Sibei sianz with life.. non-relationship stuff

[mike1304k]

Originally Posted by ilurbu

Having been retrenched for months on end, I cannot bear but continue to grit my teeth, tighten my belt and swallow my pride.. I have succumbed to accepting monetary gifts from my gf, asking for help from my parents and teaching English for $20/hr.

I have many plans ranging from photographic practices, car modification garages, nanotechnology programs but all requiring relatively massive amounts of greenbacks in these economically confused times.

Confused because people are not even sure what the hell's going on. Like drones, they repeat "downturn, recession, economic disaster, financial tsunami", I wonder if they know that certain aspects of life doesn't need to change and many more aspects of operations do not need serious sacrifices? I might sound like I say this in spite but I suppose I'm not for one to judge since I'm on the receiving end of the downsizing hammer.

Distribution of wealth is never fair and how can we obtain an edge? That is the proverbial million dollar question. There are people poorer than I am, richer than I am.. everybody's shit is worse than the next one in line.

Thanks to SBF, I'm just popping by for a rant...

Hi TS,

Sori to hear about your unfortunate situation. It is true that the economy is not good and a lot of people are suffering out there. Though a lot of people still do not know or do not want to accept that fact and are acting like there is no tomolo.

One thing you can be proud of is that you have the support of your loved ones and also the ability to try and make money from other places. Kudos to you for that.

Always remember this... If you are sad about not being able to buy a shoe, think about the guy who has no legs to buy a shoe for.. I always think about this when I am down and remember that there are others who are in a worse situation than me. The uncle who has given his life to a company and now the company is bankrupt so he is out of work. He cannot find a job any where because of his age and he has no skills. He has to make do somehow or other. I saw this is Japan so often, guys who lose their jobs just wearing their suits everyday and walking to the park because they have nothing else to do and yet it feels so unnatural not to put on a suit and go out everyday.

No matter how low we get, we must hold our heads up high and tell ourselves, there is a tomorrow and as long as there is a tomorrow, there is a chance.

[cqueen]

Many seek illumination

by lighting up a lamp,

when the true light

is within

[lacoruna69]

This is what LIFE is all about. No wonder they say Sinkies are softies, little bit of hard times start to complain....Haiz.
Wake up, small boy.

[fl saviour]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Life...what is life?
Life is what you want & obtaining wealth and your every desire????
That makes you complete?
Health is wealth..and most importantly, the one most important aspect that completes your wealth , is your family.
Many people seek false wealth and thus, they are never contented.
Look in, not out to seek your fulfillment and you wont feel so empty.
As to a job and starting a new biz, this is all in the mind & how you actually place them strategically to get your funds rolling in will depend on your own self.
I know people who lost their jobs for almost 4yrs, couldnt get 1 in the 1st 2 and was almost devastated by their self pity and low morale.....
But this bloke forgot, his wife works, still encourages him and never once looked down on him, his mother buys makan for him everyday for breakfast & lunch...not forgetting, the wife still puts 10bucks in his wallet everyday afraid he might need it for something.....fyi, his wife only draws 3k a month.....but why only he feel pity for himself?????
EGO dude...EGO......this is what makes a man & what destroys a man......
If you're so enterprising, try freelancing, it'll definitely pay more than being on a salary, of cos, that's if you really got the stuff......
My last piece of advise to you is something I've posted here thousands of times already & trust me, someone in your mental state should engrave it in your mind.....
什么都是死的，人是活的！
If you can understand this, nothing will bother you anymore.....
Take care my friend, you choose to lead your life, but life can never make you choose what you dun wanna......

wa low eh bo, si bay chim la the way u talk.. even me now low spirits cos no business now also start thinking over wat u say now.. kam sia kam sia ur words..tk gd care.. and wish all bros here gd luck and most importantly is happy bonking!

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by ilurbu

I have many plans ranging from photographic practices, car modification garages, nanotechnology programs but all requiring relatively massive amounts of greenbacks in these economically confused times.

It appears pretty obvious that you don't have a real interest in any of the above fields.

You're not going to be successful in any of the above if your plans involve a "pot luck" approach. You have to be passionate about something before you have a hope in hell of making it a success.

[lovemachine]

hi boss, its quite true but do note, not many people have a true passion.

its not easy. let him bump around and find out more about what he likes

and by the way boss you must be making hell a lot from sammyboy eh?

[Gaofar]

I've been reading the thread earnestly as I have also been out of work for about 3 months before until recently have managed to find a job about a month ago..

It is indeed a trying time for me then as the initial phase it seems that I am in denial that I have problem and need to do something about it.. Couple of times I have broke down when I can't take in anymore and have even contemplating suicide..

Somehow, I manage to pull through and now, though the salary is not much and had a load of debts on my back, I have learn that it's a matter of your will power and determination, yet with a sense of sensibility to your plan. Fanciful ideas is great but must be viable. Till that end, I'm waiting till I've amassed a bit of savings first before trying out a new trade. Currently I'm also taking on another job just to supplement the first one so I can earn more.

Actually at my darkest hours yet, I've came across a statement from one of the post from one of our bros here (can't really remember, sorry) that truly inspires me: If the world wants me dead, they have better kill me right now. 'Cause should I manage to stand back up on my feet again, I'll make sure that I would not be back to this sorry state I was before again!

