I never thought it would happen to me - Page 2

weiwei09 · #16 17-09-2008, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by aczeta76

hmmm.. most of the ones in this forum are NOT bad else u tink we bother to help them... all have their stories

On the BF bit, dun be too surprised. Except of one or two super naive FLs, even those whom I know extremely well took about one year to open up the truth to me and for one of them, only when she went back did she tell me that her "hubby" was here all along while she worked and it was the friend that she always told me about.

hahaha... we are still friends though since I know her reasons for not telling the truth.

"Go in with your eyes wide open and ears half shut"... that latter to filter out the lies.

Good luck !!

hey!

thanks alot..really..

Its not that I didnt see the world enough. Its the feelings part you know?

At least I resisted the temptations of doing raw with her.

There's some things I tell myself I shouldnt ask. Like why she wanna do this. What is she doing b4 this. Will she be doing the same thing in future.

I know alot of bros here have been through similar plight. We are all man.

slider_72 · #17 17-09-2008, 11:17 AM

Be thankful that this girl is at least somewhat honest in letting you know from the very begining that she has a bf. At least you won't feel so cheated if you find out about it later.

Anyway, the thing about holding hands and kissing you when you went out, don't read too much into it. Once in a while I do go out for supper or coffee (no sex involved in these outings, mind you) with different WLs and they ALL do that.

Being nice to you doesn't mean that they have developed feelings for you. Don't confuse the two together. It could be something as simple as she being nice to you because you were nice to her.

Based on your narration, it seems to me that she is not even trying to KC you. Just regard her as a casual friend and move on dude.

weiwei09 · #18 17-09-2008, 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by slider_72

Be thankful that this girl is at least somewhat honest in letting you know from the very begining that she has a bf. At least you won't feel so cheated if you find out about it later.

Anyway, the thing about holding hands and kissing you when you went out, don't read too much into it. Once in a while I do go out for supper or coffee (no sex involved in these outings, mind you) with different WLs and they ALL do that.

Being nice to you doesn't mean that they have developed feelings for you. Don't confuse the two together. It could be something as simple as she being nice to you because you were nice to her.

Based on your narration, it seems to me that she is not even trying to KC you. Just regard her as a casual friend and move on dude.

Ya. I ever tot that she might want to KC me. But it turned out that she didnt. I am happy to know that.

Yes I will treat her as a friend. And you're right. All these emotions are just confusing me only. To her it might just be nothing.

colins · #19 17-09-2008, 11:52 AM

Good sharing bro, although I can imagine the number of such stories unfolding every night in GL, your account of the event is quite honestly written.

You dun need to fall in love with every female friends you have, you are still studying, so take this as a life experience that can change your perception of people outside Singapore. Less unfortunate people with much less choices that we have.

weiwei09 · #20 17-09-2008, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by colins

Good sharing bro, although I can imagine the number of such stories unfolding every night in GL, your account of the event is quite honestly written.

You dun need to fall in love with every female friends you have, you are still studying, so take this as a life experience that can change your perception of people outside Singapore. Less unfortunate people with much less choices that we have.

ya. I used to think badly of them. Now i dun anymore.

colins · #21 17-09-2008, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by weiwei09

ya. I used to think badly of them. Now i dun anymore.

Well, now you are in a better position to understand 2 things at the least. 1st, how to treat people whom you think badly of, and 2nd how people feel being judged on the surface for their means of living. Not telling you to sympathise or love them mind you, but to understand things from a lot of perspectives before deciding what they represent, to you. With this, you can move on from this 'relationship' better.

jojogigi · #22 17-09-2008, 12:18 PM

my this current prc gf is also working in lor8. but in china liao. Unless you don;t mind being the 3rd party of another r/s. i say GO FOR IT! but u make sure u are mentally and emotionally stable. This type of r/s is like the wind. come very fast.... go very fast. Its good training for ur future sg gf. Anyway its better for him to learn something take a hardfall earlier. Rather than getting cheated out of his cpf savings in his 50s. zSorry laa... my advice abit wierd. but really. life is short. take a hard one. Economy crisis liao... nothing to lose. hahaha.

weiwei09 · #23 17-09-2008, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by jojogigi

my this current prc gf is also working in lor8. but in china liao. Unless you don;t mind being the 3rd party of another r/s. i say GO FOR IT! but u make sure u are mentally and emotionally stable. This type of r/s is like the wind. come very fast.... go very fast. Its good training for ur future sg gf. Anyway its better for him to learn something take a hardfall earlier. Rather than getting cheated out of his cpf savings in his 50s. zSorry laa... my advice abit wierd. but really. life is short. take a hard one. Economy crisis liao... nothing to lose. hahaha.

