marry an HC girl

Originally posted by SilkStalk
I hope that you do give it some serious thoughts or 'certify' her well-enough... I had my fair share of being involved emotionally with a HC girl... I too, have met her parents and family etc....she promised me to leave her job on many occasions but went back to it ultimately... I caught her lying umpteen times to me and the trust I had in her was lost... After doing so many things for her, instead of being grateful and touched, she found some lame excuses to pick a fight with me and left... leaving me emotionally hurt and mentally lost when I needed her most...

I shall not dwell too much into the details and sincerely hope that yours is true to you and only you... Not wanting to dissuade you nor influence your decision, however, do check her out and see if she's really the one for you... though love is blind, it's better to 'see' her clearly if she is to be your life-long partner....

I still wish you all the very best if you've really decided to settle down with her...

Been through, done that, seen enough...
S.Stalk

So You see, what I posted earlier to bro holly that HC gals will not quit their job easily is TrUe right !

[Rof|maoxz]

Originally posted by holly
I am holding en employment pass (P1, monthly income about 20K) and want to marry an HC girl who is from Malaysia.

Can I marry her in Singapore? If not, can I marry her in Malaysia and apply dependent pass for her to stay here with me.

First of all 'Love is blind, vital thing is worthwhile or not.' From your first message, your monthly income definitely meet the requirements of applying for your own PR status. (Provided you have worked with your company for >2yrs).

Just wanna ask Brudder holly a Question. What plans have you made in about 2-yrs time from now. You got to do things step-by-step. 1)If you do not want to be a SGapore PR, marry elsewhere but not SGapore. If yes, apply PR for yourself first, ask your gerfrd to quit immediately. Ask her to go back to her hometown for about a year. From what I know, granting approval to ROM fr MOM for work-permit holders not that easy. "Approval is subjected to case by case basis". (Famous quote fr ICA & MOM)

This short term separation or countless trips to malaysia can also prove your determination towards her. After which, apply short-term social visit pass for her after you have obtained PR. Once you have the marriage cert, make a trip to SIR with relevent documents and apply Social Visitor Whose Spouse Is A Singapore Citizen (SC) or Singapore Permanent Resident (SPR)
Application will takes about 3 mths to process and mail the outcome to you by post. This is only a roughly guide. Maybe others have a better solution. Tks~

Singapore Expats Forum

Originally posted by AVIATION
So You see, what I posted earlier to bro holly that HC gals will not quit their job easily is TrUe right !

Erm... that was just a personal experience that left me in a distraught... it's not up to me to make a bold statement that all HC girls are the same.... perhaps bro Holly's girl is different.... but I do concur to your observation that they will not leave their trade easily.... those who left are few and far in between.....

I remember one HC girl did advise me aptly "Girls, inclusive of myself, who chose this trade are no simpletons... it takes a lot of courage in the decision making process... if your girl can decide to go ahead and serve so many men per day, that goes to show what she's really like.... my friend, you are kind hearted and I do not want to see you ended up being hurt.... women like us are too smart for you and not worthy of your kindness and love...."

Despite her quoting herself and saying all these to me out of "friendship"'s sake, I was adament in my decision to carry on with my girl and the rest are history....... thinking back on what she said then.... it does really make sense.....

Not lamenting on my past bad experience, just hope that my story will serve as a guide for bro Holly and a few others who might be thinking of getting involved with WLs...

My one cent worth....



Peaceful at heart
S.Stalk

[siakster]

Yo bro, im not gonna criticize u for your choice of a mate, but frankly speaking, if u really earn 20k as u said, im sure u have no lack of beautiful women ard u, either in ur workplace or ur circle of frens, who are much more respectable than a HC gal. with 20k u can easily afford the best in life, the best cars, nice hse...u can live a most comfortable life, surely u deserve better than a girl who has fucked most of the bros here. imagine ppl who have fucked ur wife giving u advice.....how does tat sound.
from what i see ard these days even if u earn a meagre 5k a mth, u can snag a hot chick if u know wat to do and where to look, 20 k can get u lots of hot steamy sex man. i dun believe tat u will commit to a HC gal when u have tat kind of status. true love might transcend all barriers, but a HC gal???!!!!! tis is not a taiwanese or hongkong drama serial......u will live to regret it......trust me.....u dun have to experience it to know it........maybe even ur colleagues tried her....

[holly]

Thank you all for the advices/suggestions. A fact is: the more you earn, the more you spend. I get to know 20k/mo could mean a lot after my post because compared with my colleagues, my income level is not that striking. I am in the line of financial sector. This is the most I can disclose to ease many brudders¡¦ curiosity.

