Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[FL Lover]

To the bro who zapped me saying that I have nothing to do after I post a msg in this thread.....

TRUE... you are right.. I really have nothing to do in my office right now, good pay and I have the time to read SBF. What do you think? I love my job.

If you want to zap me, at least put a more sensible reason rather than using silly reason just for the purpose of zapping.

Sad.. the purpose of this forum is to share ideas whether you agreed or not agreed. but there are "bro" who just could not accept new ideas, stubborn or always think they are right in their decision.

Anyway who cares abt the Fxxk in the points, as long as I get good advise from other bros in SBF. Indeed I have learnt a lot from bros here.

My advise to the BOI Liao BRO, continue with your zapping. Really immature. At most, just recreate another account.

Originally Posted by SingViet

hmmm.. should i take your statement positively or negatively?

Not all singaporean man who marry Vietnamese gals comes from low-income group. There's a terrible misconception that as long as you marry a vietnamese gal, you have bought her from the matchmaking agency. This is terribly wrong. There are many Vietnamese spouse in Singapore that are married to high income and highly educated singaporean man. I have several real life cases.

(1) Vietnamese lady married to Singaporean man. Singaporean man's family the largest shareholder of regional logistics company. Singaporean man educated to Masters level in Australia. Now GM of the logisitcs company, earning in excess of S$250,000 per annum. Stays in Condo, drives new Merc SUV, 3.5L

(2) Vietnamese lady married to Singaporean man. Singaporean man Doctorate in Finance from top UK University, now businessman plying the region. Earn in excess S$150,000 per annum. Drives new 3.2 L SUV.

(3) Vietnamese lady married to Singaporean man. Singaporean man engineer in MNC. Degree holder. Earns a normal salary of around S$60,000 per annum. Vietnamese wife working in private school's marketing, earning around S$25,000 per annum. Stays in 4 room flat and drives a 3 year old 1.6L sedan.


The main thing is that these couples are happily married. Although there are also many vietnamese ladies married to poor singaporean chaps, but we shouldn't just equate Singaporean man with vietnamese wife as `poor and uneducated'

And these couples met somewhere by themselves and is no way linked to matchmaking agencies. Times have changed, its not the singaporean man kanna rejected by singaporean ladies, but its the other way round now. Many Singaporean man have rejected the idea of marrying local singaporean gals after some bad experiences with them.

Bro SingViet, you wrote & explained well. Highly educated & income Singapore men did rejected the ideas of marry local sg gals instead Singapore men go for better foreign ladies. In today society Singapore men did not have the kind of traditional thinking that Sg men must marry Sg women

[hitman69]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro Hitman, the MTV makes it sounds like marriage is going to be really very very tough

Ya, this is how I feel too. I feel that marriage is not easy, need a lot of commitment n sacrifice. In my life, I had twice nearly got into marriage, first was with a singapore gal n the second was a vietnamese. Both I had let them down. I really had this phobia of getting married. I can't image how am I going to face a same woman n live with her for the rest of my life. I cannot image I was been tied up!! I believe Passion will fade off one day, n by then there is nothing left.

如果感情变淡，当初她的忧点都会变成缺点，你会样样都看她不顺眼。甚至觉得她很碍眼，恨不得她立刻从你生命 中消失!!从前她一个电话，本来开车路程需要半个钟头，你可以"飘移"在十五分赶到(比周洁伦的AE86还 历害!!!)。现在就连她已经在你家楼下了，你都会懒得下楼去接她!!从前跟她做爱两三次后，隔天还可以直 接去上班而且还很精神。但如果你不再爱她了，就连她主动过来抱你想和你做爱，你都会觉得她很贱!!人都是会 变的，感情也在变。

Nothing is forever in this world. That's why we need law n paper to maintain a marriage. Of course there are a lot of successful marriage, but at least to me is impossible, because I am a selfish n irresponsible guy. I dun know whether my mentality will change in the furture, but my current mindset is to remain single for the rest of my life.

I am not trying to be negative or what. but just that bro singviet happened to ask, so i just answer. However this is my own mentality. I believe that marriage can be very happiness, but not to me. I alway envy those who r getting married n have a happy family, but not to me. My path is difference from others, I choose freedom.

[jackbl]

Congrats! Chuc A hanh phuc mai mai!

Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75

Been Busy These Few Weeks But.........
Tmr Shall Be My Vietnam Customary Marriage In HCMC

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by hitman69

Ya, this is how I feel too. I feel that marriage is not easy, need a lot of commitment n sacrifice. In my life, I had twice nearly got into marriage, first was with a singapore gal n the second was a vietnamese. Both I had let them down. I really had this phobia of getting married. I can't image how am I going to face a same woman n live with her for the rest of my life. I cannot image I was been tied up!! I believe Passion will fade off one day, n by then there is nothing left.

如果感情变淡，当初她的忧点都会变成缺点，你会样样都看她不顺眼。甚至觉得她很碍眼，恨不得她立刻从你生命 中消失!!从前她一个电话，本来开车路程需要半个钟头，你可以"飘移"在十五分赶到(比周洁伦的AE86还 历害!!!)。现在就连她已经在你家楼下了，你都会懒得下楼去接她!!从前跟她做爱两三次后，隔天还可以直 接去上班而且还很精神。但如果你不再爱她了，就连她主动过来抱你想和你做爱，你都会觉得她很贱!!人都是会 变的，感情也在变。

Nothing is forever in this world. That's why we need law n paper to maintain a marriage. Of course there are a lot of successful marriage, but at least to me is impossible, because I am a selfish n irresponsible guy. I dun know whether my mentality will change in the furture, but my current mindset is to remain single for the rest of my life.

