How to KC a WL without being KC-ed by Her

[warbird]

Originally Posted by Harvest

Bro Warbird, I do agree that the fastest "cure" is to find a replacement girl; but this is akin to asking a smoker to switch from Marlboro to Dunhill when the smoker wants to exit from smoking. So to bros who wants exit from the KC game and take a breather, pls don't try that. Anyway, I like your other other strategies to deal with withdrawal symptoms. You are truely a NLP grand master!

Just a beginner trying to use NLP to improve myself.

[/QUOTE] Bro Ventu22, you mean exchanging info on the identities of the WLs?? This is a BIG No No. If exchanging info on real life KC experiences/encounters, that one no problem. I'll be sharing mine soon... [/QUOTE]

Never reveal the ID of FLs/WLs/KTV gals...It's wrong n unethical.

[NewandLost]

Originally Posted by ventu22

To all the seniors... lao jiao...

I am new here.. having only find out about this forum not too long ago. And indeed sincerely thanks you to all you..after reading all the postings, I finally wake up from my dream. I totally agreed we, supposed belong to the elite workforce but fall under trap of KC-ed. As some seniors said, no matter how smart, how high is your IQ.. these PRC mei mei are damn fucking cunning in this game.

But I have a dump, stupid questions.. since we are cheong, we know their game, we also know who they are, why information are not exchange here so that other bros will take precaution?

This forum is definitely a wake up call for me.. Thks.

Just my 2 cents..

hang in there braddah, the fact you found this board means you have high rate of coming out of this sane. your position in singapore society and professional background has no bearing when it comes to being KC. as many braddahs have pointed out, if you are white collar professional you are more likely to fall prey. need street smarts to deal with the KC gals and even then you lose your heart and they got you boy.

[Harvest]

Originally Posted by ventu22

Bro thanks for the concerns... yes, still going through the withdrawal period now. It bloody mind-blotting everyday, fighting very hard to stay positive and do not want any contacts or whatever. Has been reading all the posting everyday to remind myself..

Thatz very good. According to research, it takes approx 15 days of persistence for an old habit to be replaced by a new one. So make sure you read the postings here for a continuous 15 days during this period of withdrawal. If you break the cycle and gave in to KC temptation, you have to re-start the 15-day cycle all over again.

[ventu22]

Originally Posted by NewandLost

hang in there braddah, the fact you found this board means you have high rate of coming out of this sane. your position in singapore society and professional background has no bearing when it comes to being KC. as many braddahs have pointed out, if you are white collar professional you are more likely to fall prey. need street smarts to deal with the KC gals and even then you lose your heart and they got you boy.

That's the key word.. losing the heart. Most of the time we just feel so sorry and having the mentality of... ok la, she is still young, brought up in different environment and society that is so selfish, self-centered and demanding. Time and time again, we "find excuses" to forgive and forget and they fully exploit our compassion side.

It come to a time that enough is enough.. stop the bull shit.. why must I succumb to all the mental bashing when I'm the pay-master to all her lux demands? No logic right..

ya.. she got me and I have no shame to admit that. But no worries, time will heal...

[ventu22]

Originally Posted by Harvest

Thatz very good. According to research, it takes approx 15 days of persistence for an old habit to be replaced by a new one. So make sure you read the postings here for a continuous 15 days during this period of withdrawal. If you break the cycle and gave in to KC temptation, you have to re-start the 15-day cycle all over again.

She left in late May and try to kC me again while driving her to airport and upon arrival and I almost...almost fall again. But I refused to buy-in to all the cock and bull stories..Else by this time, we will be enjoying the spa, shopping, bird-nest in BBK. Pews... this forum save my life.. save my bank accounts.. 謝謝。。謝謝你們。。

[NewandLost]

Originally Posted by ventu22

She left in late May and try to kC me again while driving her to airport and upon arrival and I almost...almost fall again. But I refused to buy-in to all the cock and bull stories..Else by this time, we will be enjoying the spa, shopping, bird-nest in BBK. Pews... this forum save my life.. save my bank accounts.. 謝謝。。謝謝你們。。

good for you braddah, keep your guard up. how do you know she dont love you?

