Married Men Vs Single Men ! Married Women Vs Single Women ! Who will be better FBs !

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by silkypussy

However I am inclined towards Married Men based on a few of my own reasonings

Married men are "cleaner" and "safer". Single men on the other hand tend to have more sexual partners. I am sorry, I am being frank and honest. I tend to believe that Single guys are more playing the field on the range more so than Married men.

The other key thing is sexual compatibility. I like older guys, as they can hold better. The connection with an older guy gives me a much more intensive sexual interaction versus a young buck who just wants to cum.

Married men are less possessive and they are also more respectful. Perhaps I should say, the qualities of a FB should be one who is respectful and knows when I say NO, I mean NO. A young buck tends to have their dick rule over their heads.

After Sex, I tend to want to just chitchat for awhile. A young guy will just lay over and smoke or worse still, get up clean and get dressed. .

Lady SP , maturity and sophistication is what you want . someone to simulate you mentally and physically without being burdened by mundane woes of life . Whether its Single or Married or Attached , It depends on how worldy experienced they are and how maturely sound they are in life , not on status . I cannot disagree with you fully but there are certain points that you raised are purely based on generalization and I understand its to your experience and reasonings .

A married man does not guarantee that he is "CLEAN" neither does a single man will not be willing to be exclusive . If married men if they are not playing the field , why would the married men come out in the first place to look for comfort ? The reason is exactly the same for single men ! to find personal solace . And what makes you so sure that a married man will be exclusive to you as well ?

A single guy does not mean that he is a young buck . There are mature guys of mature age that choose to be what they are of presence status "SINGLE" due to some experience and reasoning .

Foreplay , lovemaking and after play . Is fully dependent on how experienced the person you are bedding . His or her personal experience in bed will influence how good the foreplay and the after play as well cos they will know what is frown upon by many and will not do it .

Lady SP , just my two cents worth . No ill intentions meant !

[webb_chiam]

I prefer married ladies as FB.

[jessca]

If both parties wants a purely FB relationship with no emotions involved but just sex. Then I'll say a married women and married man that loves their family a lot. As they have too much to lose to do anything or feel anything stupid.

[ricrain29]

For me its married women I prefer, cause if single women I think it is very hard to define the line in between we are FB or we are in a BF/GF relationship. I think part of the reason is I am still single.

[1stTR]

I hav no preferrence whether married or single as long as Me and the FB knos our own stand and not cross it. Also, both hav to be able to stay discree esp. when happen to bum into each other during functions/events wif our individual spouse/gf/bf, both must b able to react normally.

[Krazzie]

My experience with married ladies shows that they are mostly ladies lacking something at home, love, care and sometimes money and seldom purely for sex (ever met one before, call it off after just one time). Give them what they want and you can have a 'stable' relationship that can last for years.

As for exclusivity, I must say it all depends on the trust between individuals, you can do all the test you want but there will always be the 3 months window. It is much safer, when each other is being honest about their sex partners. One interesting fact I find is that not all ladies are able to handle the truth, she would rather not know told me specifically that she DON'T WANT to know.

I guess it has to do with how man and woman are wired, men can disassociate sex with love, we can just "fuck and forget". But women usually can't. They crave the cuddles, the hugs, the whisper in the ear "I love you" or just a kiss on the forehead.

I think there is a simple reason why most married/divorced ladies are so different from single ladies... They know what its like to live in an environment without love and due to circumstances unable to change it, so they will be more appreciative and more willing to trade for it.

[cncs]

Originally Posted by 1stTR

I hav no preferrence whether married or single as long as Me and the FB knos our own stand and not cross it. Also, both hav to be able to stay discree esp. when happen to bum into each other during functions/events wif our individual spouse/gf/bf, both must b able to react normally.

I second this!! Be it married or single as long as they know when not to cross the line will be a good FB.
I personally prefer married cos less sticky, single may turn into GF relationship afterwhich when it's time to call it quits things just turn nasty. I am not saying all single gals are like that but it is more likely to happen.

[smartke]

Originally Posted by jasdude

A division of camps already ! True ! FB aka fuck buddies or friends with benefits . The emphasis is on whether you place sex more or companionship more on the pedestal . If you are into companionship , a single gal or guy will have more flexibility over a married man or woman . However when sex is the focus , it depends on the schedule of the FB already and whether the frequency matches the needs of the FB as well as the physical aspects of the sex . This type of FB relationship is built on sexual performance and needs and will last only when interest in each other physically exist over time .

dun quite agree FB (Fuck Buddies) is same as Fren wif Benefits aka FwB.

anyway, to each their own. jus voicing my views/opinions.

不敢班门弄斧, 小弟献丑了...

[charisme]

Originally Posted by jasdude

However taking singles guys as FBs will make you more possibly prone to getting emotionally attached too . Do you not fear that ? or are you hoping for something more ?

If u stand firm with what u want in that relationship. I guess u won't be afraid of getting too attached with guy. Just as long u both know where it stands. There are fears of course that one day u will fall for him. But we are all adults and i'm sure we would be able to handle it well and know when to end or put a stop to it when the line has been crossed.

