Is there true love between us and PRC WL

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by PeteTsang69

Hi Bro,

Go in full steam, but please with KEEP your EARS & EYES OPEN . . .she is right to say that u got to do your own thing . . .but when a couple really love each other there's really no "Too Much time spent together", cos you both still in honeymoon period & naturally want to spend as much time together . .

just hope your relationship is not like this . . . very hard to see/refuse to believe, when you're in it . .but just KEEP your EARS & EYES OPEN, and KEEP your WITS about you

maybe.. I was sticky because she was sick and very moody so I wanted to be there when she needs me... because she felt she started needing me more, she started to push me away...

which is y we are waiting for her to go back ZH before we see if we should really go steady and serious.

My biggest complaint to her is that she refuses to share with me her problems sometimes... and worry to much about me so much till last week she tried to "HEN XIN" and tell me she got no feelings for me and that everything was a lie...

After our quarrel, then she broke down and admitted she is very stressed over our r/s as she is frightened of letting me down.

Eyes, ears all open now but I am keeping my heart partially closed till she makes up her mind.

Good luck to you too.

[ktv cheongster]

Bro, please anlayse everything properly, I hate to say this, but you should err on the safe side ... maybe thats her way of geting you hopelessly in luv with her ... for your sake I hope not as this relationship looks like it really meant a lot to you .... haiz ..

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by ktv cheongster

Bro, please anlayse everything properly, I hate to say this, but you should err on the safe side ... maybe thats her way of geting you hopelessly in luv with her ... for your sake I hope not as this relationship looks like it really meant a lot to you .... haiz ..

Ya maybe... see how loh..

Duo Qing Zhi Gu Kong Yu Hen

[PeteTsang69]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

which is y we are waiting for her to go back ZH before we see if we should really go steady and serious.
Good luck to you too.

Bro Thanks for your wishes . . mine is messy/complicated cos i attached with kids . . still trying to find a way thru . . like i told her i dun have the answers (yet or maybe never) . . i wasn't looking for her (love) but i found her and this is where i am . . not what i wanted being attached as such . .but i gotta find a way thru for myself . . .

You said it bro better than me. i dun have to worry abt you now. you doing much better than i could. you damn smart . .
yeah get back to a "normal" life and then see how things develop, now is not "real" . . cheers bro

[Crazi]

after reading a few pages, I realise this can be translated to materials for a new serial .... got 3 sided love affair and all ... I was thinking of actually writing to say why you all so stupid go fall in love with this PRCs who come work in SG, then I realise that, one cannot never tell about affairs of the heart ... so I am not going to say that, but hope you all the best and may you live life usefully ...

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by PeteTsang69

Bro Thanks for your wishes . . mine is messy/complicated cos i attached with kids . . still trying to find a way thru . . like i told her i dun have the answers (yet or maybe never) . . i wasn't looking for her (love) but i found her and this is where i am . . not what i wanted being attached as such . .but i gotta find a way thru for myself . . .

You said it bro better than me. i dun have to worry abt you now. you doing much better than i could. you damn smart . .
yeah get back to a "normal" life and then see how things develop, now is not "real" . . cheers bro

We all take care lah... best of luck and hang tough

[colins]

Originally Posted by Crazi

... I was thinking of actually writing to say why you all so stupid go fall in love with this PRCs who come work in SG, then I realise that, one cannot never tell about affairs of the heart ... so I am not going to say that, but hope you all the best and may you live life usefully ...

hahaha...wise move.

[aczeta76]

Originally Posted by Crazi

after reading a few pages, I realise this can be translated to materials for a new serial .... got 3 sided love affair and all ... I was thinking of actually writing to say why you all so stupid go fall in love with this PRCs who come work in SG, then I realise that, one cannot never tell about affairs of the heart ... so I am not going to say that, but hope you all the best and may you live life usefully ...

There is nothing stupid about this hoh... it is straight forward love between people... only thing that makes it more complicated is her profession and thinking style

[PeteTsang69]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

There is nothing stupid about this hoh... it is straight forward love between people... only thing that makes it more complicated is her profession and thinking style

totally agree with you . . .

i never thot otherwise, always thot to be true to one person. was deprived for years. so started to look else where for release. never KC. even had 1 chatline FB, but no KC. . .then KC big time recently . . tried to stay away . . but emotions too strong . . not that i am particularly weak nor strong . . just that my head was overcome by my heart . . like i have said to her . ."i dun hv the answers, all i know is we r here. I wasn't looking for it, but i found it" . . no use resisting it just torturing yourself for having tru feelings . .am trying a diff approach . . .that is accepting it, and finding a way thru . . maybe there is no way thru . . but i strongly believe thinking about it ain't the solution . . just know what is coming and dealing with it in the best way as it comes along . . .

and this is my inspiration . . . .everyone has their OWN LIFE TO LEAD as the SEE BEST FIT

Nothing is written
My all-time favourite film is "Lawrence Of Arabia" and, if I have a favourite scene from the movie, then I guess it is the one of Lawrence's triumphal return from the Nefud desert, having gone back to rescue the Arab Gasim. The crossing of the Nefud desert is considered impossible, even by the local Arabs, but Lawrence persuades them that, in this way, they can take the Turkish port at Aqaba from the rear.