[NewandLost]

[QUOTE=ventu22;3799743]Most of the time we just feel so sorry and having the mentality of... ok la, she is still young, brought up in different environment and society that is so selfish, self-centered and demanding. Time and time again, we "find excuses" to forgive and forget and they fully exploit our compassion side.

It come to a time that enough is enough.. stop the bull shit.. why must I succumb to all the mental bashing when I'm the pay-master to all her lux demands? No logic right..
QUOTE] braddah, you describe it very accurately. hard thing to let go simply because you are a gentlemen but these gals cross natural boundaries.

[ventu22]

Originally Posted by NewandLost

good for you braddah, keep your guard up. how do you know she dont love you?

Bro... Love is when you feel the touch inside your heart, walk the path together and enjoy happiness and sadness in all time. But when suspicious, anger, lies started to appear in a relationship.. then probably is the time to let go. I strongly believe in order to for a relationship to flourish, we need trust. Without deny once she was in love with me... but over the past 1 year she has leave enough trace for me to believe people change.

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by hoho99

Wah....... even bro ken are cautious of prc mm. i think i better stop cheong and focus on painting my car red? or Bro ken's car change colour liao

In process of changing... hope CEO drops a little then I can proceed.. concentrating on investment now since mkt is low..

[ventu22]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

In process of changing... hope CEO drops a little then I can proceed.. concentrating on investment now since mkt is low..

Bro.. have any good lobang pls pm me

[Harvest]

RECOVERY STRATEGIES

You guys know how the story goes.

It all started out innocently as just another commercial bonk. Then the RTF... and more RTFs. But before you realize, what was supposed to be a release of lust morphed into a deep and intimate emotional bonding between a service provider and her customer. She claimed that you are the "special one" and that there's no other. She paints you dreams and hopes of a blissful future together. She captivates you with such beautiful eyes and natural c-cups, her loving embrace fills your nights with sweet slumber. Surely those tears of her pitiful past cannot be faked! Certainly it would be sinful to even doubt her sincerity! You are dying in your heart to believe her. And you did gave her the benefit of doubt and BELIEVED her. Soon, you are dating her out for shopping, makan, pubbing, sight-seeing etc. She even gave you FOC bonks, and you became absolutely convinced that you are indeed the "special one"! You are at the TOP of the WORLD! Because you just became her (bank account's) Knight in Shining Armour. And you have been KC-natored!

Then the nightmare begins... somehow the $X is never enough for her. One day she says her father needs to buy house, another day her mother is sick. Next week, her younger siblings need money to pay school fees. You said nevermind, you can afford it. So the $X slowly becomes $XX... then $XXX, yet more demands poured in... landlord raised rent lah, need to pay agent fees lah, grandfather passed away lah... blah, blah, blah. Your wallet begins to hurt, but your heart is soft. You can't bear to see your "helpless" lover suffer. So you give and give... while she takes and takes. But that's just the beginning.

One fine day you caught her whispering sweet nothings over the phone. She said it's just a customer. Your heart ached a little but you reasoned that it's part of her job. Another day you "accidentally" saw her SMS-ing "I miss you!" but your phone didn't beep. Your heart ached further. Then to your utter disbelief, you witnessed her entering a car one day outside her joint/apartment. She told you that she was sick and couldn't be with you. But you could vividly see that she was hugging and kissing the driver next to her. Your heart sank to the depths of the earth...

You got mad and jealous. That evening you confronted her. She began to cry buckets of tears because you don't trust her. She gave you a thousand and one reasons why she has to do what she did... because you did not give her any long-term financial security... She wants a PR-ship, some status in society. She wants to stay in a landed property, not a HDB flat. So now you finally woke up. The car that picked her up was a Jaguar XF, you are only driving a humble Kia Cerato. How to compete?? You are completely devastated and emotionally crushed. You kept looking at her SMSes and wished she would change her mind. You can't focus on your work, you've lost interest in other aspects of your life. You even cried yourself to sleep for many nights. 真的是人才两空脸青青！

If that is roughly what has happened to you dude, fret not! Because today is the day of reckoning... it is by fate that you chance upon this forum...this thread, and particularly this posting. This is the Mother of all wake up calls... the moment of truth... Welcome to...

