why guys like to have multiple sex partners?

[samyboys]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

1. Every girl is different. Different skills level, different experience, different level of enjoyment. So guys will want to try as many experience as possible.

Men always looking for new stuff

2. You satisfy him every single time but you only meet him 1-2 weeks in each month. So from a high level of frequency, he suddenly goes cold turkey when you aren't around? The problem will be solved if he's with you every day. Before he leaves for work and immediately after he comes home from work, make him surrender 1 shot of cum each time and I think he will be faithful to you. Unless he's a B52bomber of course! (Hint hint).

Since there's time you both do not have set, he needs someone to keep up the momentum. Being outstation means more opportunity. Are you SURE he is really satisfied by you, or he just say so to please u?

3. Guys can separate sex from love. I don't need love to have sex. Girls are different.

4. The definition of 'faithful' is varied. For a guy, if I don't have love involved, I can still consider myself faithful if I have sex outside. A lot of us here go for massage that ends with a HJ. I think those guys still feel faithful to their wives. We see releasing our urges as an act only... like masterbation. Nothing faithful or unfaithful about it.

quote for truth

[Hawaii88]

Women who have multiple sex partners don't preserve humanity.
Women who actually produce offspring with multiple partners preserve humanity.

[Xgenre]

Sister, a wise female friend of mine once said that maintaining a successful marriage sometimes feel like you are flying a kite. You must learn when to loosen up and when to tighten your grip. When the wife controls the husband too much, that's bad for the marriage. He will rebel. If you control too loosely, he will go find other women for comfort. 1 eye open, 1 eye close. Sometimes when the truth hurts, it's better to be ignorant. For ignorance can be truly blissful.

Do you feel loved by him? If you do, he's a good husband. In the army, guys are trained to 'do anything you want but don't get caught'. A lot of guys still live with this motto. Just because you caught him with 2 affairs doesn't mean he doesn't love you or that he's a lousy husband. He's just a lousy soldier.

Why will you want him to tell you that he has ONS when the truth will hurt you? Why make him tell the truth to you? For what? If you don't probe, he doesn't even need to lie to you and you won't know the painful truth. Isn't that better?

I disagree with your statement that the men here aren't faithful. I think a lot of men are unfaithful. It's just that with us hiding behind a computer screen, a lot more guys here are more inclined to tell you our real views. Ask a guy friend in real life if he will be unfaithful. What do you expect him to say? He will of course be inclined to lie to you that he will be. Don't ask guys questions where we will be inclined to tell you an answer that isn't true but an answer which we think you want to hear from us.

Has your guy ever asked you if you had an orgasm during sex or if you had enjoyed the sex? Ever been in a scenario when you lie and said you did (when you didn't) in order to make his ego feel better? Same scenario, different questions only right?

[hoosdathu]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

For the same reason that gals like to have multiple pairs of shoes.

that's a gd one, Boss

imho, some ppl like to eat ala carte, others like buffet style...

can always pm any of us here if u wanna try buffet anytime

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by missyrach

yes lor! i lack their stupidity... hahaha....

Like your self confidence !


Stupidity is truly shown by the person who zap me here as well

[missyrach]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

Sister, a wise female friend of mine once said that maintaining a successful marriage sometimes feel like you are flying a kite. You must learn when to loosen up and when to tighten your grip. When the wife controls the husband too much, that's bad for the marriage. He will rebel. If you control too loosely, he will go find other women for comfort. 1 eye open, 1 eye close. Sometimes when the truth hurts, it's better to be ignorant. For ignorance can be truly blissful.

Do you feel loved by him? If you do, he's a good husband. In the army, guys are trained to 'do anything you want but don't get caught'. A lot of guys still live with this motto. Just because you caught him with 2 affairs doesn't mean he doesn't love you or that he's a lousy husband. He's just a lousy soldier.

Why will you want him to tell you that he has ONS when the truth will hurt you? Why make him tell the truth to you? For what? If you don't probe, he doesn't even need to lie to you and you won't know the painful truth. Isn't that better?

I disagree with your statement that the men here aren't faithful. I think a lot of men are unfaithful. It's just that with us hiding behind a computer screen, a lot more guys here are more inclined to tell you our real views. Ask a guy friend in real life if he will be unfaithful. What do you expect him to say? He will of course be inclined to lie to you that he will be. Don't ask guys questions where we will be inclined to tell you an answer that isn't true but an answer which we think you want to hear from us.

Has your guy ever asked you if you had an orgasm during sex or if you had enjoyed the sex? Ever been in a scenario when you lie and said you did (when you didn't) in order to make his ego feel better? Same scenario, different questions only right?

Yep! thats what i said of him.... he is dumb enough to get caught... haha..

in my opinion, i would rather he had a ONS, tell me about it, we get wet & horny over it... and have a good bed time. than to have an affair.

ONS - confirm chop sign no feelings mar. but when it comes to repeated ONS with the same girl, won't there be feelings involved?

Love is selfish for a woman. No woman will ever wanna share their man, i believe or maybe that is just my perception.

& if guys like to eat out, why won't they accept their woman eating out too? works both way wat!!.

blah to man's ego!


ANYHOW, can a guy ever change and have self-control over this kinda issues? or its just a guy thing that will never ever change?

[songest]

although i am chinese, but my mandarin cannot make it. maybe i will go google translate later..

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[/QUOTE]

My bad.... allow me to attempt to translate..

男人第一次和女人上床很难，以后越来越容易； (
Translation:
First time for man to bed a woman is hardest, and gets easier subsequently (Start of affair)

女人第一次和男人上床很容易，以后越来越难； (If affair is lust-driven and not love)
Translation:
First time for woman to bed a man is easiest, and will get increasingly difficult
(since the man is just responding to her lust and will get sian since no true love is involved) and the man will subsequently go hunt for the next target of lust, moving from affair to affair.