Just a question for those who started their own businesses: Is it true that you need passion for the trade you are in before you can make the company a success? Couldn't it be that due to market current and future demands you have a company that provide the needs, without the passion?

Cheers and regards, and Happy Father's Day to all!

[m3a41617]

Dun be sad. life goes on. life is like a box of chocolate. you will never know when you will got it.. there up and down in life. once we are still alive there always opportunity.

Happy father day.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

I do believe there's passion involved, but the passion is $$$$ driven.....
Realistic circumstances will make you throw your passion into the dustbin and do something with a higher $$$$$ yeild over passion.

[D_Silver]

Originally Posted by Gaofar

~snip~

Just a question for those who started their own businesses: Is it true that you need passion for the trade you are in before you can make the company a success? Couldn't it be that due to market current and future demands you have a company that provide the needs, without the passion?

Cheers and regards, and Happy Father's Day to all!

There must be some passion. Passion to earn buttload of $$ from your business or passion to be successful (the $$ comes as a consequence to being successful) or passion to make your family as comfortable as you can, whatever it is, there must be something driving you.

Its true that passion may not be the only factor to determine if your business fails or succeeds, but its one hell of a motivator when you're going thru a rough patch.

[lacoruna69]

Originally Posted by Gaofar

It is indeed a trying time for me then as the initial phase it seems that I am in denial that I have problem and need to do something about it.. Couple of times I have broke down when I can't take in anymore and have even contemplating suicide..

Actually at my darkest hours yet, I've came across a statement from one of the post from one of our bros here (can't really remember, sorry) that truly inspires me: If the world wants me dead, they have better kill me right now. 'Cause should I manage to stand back up on my feet again, I'll make sure that I would not be back to this sorry state I was before again!

That statement is not from me, but I like it.
Another good one which always believed in :-
山穷水尽疑无路，柳暗花明又一村o 天无絶人之路o Bite the bullet and go through.
If it doesn't kill you; it's going to make you stronger!!

I had been though a rough patch before, wanted to jump down from flat, but I decided to stick with it and bite the bullet. Now, I'm even better than before.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

The moral of the story is simple actually....
FACE IT...this lesson will make you only stronger...
Cos if it ever does happen again, you're already well equipped mentally to how to deal wif it.
Escapism or try to run from it, yeah, you may escape it, but the fear in you of it happening again will already freak you half out, worst, if it does happen again, chances are, you'll jump.....
This is life...again like i always say, choice.....
What you choose will determine the outcome......
Happy Father's Day to all you daddies out there

[RPM2007]

Hi Bro,

Sorry bout your job loss. I know the feeling of being thrown out into the open sea without any safety net.

I'm in the same boat as you not only for the job loss but also teaching to get some income for the time being. Think on the bright side bro..20/hr will be for temporary...if you continue to teach soon u'll reach 50/hr and more then financial situation won't be so tight.

Always try to keep a positive mindset and stay away from any thoughts that can demoralize or bring you down bro. Times are bad but we have to tell ourselves..

whatever that doesn't kill us will makes us stronger bro!!!

[Flinger2]

Originally Posted by Gaofar

Just a question for those who started their own businesses: Is it true that you need passion for the trade you are in before you can make the company a success? Couldn't it be that due to market current and future demands you have a company that provide the needs, without the passion?

Cheers and regards, and Happy Father's Day to all!

I haven't started a business, tried to a couple of times, but not possible.

Learned a couple of things. just my humble opinion.

1. You need passion for what you are doing in order to go through the tough times and long nights etc....

2. Passion for the trade is one thing, but you also need to be realistic and do whatever is necessary to survive and grow.

3. You might be the best in the business, but you might get the contract, as there are more factors than that.

regards .

[Oceanlee]

There are 02 different issue here, 1 being raised by TS itself and the latter intertwined to coping with jobloss to being enterprenuer spirit.

Allow me to share abit and I will be as candid to this approach.

Jobless is how you look at it. You are at the mercy of the company or Management, but then out of JOB, do not mean you will SIT on benches.
I had experience that too either I FIRE you, or You FIRE me.
Never for a moment, I doubt about my motto " 走出去,就有路" - Do not build an unncessary boundary and limit yourself, but rather liberate your mind, coz it knows no bounds. (Be Pro-active) abit of AH Q mentality or Never say Die Attitude. I class it as 3 "A" and attitude is 1 of them.

Learn from those who are wise, and the failure of teachers which teaches you at each hurdle.
(needless to mentioned that you had the ability and acknowledge which is the basic for the job - next to this will be your attitude and commitment)

As for TS, you need to understand you are at which juncture of life in terms of your career, lovelife and financial ability. I will look more into your career as priority. Where do you forseen yourself if you are employed again, are you ready to lead, or simply a engineer on the job for bread and butter ?
(if given yourself a 5 year plan in a company) with at least 3years> working experience. What is your own projection and VS the actual facts by comparison and career motivation.

Allow me to touch abit on "Freelance", I will provide 2 paths here. Upon you are employed, will you still carry on your moonlights? If yes, I will touch on it later part, If you say "No" to sideline, then where do you position yourself and your future?

(I do not know your background, but for starter or few years of experience you might want to think about "MENTORING")

I will touch on the subject of being enterprenuer and how you work on it at more later part. I believe we have folks here who would like to share something with us pertain to the "building your own business".

That's all for now.
Cheers
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