Haha..So were you a 3rd party before? She never talked about her gf before. I choose not to ask. I dunno if he's singaporean or from china. Maybe I will ask just before she lives. jojogigi, is your gf still in this line when she went back?

Sirrus · #24 18-09-2008, 01:24 AM

never fall in love with a PRC because the most they can stay is 2 months in sg...no future with them...

unless u like me, going to china to work (stable family business there)

Wooden_Handle · #25 18-09-2008, 01:33 AM

Bro TS, I read through the post seems like you have very good impression of the lady, which is good and also a warning that KC is happening.

Whatever the WLs said must discount for 99.9% as some bros has said, and some will be very complicated to ensure she has your trust before making you a chai tau. For the history: like making you to return to visit, making sure you know her life story, explain she has bf, and even depend you with mf, these are just ways to lower down your resistance and make her job easier.

So since you may not have much to offer to her, and also you are more looking for bf/gf relationship, I think you can spend more time with study and classmates.

Just my 2 cents worth.

jojogigi · #26 18-09-2008, 01:49 AM

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Originally Posted by weiwei09

Haha..So were you a 3rd party before? She never talked about her gf before. I choose not to ask. I dunno if he's singaporean or from china. Maybe I will ask just before she lives. jojogigi, is your gf still in this line when she went back?

not 3rd party. but people's action party. she got guys who bao her one. I don't mind really cos i know i can't afford. She's more like a friend cum gf. She's coming bk and she is still gonna be in this line. Till she earned enough to start business lo.

weiwei09 · #27 18-09-2008, 01:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Wooden_Handle

Bro TS, I read through the post seems like you have very good impression of the lady, which is good and also a warning that KC is happening.

Whatever the WLs said must discount for 99.9% as some bros has said, and some will be very complicated to ensure she has your trust before making you a chai tau. For the history: like making you to return to visit, making sure you know her life story, explain she has bf, and even depend you with mf, these are just ways to lower down your resistance and make her job easier.

So since you may not have much to offer to her, and also you are more looking for bf/gf relationship, I think you can spend more time with study and classmates.

Just my 2 cents worth.

Hey thanks for your frank reply! I never intended to look for a bgr when I first started out with her. It is the things that followed that makes me feel this way.

In fact, I keep telling myself to move on. But I think as long she's still here, I'll allow myself to be embroiled in this fantasy.

Wait till she's gone..Maybe its easier to forget her then...

weiwei09 · #28 18-09-2008, 01:54 AM

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Originally Posted by jojogigi

not 3rd party. but people's action party. she got guys who bao her one. I don't mind really cos i know i can't afford. She's more like a friend cum gf. She's coming bk and she is still gonna be in this line. Till she earned enough to start business lo.

How did you 2 become bf/gf then? You asked her? Confessed? or?

jojogigi · #29 18-09-2008, 02:05 AM

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Originally Posted by weiwei09

How did you 2 become bf/gf then? You asked her? Confessed? or?

mutual lo.. i did ask her... she said i can't afford her. ahahah and i laughed it off... anyway the relationship is to a pt there's no need to differentiate gf or friend. What matters was the companionship. Sometimes she need help. i help her lo. She need money. I pass a little to her lo. Sometimes i no money./.. the sex is free lo.

slider_72 · #30 18-09-2008, 10:01 AM

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Originally Posted by weiwei09

In fact, I keep telling myself to move on. But I think as long she's still here, I'll allow myself to be embroiled in this fantasy.

Wait till she's gone..Maybe its easier to forget her then...

Don't kid yourself. It doesn't happen that way, trust me. If you allow yourself to fall deeper into this, once she is gone, you will start to miss her and do irrational things like buying airticket to visit her in China, call her over the phone and smsing her everday, listen to Chinese love songs, think of her all the time, visit the places that you used to go with her, eat her favourite food, etc, etc, etc.

If you want to cut it and forget about her, don't even allow yourself to be embroiled in this fantasy. Once you are in it, the awakening process is damn tough.

Been there done that.