Should I continue with this unsure r/s with Viet girl?

[Bibibabiboo80]

All sorts of advices from bros of all walks, lol
Thanks all bros for all the time and effort to post here.

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by racerboy

so TS, if u are strong and able to withstand this kind of shockwaves ( which i think 99% viet ktv girls will bound to give u) then u can try to be with her. if not, just let her go, so that she can find her own happiness.

Bro Racerboy, i think you make the right decision to bail from the r/s when the 'time' is right. Lao jiao chiongsters will know what i am saying...

On the contrary, i had the same situation as you once 1 year ago, but i never even try to start the r/s becos i hesitated becos of the financial strain and i question if such r/s will work. However, till today, i do regret on my decision to not use a 'wait and see' approach and go into a bgr relationship first becos she kinda different from the typical 'working chicks'.Its has been almost 7 years ago since i start chionging in joo chiat in my fav pubs like tiger pub and blue lagoon. So i guess i do know how to tell when to move away from the r/s when her real and bad intentions show.....

However, We all will be lying if there is no financial investment involved when you are involved in any r/s in singapore be it from local or viet girl. Sure must spend money want but the question is how much? Sia la, if you go out with most local girls, they want eat restaurant, go mbs chiong, more expensive? LOL.... don't anyhow jump the gun and think you can be cheap charlie or MR Softie and any girl will stay with you for long.I have a longtime good friend who is happily married with his viet wife even though there were tons of probs at the past when they were gf bf. However, u need financial output to keep the r/s going. Don't come and tell me you stingy enough, cant spend on transport, lodging, makan and entertainment when you are with your chick in hcmc or singapore.

However, yet some of we guys can buy gold, bracelet lah, samsung tab lah, smartphone lah, atas bags lah to flaunt our egos and make our girl happy and its HAPPY ending liao? LOL, of course you can buy but the moment you jump the bank and buy big the first time, more bigger damages will arrive soon i suppose?.....At times in the past, some viet ktv or pub girl i go out with ask me buy big gift like perfume or eat expensive seafood restaurant. I kanna a few times liao from these chicks then i never contact those particular girls after the first meeting becuz they failed my entrance exam in the first place. However the lao jiao chicks will play mind games with you then you need to be stronger than them to survive lah, its all in the mind.....

IMO, the problem is where is that limit we should take or stop or control so that we won't be categorized as a carrot head(chai tow)?

I think we guys need to be selfish sometimes and protect our wallets first and brainwash our viet or local girls to not anyhow spend. However, coming from a budget stinkaporean chiongster like me, we guys should look at ourselves on how we spend?lol SGD ten dollar notes can spend like nothing while i can even budget less than 5 SGD per meal and even think twice if i should go over the 15 dollars mark daily? and also understand that there is a time to spend big but not blindly spend 20-30 bucks on a chin chai(random) meal in singapore? LOL no offense i not rich, low income dude here.

If you are earning 4000 SGD onwards, then go ahead and spend but already so many narrow minded singaporean guys spend without intellect! There is no right or wrong lah but this is how i feel? Maybe we should brand ourselves as charitable spenders or chaitows because of our naive thinking? LOL i dunno, just my POV...

[racerboy]

bro mackewell,

yes i understand what u mean. and just want to clear the air.

i know all r/s needs money as fuel to make it run. but in my case, it is different. as in i am not out to really 'eat' her by not paying anything..

i acted poor because for my first hcmc trip, i chickened out and said my business failed and owe people lots of money. she knew and she accepted that. there are still many issues i had not said in my post, because it only allows 10000 characters per post

well, i know she needs money. but i cannot openly say, here, take this $400 and keep for urself. i tried that before, but only with $250. she rejected me and said i keep the cash for use myself (that is why i think she really loves me alot cos she thinks i owe people money)

also, every trip in hcmc before i leave for sg, i will give her a few hundred dollars. but u know what? she only take $150 dollars, and gave me an almost equilvant amount of dong similar value of sg. she told me to go airport eat or buy some thing for family. so to me, it is as good as not taking my money.

i do feel bad. but i cannot pichak my lobang and say, hey sorry, i lie to u. my business still intact. but i try to give her money in subtle means. but each time, she will reject, or spend more of it (meaning used her own money too to bring me to Q1 eat at posh restaurant)

i am also the same. i look for budgets. value for money. but this time, it is caveat emptor for my case

[racerboy]

and wow, i did not know by sharing of my own story, i was zap 3 times.

its alright. zap for all u want. i don't need points for sharing of contact.

to TS: now u see, most of the time, people will try to put u down just because they lazy to read long paragraph or think i am bull-shitting. thats why u may get some negative comments in your thread.

