Retiring from being a Cheongster

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

It's all in the mind

Most cheongsters, small head thinks b4 big head.....

[Cat Man]

Originally Posted by naemlo

They dun trust u, but u will also have doubt in them. Cos they r WL b4....since dun trust each other, then dun settle down till the trust thing is resolved.

This trust thing take a long time to resolve...until I heh heh chuan...but In my case, finally resolved...that's why I advise brudders -- DON'T TRY TO GET INTO r/s with WL. 自找死路!

Originally Posted by naemlo

How she assure u then??

That's between me and her

Originally Posted by naemlo

Dun stop loh, y stop?? If want to stop then stop all these activities like going HC, KTV... then when itchy, bonk your wife or download AV to pcc.

Abahden?? On overseas trip, I go back hotel room after business of the day is done, load up a couple of favorite porn sites on the broadband and pcc myself to sleep.

For me, it's not just talk.
I wanted to stop cheonging for her,
but I strayed & went again,
then I realised,
I didn't enjoy the feeling anymore,
no one could give me what she gave me,
I didn't feel satisfied,
I even felt guilty,
it now only feels like a waste of money,
I can't pay for the feeling she gives me,
it's up to who you are on the inside,
what do you really feel for her...
There is no replacement...

[ahpaul25]

Originally Posted by Klown

For me, it's not just talk.
I wanted to stop cheonging for her,
but I strayed & went again,
then I realised,
I didn't enjoy the feeling anymore,
no one could give me what she gave me,
I didn't feel satisfied,
I even felt guilty,
it now only feels like a waste of money,
I can't pay for the feeling she gives me,
it's up to who you are on the inside,
what do you really feel for her...
There is no replacement...

THAT CALLED TRUE LOVE.

[bhoven]

Originally Posted by Klown

For me, it's not just talk.
I wanted to stop cheonging for her,
but I strayed & went again,
then I realised,
I didn't enjoy the feeling anymore,
no one could give me what she gave me,
I didn't feel satisfied,
I even felt guilty,
it now only feels like a waste of money,
I can't pay for the feeling she gives me,
it's up to who you are on the inside,
what do you really feel for her...
There is no replacement...

I guess u r fortunate in that u r able to enjoy good sex with your wife...the problem is when she does not enjoy it as much and one starts to crave for the physical pleasures that some pros are so well trained to provide....which one used to get before settling down....

[donkeykong99]

its like smoking, you can quit for a few months but when you break down , you come back even worse!best thing is to not to come to forums like this anymore
if not then cheong and accept the risk and consequenses,
or just dont have sex with your wife anymore

[Kyser Soze]

Originally Posted by donkeykong99

its like smoking, you can quit for a few months but when you break down , you come back even worse!

Yes, the best way not to cheong is not to start at the very beginning. Everyone knows that cheonging is hurting our pockets and a potential health hazard. Retiring can always try, but it means a lot of effort. Hopefully, love and family can plays a part.

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by donkeykong99

its like smoking, you can quit for a few months but when you break down

If 1 is able to think, he can quit smoking. An example, me.... I was a smoker during my NS. But after I met my ex ex ex gf, I quitted smoking till now. Ask those who cheong regularly with me to verify this. For sex, also can control. It is how u control, as I mentioned b4, most cheongsters will still use small head to think.

[kye_76]

I guess there are no simple ways around it. Abstinence totally depends on your will power. Are they anything about commericial sex or ONS that will turn you off? If so, use that as a rallying point. E.g. if you have gotten STDs from previous encounters, you might not want to experience the trauma again. To answer the question, there is no one true way. You just have to find it in you.

[Cat Man]

This only applies to those with wife/gf that they love "100%":

Think about how you will feel if she "cheong" behind your back. Then put yourself in her shoes - how will she feel is she knows you cheong behind her back. This maybe will stop you.

Dun tell me gals dun cheong hor. There are many married women, still go for ONS when their husbands are overseas. Becoz they know their husbands go overseas sure cheong, so take revenge.

[hunter89]

Originally Posted by Cat Man

Dun tell me gals dun cheong hor. There are many married women, still go for ONS when their husbands are overseas. Becoz they know their husbands go overseas sure cheong, so take revenge.

There are some gals who don't cheong at all. But these gals, are at the minimum.......
To me, I wanted to cheong, but due to financial problem, didn't cheong for very long liao...... Money is the root of all evil... When a guy gets rich, horns start to grow..... Maybe, you can lock your income by buying more insurance and pay through GIRO.... so you will not have much money to spend..... I owe bank 30k... so lan lan... have to use up all my salary to pay...

[murali]

Originally Posted by Cat Man

This is especially important in relationships with WL. They got to know you because you were their customer. They will not trust you when you settle down because they know you are a cheongster.

For me, I already 发毒誓 to my wife, but everytime I go and read the FR threads, very gian leh

u mean u were ur wife's ex-customer?

must be a very brave man to go this far! i salute u!

[Cat Man]

Originally Posted by murali

u mean u were ur wife's ex-customer?

must be a very brave man to go this far! i salute u!

Yep

Bravest, or stupidest thing I ever did in my life. But no regrets. We together almost 7 years already. Ups and downs, thicks and thins. Changed my life totally for her, but maybe it's a good thing, becoz I feel better now living in LOS than in SG.

[murali]

Originally Posted by Cat Man

Yep

Bravest, or stupidest thing I ever did in my life. But no regrets. We together almost 7 years already. Ups and downs, thicks and thins. Changed my life totally for her, but maybe it's a good thing, becoz I feel better now living in LOS than in SG.

all i can say is WOW!

anyway, u r staying with her in LOS so things should be a little better

[Eastpipper]

I am speaking as a ex-RSC chairman,kekeke

To retire from cheonging, only way & best way is to stop surfing SB! I am serious