男人有外遇是因为冲动，女人有外遇是因为无聊。
Translation:
Man having affair is impulse driven.
Woman having affair is driven by boredom.

[missyrach]

Originally Posted by songest

although i am chinese, but my mandarin cannot make it. maybe i will go google translate later..

...

My bad.... allow me to attempt to translate..

男人第一次和女人上床很难，以后越来越容易； (
Translation:
First time for man to bed a woman is hardest, and gets easier subsequently (Start of affair)

女人第一次和男人上床很容易，以后越来越难； (If affair is lust-driven and not love)
Translation:
First time for woman to bed a man is easiest, and will get increasingly difficult
(since the man is just responding to her lust and will get sian since no true love is involved) and the man will subsequently go hunt for the next target of lust, moving from affair to affair.


男人有外遇是因为冲动，女人有外遇是因为无聊。
Translation:
Man having affair is impulse driven.
Woman having affair is driven by boredom.[/QUOTE]

thanks for the translate!!...

[arsenal_84]

if you can't handle the truth about a guy's past, don't ask about it.
sometimes curiosity really kills the cat.
you need to really ask yourself, "can you handle the truth ?"

to be honest, most people can't handle the truth.
often they will need time alone to reorganise their thoughts before proceeding with the next step.

[rudyeo1985]

hmmm well i guess more definition is needed to define "faithful".

1. does going to prostitude / ONS mean unfaithful?
2. or does keeping a mistress mean unfaithful?
3. or does keeping a mistress + treating wife badly = unfaithful?
4. does flirting (no physical) mean unfaithful?

All in all, i guess it is up to individual to define "faithful" bah...

For eg, last time when i was young, i always go club and flirt. I do find ONS and goinf for FLs. (i guess if i was rich enough, i might even 'keep' a lady as FB)

However, for my case, when i got married, i stopped all these stuffs by controlling. If i say "i have no urge at all", its a bluff. But i will force myself away from those enviornment and situations whereby i will "lose control" of myself. Now, my wife have passed away... cant deny the fact that sometimes i have a physical urge... so wat to do? Call FL lor... Do i feel that i am unfaithful? hmmm, sometimes will think about it, different people will have different answers... But for me, i think sometimes guys do have "physical urge", so i guess its not considered unfaithful ba?

To conclude, i think the level of "tolerance" needs to be communicated between you and ur husband bah... this will further strengthen your marriage? Becoz everyone have different level of definitions to this word called "faithfulness". And also you have to sometimes understand other factors... such as "does your husband work in a job where expose him to tempting environments? such as he needs to entertain clients in nightspots and stuffs?" Or "is his "physical urge very high? meaning he will prefer to do it a few times every week, even if you are not with him?" Or "is it that you and him have different definitions on faith?"

I think understanding is the key ba...
Just my 2 cents worth, no offence to any bro or sis here... =)

[kikkiboy76]

frankly, i will stick to my wife too if she can sextisfy me.

I actually have a problem here, my wife do not like sex and we have it like once a month or so. I actually feel damn sian, dunno what to do

Guys, frankly what would you do if you are me? We are married for bout 2 years now, i must confess i do have gf outside. Could the problem be with me that i could not turn her on? whenever i try to advance, she will come out with reasons like tired la, ticklish la etc etc...................haiz...................

Anyone out there will consider the last resort? You guys know what i mean........................

[missyrach]

Originally Posted by rudyeo1985

hmmm well i guess more definition is needed to define "faithful".

I think understanding is the key ba...

totally agree!!!!

Originally Posted by kikkiboy76

frankly, i will stick to my wife too if she can sextisfy me.
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thats nice to hear.... maybe ur wifey know about ur gf, so reject ur moves? or have u tried talking to her?

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by kikkiboy76

frankly, i will stick to my wife too if she can sextisfy me.

I actually have a problem here, my wife do not like sex and we have it like once a month or so. I actually feel damn sian, dunno what to do

Anyone out there will consider the last resort? You guys know what i mean........................

Try professional help ! there are sex counselors etc where ? not very sure . google for it !

[jerkmagnet]

Anybody breeds fishes? Have you all wonder why when breeding fishes we keep to a ratio of 1 male to 3 females?

[lee2001sg]

Originally Posted by kikkiboy76

frankly, i will stick to my wife too if she can sextisfy me.

I actually have a problem here, my wife do not like sex and we have it like once a month or so. I actually feel damn sian, dunno what to do

Guys, frankly what would you do if you are me? We are married for bout 2 years now, i must confess i do have gf outside. Could the problem be with me that i could not turn her on? whenever i try to advance, she will come out with reasons like tired la, ticklish la etc etc...................haiz...................

Anyone out there will consider the last resort? You guys know what i mean........................

I have quite a similar problem with you. And damn, my sexdrive is so high. My solutions then were watching porn and PCC until I discovered this forum. I have been a very bad boy last year. But I promised to cut down this year. Try to discuss this with your wife. I have talked to mine and we try our best to do it every Saturday night as we do not need to work the next day. If you dare, I did jokingly said if you don't give me, then I have to eat outside. I don't know if she heed my words. Maybe she did.

For the sex part, you need to sextisfied your wife before she can sextisfied you. Remember, she is your wife, not FL. She doesn't get paid for this. You want it, you need to work hard for it. Work like a gigolo. Suck her nips. Lick her ears. Paint her. Light fingering. These actions will turn her on. It works for me.