I am not trying to be negative or what. but just that bro singviet happened to ask, so i just answer. However this is my own mentality. I believe that marriage can be very happiness, but not to me. I alway envy those who r getting married n have a happy family, but not to me. My path is difference from others, I choose freedom.

Bro Hitman, i admire you for your understanding of your own character and ideas. there are many guys around in society that cannot accept the responsibilities that come with marriage. Marriage is not a game, it requires sacrifice and responsibility. If one cannot give up the freedom that one has when one is single, then better remain single. There are far too many divorces in society nowadays and too many children coming from single parents.

Have you ever wondered why are there so many ang moh marriage counsellors? The western countries registered the highest divorce rates and why are these ang moh marriage counsellors still coming to asia to teach asians about marriage? hehehhe

[Honey Boon]

Bro, I feel getting married and some kind of freedom to cheong can still co-exist to certain extend. Depends how you play the game

Originally Posted by SingViet

If one cannot give up the freedom that one has when one is single, then better remain single. There are far too many divorces in society nowadays and too many children coming from single parents.

[FL Lover]

To continue on with the discussion... I am married for years but I am still enjoying my life as well as married life. Who said once married, your life is over... It is just a path that everyone must cross.

Of course there are certain things that you need to know when u r married. More RESPONSIBILITES.

But end of the day.. play is just play, make sure u take care of your wife, kids and family afterall they will be the one standing by u when u r in trouble.

I always make sure that I have time for my family commitment. As for cheonging, there is an old saying, "if today cannot, u still have plenty of times to do that"

[papillon30]

Originally Posted by hitman69

Ya, this is how I feel too. I feel that marriage is not easy, need a lot of commitment n sacrifice. In my life, I had twice nearly got into marriage, first was with a singapore gal n the second was a vietnamese. Both I had let them down. I really had this phobia of getting married. I can't image how am I going to face a same woman n live with her for the rest of my life. I cannot image I was been tied up!! I believe Passion will fade off one day, n by then there is nothing left.

如果感情变淡，当初她的忧点都会变成缺点，你会样样都看她不顺眼。甚至觉得她很碍眼，恨不得她立刻从你生命 中消失!!从前她一个电话，本来开车路程需要半个钟头，你可以"飘移"在十五分赶到(比周洁伦的AE86还 历害!!!)。现在就连她已经在你家楼下了，你都会懒得下楼去接她!!从前跟她做爱两三次后，隔天还可以直 接去上班而且还很精神。但如果你不再爱她了，就连她主动过来抱你想和你做爱，你都会觉得她很贱!!人都是会 变的，感情也在变。

Nothing is forever in this world. That's why we need law n paper to maintain a marriage. Of course there are a lot of successful marriage, but at least to me is impossible, because I am a selfish n irresponsible guy. I dun know whether my mentality will change in the furture, but my current mindset is to remain single for the rest of my life.

I am not trying to be negative or what. but just that bro singviet happened to ask, so i just answer. However this is my own mentality. I believe that marriage can be very happiness, but not to me. I alway envy those who r getting married n have a happy family, but not to me. My path is difference from others, I choose freedom.

Life is about making choices. The most important thing is to be happy.

[gstringgal]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Congrats! Chuc A hanh phuc mai mai!
Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75
Been Busy These Few Weeks But.........
Tmr Shall Be My Vietnam Customary Marriage In HCMC

My Congrats to Bro Sha_Gua75 too...
Welcome to our SG.VN wife club too...
Well...may be yr next post will be yr bxa pregnant liao...haha
I married since 2006...now my boy 5 months liao also...kekeke

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

Bro, I feel getting married and some kind of freedom to cheong can still co-exist to certain extend. Depends how you play the game

Really very true, must know how to wipe ur month after cheonging.

[u3ishingu]

Dear bros,

My friend of mine is facing a problem, he had ROM with a gal from vietnam and has applied for a long term social visit pass, but kanna rejected, ICA only give a 6 mths non-renewal pass. But he would like his wife to be here and nt go back. Any suggestions? I nv faced this so i dunno how to advise.

Pls help!!

[Honey Boon]

I had my fair share of "almost kena caught" experiences, almost dropped dead. But after so many years of cheonging, so far so good.

Originally Posted by Torres_Mok

Really very true, must know how to wipe ur month after cheonging.

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by gstringgal

My Congrats to Bro Sha_Gua75 too...
Welcome to our SG.VN wife club too...
Well...may be yr next post will be yr bxa pregnant liao...haha
I married since 2006...now my boy 5 months liao also...kekeke

wah...so long never see u post... cam on nhieu nhieu now reporting from Danang

[deptrai4u]

Originally Posted by CYMA1862

Bro SingViet, you wrote & explained well. Highly educated & income Singapore men did rejected the ideas of marry local sg gals instead Singapore men go for better foreign ladies. In today society Singapore men did not have the kind of traditional thinking that Sg men must marry Sg women

Yah, damn bloody right!

Many times, Singapore men goes to ROM to marry Singapore women, later then realise ROM = Registrar Of Mistakes!

[AlanPHD]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

Yah, damn bloody right!

Many times, Singapore men goes to ROM to marry Singapore women, later then realise ROM = Registrar Of Mistakes!

Agreed 100% cos most of my bros who marry a S'porean woman got divorce including me.