[Bibibabiboo80]

Originally Posted by racerboy

and wow, i did not know by sharing of my own story, i was zap 3 times.

its alright. zap for all u want. i don't need points for sharing of contact.

to TS: now u see, most of the time, people will try to put u down just because they lazy to read long paragraph or think i am bull-shitting. thats why u may get some negative comments in your thread.

It's okay bro,
Really appreciate your sharing of the story, sorry I only have 3 points to up you. Really feel bad, feels like I indirectly caused you to be zapped >.<

[phantom777]

Originally Posted by Bibibabiboo80

So after the 2nd meet up, we started seeing each other on weekends outside of her work-time. Went dating at ECP, Bugis and other places. But each of our meetings ended up on bed, all condomless.(she even asked me to shoot inside saying she wants baby, which I refused of coz, since I still wasn't sure of my feelings for her, and also how my family would react to me marrying a Viet girl) But most of the times were initiated by her. So when I say I want to send her home after the dates, she will give me a sad face and say things like "you don't love me that's why don't want to accompany me?", "I want to stay with you" etc. so I Lanlan.

Anw, after dating her abt a month she found out she had to go back to Vietnam early coz her boss booked a return flight the next day for her already. That night I went to meet her and hugged each other and cried. It was also during this time that I realised that I had feelings for her and not just for the sex(can't blame me we fuck EVERYTIME we meet!) I sent her off the following day and I agreed to fly to Vietnam to see her whenever I am able to.
Even when she went back, we constantly keep in contact thru Wechat and sometimes she'll call me. And yeah, I do miss her from time to time.

So now my dilemma is, should I continue seeing her and risk my mother's fury?(I told my mother about her and she was very against it...)
Or move on with my bachelor life?(she told me recently she will not be coming SG to work in the near future)
The only thing I didn't like about her was her pte ltd English, communication is a big problem for us.
Any kind and experienced bros wish to give me advice on this? Seriously lost now..

If u ask anyone about what she is really thinking - whether play u or love u, your guess is as good as mine coz we don't know her.

If u want a real advise, then, find a real partner in real life. Through friends' friend, or heck even chk out the waitress at a cafe, not asking u to fck around but get to know who you think can share yr life with. I'm not judging but how r u supposed to get along with everyday activities, how to take care of parents, which insurance to buy, etc, because love is not yet everything. When the steam runs out - which I guarantee it will, then whats next?

Explore before u settle. Life is too short n soon u will understand y so many samsters around

[sammyboyfor]

I really don't understand what is wrong with all you guys.

Are your lives so pathetic to the point where you have to look to WHORES for affection???

KTV girls, FLs, Geylang broads, escorts etc... THEY'RE ALL WHORES.

No matter what sort of sob stories they come up with, at the end of the day, all they're interested in is $$$$$.

Even if one of them really fell in love with any of you, it won't be long before their love of money will lead them back to their WHORING ways.

WHORES are for fucking not loving. Just fuck them and be done with it and move on to the next WHORE.

[racerboy]

i agree with samleong's POV.

even if today u can make a viet lady loves you, eventually, your cash will be exhausted. cos she will be demanding too many things in life.

once they tried earning money the fast and easy way, most of them will surely go back doing it again, if she feels her cash flow is running low.

[conquer]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

I really don't understand what is wrong with all you guys.

Are your lives so pathetic to the point where you have to look to WHORES for affection???

KTV girls, FLs, Geylang broads, escorts etc... THEY'RE ALL WHORES.

No matter what sort of sob stories they come up with, at the end of the day, all they're interested in is $$$$$.

Even if one of them really fell in love with any of you, it won't be long before their love of money will lead them back to their WHORING ways.

WHORES are for fucking not loving. Just fuck them and be done with it and move on to the next WHORE.

True that.

Their life is full of troubles, which cause their pussies are on sale. Is TS ready to put the mountain heavy burden on shoulder when TS decided to "love" her?

Pleasure of sex and romance is only for a short moment, the rest of time we have to face the real world to solve problem.

Get real!!!

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by racerboy

and wow, i did not know by sharing of my own story, i was zap 3 times.

its alright. zap for all u want. i don't need points for sharing of contact.

to TS: now u see, most of the time, people will try to put u down just because they lazy to read long paragraph or think i am bull-shitting. thats why u may get some negative comments in your thread.