Having carried out the superhuman feat of traversing this furnace, it is discovered that one of the Arabs, Gasim, has fallen off his camel and is no doubt dying somewhere back in the desert. Lawrence is told that any idea of rescue is futile and, in any event, Gasim's death is "written". When Lawrence achieves the impossible and returns with Gasim still alive, Sherif Ali admits to him: "Truly, for some men nothing is written unless they write it".

As an impressionable teenager when this film was first released, I was stunned by Lawrence's courage and unselfishness in going back into the hell of the Nefud to attempt to find a man he hardly knew among the vast expanse of a fiery terrain and I was so moved by the sense of purpose of a man who is determined to take nothing as "written" but to shape his own destiny. This sense of anti-determinism and this belief that anything is possible has stayed with me always and continues to inspire me in small ways and large.

Author: Roger Darlington

[colins]

Admirable and inspiring...

I wonder how a person would turn out to be if such aspiration is put into his work. Bro pete, I think you sure went all ahead man.

[aczeta76]

Maybe some of the bros are rite (Heck, we may have preach it before as well)

We have played the field long enuff and tot that we will not kena KC... No way, not when these girls are here for money and not honey.

Then one day, we meet the ONE. Who make us look sight of ourselves and the danger is "The less the treat us like clients or Carrot Head", the more we trust them..

I did a test on my MM when I went for a cruise with my mum and dad last month. She said she will miss me and I said I will worry that she may need emergency cash when I am not around.

So I gave her my ATM card and pin number (One of the accounts with less than 3K) and told her to use it if she needs cash urgently since she was hardly working those few days.

She din touch a cent of it. (Actually, deep down... I was telling myself that if she does it then I know she wants $$ and I will leave her).. I also talked about buying a property in ZH for her but she said NO as she cannot commit herself to me at this point. (Now, that I dun understand as even is condo is in my name or joint name, rental will go to her)

And that is how I get into more shit... Now she is blowing hot and cold because she's worried that she will let me down and I am frustrated as I know she is trying to push me away so it pains me.

If only she does not care for me, then it would be much easier... lose of $$ but my heart gets released (At most I will curse her and lament my lost which of course if capped at a few thousand SGD only)

Now.. si liao.. Been trying to ask people to talk to her and make her understand that sacrifice is not HOLY.. it is stupid to deny love BUT her PRC friends all bo chap one (Now I know y she told me that for the girls "They can share the same clothes, same man to shuang fei but not their money and heart")

Now perhaps it helps to have a neutral party talk to her... But I worried she will kill me for getting someone else involved.

One word... sibei Cham

[PeteTsang69]

Originally Posted by colins

Admirable and inspiring...I wonder how a person would turn out to be if such aspiration is put into his work. Bro pete, I think you sure went all ahead man.

Haha bro dun put pressure on me to be like Lawrence of Arabia . .

my point simply is to THINK about our own situation as being our own . . .and find OUR OWN way thru . . .yes listen to others' advise & stories . . .but in the end ONE has to make one's own decisions . . .other bros outcomes is not necessarily yours . .could be . . but not necessarily . .

Ain't trying to be a hero . . .just wanna make the best out of the situation .. .after this roller coaster . . .now feel much more relaxed about it . .take it as it comes . . roll with the punches . . .
Que Cera Cera, what ever will be will, the future's not ours to see, Que Cera Cera,What will be will be. . .

[aczeta76]

Thanks Bro Pete for knocking some sense into me..

I was watching the MV for this song when my other firend was telling me that perhaps I should be "merciful" and put an end to this thing as it appears that it is putting a lot of pressure on my GF.

Sighz.. there seems to never be a proper solution to issues of the heart..
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[longwinter]

sumtime l tink it is good to giv each other sum space when problems arise

for me , l hav try to pull myself and my heart when l feel like l am really falling for it, sometimes u jus hav to keep a check on ur heart and pull it back when necessary.

[PeteTsang69]

Originally Posted by aczeta76

So I gave her my ATM card and pin number . . . I also talked about buying a property in ZH for her but she said NO as she cannot commit herself to me at this point. (Now, that I dun understand as even is condo is in my name or joint name, rental will go to her)

And that is how I get into more shit... Now she is blowing hot and cold because she's worried that she will let me down and I am frustrated as I know she is trying to push me away so it pains me.

WOW bro you are STICKY haha

if i was her i would feel the same way . . you're too much too soon

you gone overboard bro . . .ease back
great of have those feelings about her . .but dun her scare away

she's a young girl, but now you're smothering her with all sorts of FUTURE . . . love, house, happiness . . . no wonder she has doubts about herself

but stick with her . . .she by having doubts she's bothering to care whether she deliver/can live up to your HIGH expcectations of her and of both of u together

why not try NOT talking about the future at all . . .let the future come by itself. . .it will arrive here naturally. . .like u v alreday said before . . go back home and THEN see what happens after where live is normal. .

just attend to her everyday issues for now . . nothing about the future

you really gone case . . .ease up