KC-nator Salvation



*Radio noise* "This is John Conner. If you are listening to this, you are part of the (KC) resistance..." *Radio noise*

All hope is not lost! Here's what you can do to start anew:

1. Accept Your Losses. In life, we win some, we lose some. Sometimes we make bad decisions and we just have to accept the consequences and move on. Don't be too hard on yourself. You're human after all, and all humans make mistakes in some point of their lives. Everyone do, including the KC Masters.

2. Learn to Let Go. Possessiveness will only hurt you deeper. What is the use of having her body when you can't own her heart? Everyone is given his/her own free will that has to be respected. So give yourself some self-respect and dignity. You have the right to let go of any burden that weighs you down. You have the right to happiness and fulfillment in life. Why let this one unhappy r/s stop you from achieving your highest potential?

3. Do not Seek Revenge. Bitterness will only eat your soul alive. I know that forgiveness is one of the hardest thing to do in life; but by forgiving the person, you are really healing yourself of your emotional wounds. The more you let bitterness take root in you, the closer you are seduced to the dark side of the KC force... just read what happened to my Mentor here and you will understand what I mean.

4. Count Your Blessings. There are more to life than just a r/s with a WL. There are still people who truely cares about you, family, loved ones, friends and good health, safety etc to be thankful for each day. Also, remind yourself that there are other cheongsters who are FAR WORST OFF than what you have been thru! I've known of people who became bankrupt, divorced, lost their jobs, attempted suicide etc all in the name of "love". Be thankful already if you are not in this category!

5. Keep things in Perspective. Ask yourself, "Is this a blip or a catastrophe?" To me, catastrophes are things like an earthquake, a tsunami, world war 3 etc. Anything else is just a blip! So "losing" this r/s does NOT mean that you are a complete idiot or a total failure. You are just going thru a learning phase/process to become smarter and wiser!

6. Reinforce the Positive Change. Read, digest and re-read this thread/posting everyday for at least the next 15 days to reinforce a positive change. Give yourself time to allow the healing process to complete. Very important: DO NOT look for another WL to fill the emotional emptiness during this period of time, else you'll probably sink back into the KC cycle all over again and repeat the same mistakes!

Good Luck! And may the Force be with you!

To Be Continued...

[jackspider]

Originally Posted by Harvest

*Radio noise* "This is John Conner. If you are listening to this, you are part of the (KC) resistance..." *Radio noise*

Well said bro, i personally liked this phase the best.. Does reading this post also made me one of the KC resistance force
(Still not qualified to wear the red armband yet..)

[ventu22]

Hi bro harvest...

Very structured and written... great job !!!

I believe many of us are mature and strong enough to accept it. There is no need to seek any revenge, During the good time..we have our fair share of happiness.. bonking like there is no tomorrow These gals are no angels, is just a commercial transaction that developed beyond it boundaries and into a mishap (in most cases).

Just like in any business transactions.. we cannot win all the time, if we lose, accept with pride, shake hands, evaluate why we lose and move on. Of course when we are dealing with human emotion.. that's take alot of practice and courage to accept lost. But that's life, full of unknown.. full of surprises..

The best revenge is to live better than before, when one day you two happen to meet again.. look at my car, look at my watch, look at my house... regret to leave me ?? Too bad..sorry..too late !!

May the force be with me....

[justl00king]

I only know one rule-

If the gal really likes you, no need to spend money on her also she will spend time with you.

Those need to spend $- be it for bonking, paying her tips or baoing the gal, always remember it's strictly commercial $ transaction. You give her money, that's why she is with you...period.

No money no honey...nothing can be further from the truth for these WL/FL bitches.

[longwinter]

Originally Posted by justl00king

I only know one rule-

If the gal really likes you, no need to spend money on her also she will spend time with you.

Those need to spend $- be it for bonking, paying her tips or baoing the gal, always remember it's strictly commercial $ transaction. You give her money, that's why she is with you...period.

No money no honey...nothing can be further from the truth for these WL/FL bitches.

Yes, haha l agreed with u on this...