WTF, racerboy just sharing his pov here also cannot? lol seriously keyboard warriors here to take a step back sometimes and stop bitching and blaming and flaming ppl for how they feel. Like i always tell my noob friends, GO OUT chiong at least three years than come and comment. It is more legitimate in tt way. And we are also respectful in our comments. Racerboy, i gonna up you too for what you say coz i will prolly do the same thing as you, i sure act poor one or else the girl sure eat me gao gao too..... It applies to even non-working girl leh.....

On the legendary Sam Leong, his comments will go straight to make your heart bleed but his experience tells you the truth and life has to go on after the fun is over i guess?

lol even in normal r/s(no whores) it is the same when you get tired of the girl or she keep asking you for things or use you for other reasons.... Take it easy guys, it all in the mind when the games are on! IF marriage then different and serious matter, but courtship wise its fun and games but when its freaking over, go and whack beer, cry if u faint hearted , fuck more whores till your lanjiao sore, bet more on world cup maybe until u win more and happy, and MOVE ON, cheers....

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by mackewell

lol even in normal r/s(no whores) it is the same when you get tired of the girl or she keep asking you for things or use you for other reasons.... Take it easy guys, it all in the mind when the games are on! IF marriage then different and serious matter, but courtship wise its fun and games but when its freaking over, go and whack beer, cry if u faint hearted , fuck more whores till your lanjiao sore, bet more on world cup maybe until u win more and happy, and MOVE ON, cheers....

If you want to fuck around, you can do it with WHORES or you can play the field. Either way it will cost you money but if you want sex, you're going to have to pay in one way or another unless you can make it as a gigolo but then you have to fuck ugly bitches too so you're still paying a price.

If you're talking marriage, it's a different kettle of fish altogether as marriage is about procreation and bringing up children and making sure they have the best chance of succeeding in life.

For procreation, do NOT do it with a WHORE. It's not good pedigree. Look for a wife who will make a good mother ie responsible... kind.. intelligent and someone who is your intellectual equal who shares the same world view.

Sex is not important in a marriage so it should rank far lower than the other factors I've just mentioned. After 5 years of marriage and a couple of kids, very few women will be interested in sex anyway.

If you want good sex once you're married, pop by sammyboyforum.com and support my advertisers. However, make sure you delete your history after every visit or you'll be emailing desperately to delete all your posts and your account!!!!

[mackewell]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

If you want to fuck around, you can do it with WHORES or you can play the field. Either way it will cost you money but if you want sex, you're going to have to pay in one way or another unless you can make it as a gigolo but then you have to fuck ugly bitches too so you're still paying a price.

If you're talking marriage, it's a different kettle of fish altogether as marriage is about procreation and bringing up children and making sure they have the best chance of succeeding in life.

For procreation, do NOT do it with a WHORE. It's not good pedigree. Look for a wife who will make a good mother ie responsible... kind.. intelligent and someone who is your intellectual equal who shares the same world view.

Sex is not important in a marriage so it should rank far lower than the other factors I've just mentioned. After 5 years of marriage and a couple of kids, very few women will be interested in sex anyway.

If you want good sex once you're married, pop by sammyboyforum.com and support my advertisers. However, make sure you delete your history after every visit or you'll be emailing desperately to delete all your posts and your account!!!!

Haha cant agree more wif our legend, good point. However, no offense and kudos to all fathers who got the balls to raise kids and get married(toughest role in life but perhaps rewarding), i dont like kids lol, at 30 yrs old i am tt kind of dude with the 'backpacker' mentality in life. I like my alone time especially in nightlife and i like to move out of my comfort zone and ask questions and be myself. To me lah, life is not abour taboos or 'mandatory' things you need to do to appease others.

I wont say i am immature or what, i just dont like to be tied down by some paper or documentation. However, it does not mean i embrace the 'bachelor for life' trophy and bonk and fuck around like nobody business. Sometimes, you need to have a life outside shagging lol....

Even if really i want to get married, not the most important factor but sex has to come into the picture or else i wont get married. I just cant dig not trying to build up ur sex life wif ur spouse first. IF really bopian even after u try, u use this good 'excuse' to bonk whores den i nothing to sae....

[Nonteeruk2553]

Take care n move on

[phantom777]

many kind bros here pouring out genuine comments from their life experiences... I hope TS wake up, cut the rope

life is anything but fairy tale, muahahaha

[Hurricane88]

Um...another one of the many similar stories which I had commented in the past...the Vietnam veteran still not here to comment...busy now...wait till I free to comment later...

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