhile get her some formal english language lessons too.

Marry her under a new name. then wait for PR application ( I am working under the assumption that if the ICA, deems her to be skilled, and have qualifications, her application could be easier)..

its not the most easiest way, as I have mentioned..

as for this thread being the fillal daughter, then u also must be prepared to be the fillial Son-in -law too

[TooFast]

Originally Posted by bollocksman

ask her go home, make another passport/ID card, under sister/cousin/relative's name.

Marry her under a new name. then wait for PR application ( I am working under the assumption that if the ICA, deems her to be skilled, and have qualifications, her application could be easier).

No need so troublesome la. Go to the adult forum and read thailand marriage.

[asdfghjkl]

good move thai!