Confused

[cocobun]

Originally Posted by flamenomore

My friend who is 20 years old went through a bad break up and had about 5 different sex partners after that. These partners are like her good guy friends and even this ex-boyfriend's older brother.

I know at this age and time, sex is not as conservation as in the 90s. Our culture is getting more westernized and having multiple sex partners, or sex without emotion, is perfectly normal. But... I just couldn't accept it. I can accept sex before marriage, with your boyfriend etc but I can't accept having multiple partners cos sex feels good. (ONS or FB)

Am I just uptight about sex?

uptight or not, you just have to be yourself and let natural run its course...maybe next time you will, maybe not, it really depends on your views in different stage of your life.

I wasn't what i am 10 years ago compare to now, this tells me nothing is for sure, just live happy and fullest everyday.

however, whatever you want to do in future, just remember to be safe..

[danknn]

haiz...she's probably trying to drown her sorrow with sex...

oh well...

[muscleboi]

Originally Posted by flamenomore

Woah... you guys are so right about the revenge and spite part, even though I didn't mention how they broke up. But the reason they broke up isn't because one of them cheated in the relationship. Which is why I don't understand why my friend would have 5 sex partners within 3 months. She justified saying "cos sex feels good so why can't I do it?"

So I guess, despite sex being so liberal now, it's still normal to be a bit conservative about it.

Thanks everyone for the reply!!

To those who thinks I'm "uptight", you guys are the devil in my head!!

ohhh my bad...talking about collective unconscious..anyway, take care of her and prevent her from doing anything silly.

[arsenal_84]

if she's not getting any payment for her part then she's just making herself free and easy.

[justwanadoit]

Originally Posted by Constable

I find my neighbour's wife very desirable. Can I just go next door and carry her home so that I can have sex with her every time I want to? Your friend's reasoning is obviously flawed. And you should have enough sense to see it.

Actually u can, nobody stopping u

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by flamenomore

My friend who is 20 years old went through a bad break up and had about 5 different sex partners after that. These partners are like her good guy friends and even this ex-boyfriend's older brother.

I know at this age and time, sex is not as conservation as in the 90s. Our culture is getting more westernized and having multiple sex partners, or sex without emotion, is perfectly normal. But... I just couldn't accept it. I can accept sex before marriage, with your boyfriend etc but I can't accept having multiple partners cos sex feels good. (ONS or FB)

Am I just uptight about sex?

Actually, it's WHO she is having sex with that's worrisome, I think that's what made you uptight about it. If she has never behaving this way before the breakup, then she's either going through a big transformation (personality-wise) or she's doing something she'll regret later.

Are you one of them or was given the opportunity?

[owl888]

If given the opportunity why not? But after that make sure she dunn anyhow sleep around since u care about her so much...........

[NomoneyNohoney]

oop wrong post

[flamenomore]

Hey bro... Im her girl friend k. Won't be hitting on her or taking advantage of her. Just concerned about her as a close friend.

[sgjoey]

Latest science research -- humans -- male and female -- are naturally prone to non-monogamous behaviour.

[flamenomore]

Originally Posted by arsenal_84

if she's not getting any payment for her part then she's just making herself free and easy.

I agree. But the guys of cos will buy her dinner and nice things what. So to her it's a win win situation.

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by flamenomore

Hey bro... Im her girl friend k. Won't be hitting on her or taking advantage of her. Just concerned about her as a close friend.

Ok, your concern is found.
Good luck in helping your friend!

[Brainstorm]

Originally Posted by flamenomore

Hey bro... Im her girl friend k. Won't be hitting on her or taking advantage of her. Just concerned about her as a close friend.

It's her life to live and she can choose how she wants to live her life. I guess you can only try to be ready to catch her if she should fall, be ready to offer a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on etc.

[rosepetals]

Dont think you're uptight, as alot of guys&girls probably share the same sentiments as you.

Btw I find the discussion here alot more 'intellectual' than the other threads out there. -.-

[flamenomore]

Originally Posted by rosepetals

Dont think you're uptight, as alot of guys&girls probably share the same sentiments as you.

Btw I find the discussion here alot more 'intellectual' than the other threads out there. -.-

Hahaha, I realize that too! Maybe I've posted this at the wrong "channel". Should post this at "Love Corner"?