So for me, my choice is still single man..

worse case scenario if either fall for another, at least we know we do not have any commitments to another party and not having to hurt or break up a family.. should the other half finds out.

hoping for something more? in terms of relationship status?

[1stTR]

Originally Posted by cncs

I second this!! Be it married or single as long as they know when not to cross the line will be a good FB.
I personally prefer married cos less sticky, single may turn into GF relationship afterwhich when it's time to call it quits things just turn nasty. I am not saying all single gals are like that but it is more likely to happen.

bro. wait till u experience a married woman who is willing to divorce the husband jus to be wif u then u'll kno. She can even go to ur hse and knock on ur door and smile to say she's jus HAPPENED to be in ur neighbourhood and drop by with fruit basket.

[charisme]

Originally Posted by jasdude

Whether its Single or Married or Attached , It depends on how worldy experienced they are and how maturely sound they are in life , not on status .

I second this. Just because he or she is married does not mean that they are more mature. A single man can also be mature. they may and may not be old. and maturity does not come with age.

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by smartke

dun quite agree FB (Fuck Buddies) is same as Fren wif Benefits aka FwB.

anyway, to each their own. jus voicing my views/opinions.

不敢班门弄斧, 小弟献丑了...

Lets summarize your thread BRO . IMHO i do not agree with you fully as its just toying with definitions and glorifying it ( that is why i did not post in your thread ) . FBs ? FwBs? NSA ? Sex Partners ? you differentiated FBs and FwBs to each individual case . But it still boils down to if you are not acquaintances (FRIENDS or BUDDIES) how can you bed the person ? two strangers dun just say hello lets go to bed ? if that happens ! That is called a ONS ! FBs and FwBs to me are just terms . One is crude and the other more pleasing to the ear and more ready accepted . There is a basic understanding with each other entwined with lust in this FB or FwB relationship . But there is a willingness to continue the relationship not a one off , thats differentiates it from a fling or ons . You cannot deny the fact that FBs or FwBs all started from buddies or friends ! that is my take on this issue . Peace .

Originally Posted by 1stTR

I hav no preferrence whether married or single as long as Me and the FB knos our own stand and not cross it. Also, both hav to be able to stay discree esp. when happen to bum into each other during functions/events wif our individual spouse/gf/bf, both must b able to react normally.

So very true bro ! Truthful communication in a FB relationship is very essential to avoid any misunderstandings thus preparing oneself for all situations without anyone being caught off guard .

[1stTR]

Originally Posted by charisme

If u stand firm with what u want in that relationship. I guess u won't be afraid of getting too attached with guy. Just as long u both know where it stands. There are fears of course that one day u will fall for him. But we are all adults and i'm sure we would be able to handle it well and know when to end or put a stop to it when the line has been crossed.

So for me, my choice is still single man..

worse case scenario if either fall for another, at least we know we do not have any commitments to another party and not having to hurt or break up a family.. should the other half finds out.

hoping for something more? in terms of relationship status?

Agreed on the 1st part. As for the part of breaking up a family, it depends. Most(not all) married man/woman seek ECA outside their family bcos their marriage life already hav problem(Be it comms/attentions/financial/etc.) They already felt the lost/missing of certain elements and no longer feels the bond in tat marriage. Divorce will eventually b their choice out of the misery... The FBs either hav notin to do or bcome the reason('scapegoat' in most cases) of the outcome.

Originally Posted by charisme

I second this. Just because he or she is married does not mean that they are more mature. A single man can also be mature. they may and may not be old. and maturity does not come with age.

Agreed.

[Krazzie]

Originally Posted by 1stTR

bro. wait till u experience a married woman who is willing to divorce the husband jus to be wif u then u'll kno. She can even go to ur hse and knock on ur door and smile to say she's jus HAPPENED to be in ur neighbourhood and drop by with fruit basket.

Wah so exciting ah bro, how you managed to unstick her?

Originally Posted by charisme

I second this. Just because he or she is married does not mean that they are more mature. A single man can also be mature. they may and may not be old. and maturity does not come with age.

Agree, age does not count when it comes to maturity .

[1stTR]

Originally Posted by jasdude

You cannot deny the fact that FBs or FwBs all started from buddies or friends !

Bro, dun mind i join in ur interesting debate. I deny on the above sentence. FWB = Friends With Benefits, no doubt will hav tis friendship element in it as it offen beings with buddies or friends having a sexual interest but do not wanna commit. However, FB can be a colleague or someone who may not hav a direct connection with u in the beginning. I once knew tis gal thru friend's friend during a gathering. Was arrowed to sent her home but end up somewhere quiet(not hotel) After she finished pouring out her fustration, i send her hm. Thereafter, we contact each other for few months. and during tis period, we make out 6 times. All last mins. either after her clubbing she called me to pick her up or she ask to go drinking wif her. Nw we lost contact. So are we FB/FWB?