Many of you have suggested me to go after models, stewardess, OL, etc. Well, once upon a time I have 2 ¡¥good friends¡¦ who were/are SIA flight attendants. We get together to enjoy each other and they will even accommodate my travels to fly with me so our adventures cover most of the popular destinations. I also had a GF who was/is a model in HK. Anyway, at the end, the frequency just can get harmonized between those girls and me.

For this HC girl, yes, no doubt, there is a sky/ground difference between us in the sense of education background, ¡¥history¡¦, ¡¥profession¡¦, life style, etc. However, after living together for almost one year, well, I must admit that I still have some clouds in my mind but I am getting more and more confident with the decision I am about to make. She is not ¡¥practicing¡¦ since we have lived together but she is still maintaining a WP.

What is ¡¥true love¡¦? To be frank, I am not sure, but for this time, maybe.

I again want to thank those who have been kind to show me the light.

All the best.

[tanterry]

Originally posted by holly
Thank you all for the advices/suggestions. A fact is: the more you earn, the more you spend. I get to know 20k/mo could mean a lot after my post because compared with my colleagues, my income level is not that striking. I am in the line of financial sector. This is the most I can disclose to ease many brudders¡¦ curiosity.

Many of you have suggested me to go after models, stewardess, OL, etc. Well, once upon a time I have 2 ¡¥good friends¡¦ who were/are SIA flight attendants. We get together to enjoy each other and they will even accommodate my travels to fly with me so our adventures cover most of the popular destinations. I also had a GF who was/is a model in HK. Anyway, at the end, the frequency just can get harmonized between those girls and me.

For this HC girl, yes, no doubt, there is a sky/ground difference between us in the sense of education background, ¡¥history¡¦, ¡¥profession¡¦, life style, etc. However, after living together for almost one year, well, I must admit that I still have some clouds in my mind but I am getting more and more confident with the decision I am about to make. She is not ¡¥practicing¡¦ since we have lived together but she is still maintaining a WP.

What is ¡¥true love¡¦? To be frank, I am not sure, but for this time, maybe.

I again want to thank those who have been kind to show me the light.

All the best.

I think there will be little problem in registering your marriage with her. The clearance from MOM should be as per normal if your ger doesn't has a criminal record, and also the fact she doesn't hold a health card.

I guess she must be one of the jewels in the crown. It's a big decision time for both of you. However, since you have been able to "monitor" her & been comfortable with her lifestyle for almost a year... maybe you might want to monitor further until all doubts are cleared. I mean why wanna tie down by that piece of paper?

Anyway, it's all to you. All the best.

[gedangsa]

Originally posted by AVIATION
Hi Holly, U indeed posed a VeRy interesting Question here, first may I know where is this HC? Oso what is this HC gal'name there, hopefully she is not one of My "lover".

Earning $20k a month, and having the interest to settle down w a HC gal........can U tell us more what really attracts U ? Her body ? Her face ? or her earning / saving ???
Not to offend or insult U, the other possibility is that U gOt a very Uninteresting look and Unpresenting figure........??

Maybe is just a fantacy in your mind and U actually earns only $20K a year !!

The fact is that if this HC gal is young and pretty, I don't think she will qut her job to get marry, as these gals usually will not change their life once they decided to work in that line.
If she is old, say above 35, only then they will think of settling down by change of work, BuT to get Marry is still NoT likely !!

I suggest U forget the plan and let us know about this gal so that we can share your joy !!

$20k a month, U should go after stewardess, actress and models, at least try something NeW, Interested in Stewardess ?

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Don't know about bro holy but I am interested in Stewardess, model, actress ...etc. Any lobang ? Swee boh ?

Originally posted by gedangsa
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Don't know about bro holy but I am interested in Stewardess, model, actress ...etc. Any lobang ? Swee boh ?

Do yOu earn $20k a month ??

If Not then sorry lah.........

[wahpiang]

bro holly, not to dampen ur spirits or rain on ur parade. The general feeling is juz b careful. All the necessary procedures can be followed and ultimate success can be obtained, ie u n ur gal getting married. However, it is best to think thoroughly, tread carefully and sort things out properly. Situations may be ideal now but that won't hold true forever. If everything is genuine, then i wish u all the best!!!

[holly]

Hi brud wahpiang,

Thank you for your advice and reminding which I appreciate it very much.

In the past one year, I have visited her home 5 or 6 time s and actually live together with her parents and siblings in my visits. I have also developed interactions with her relatives like her uncles and aunts. I have also joined her in her family events like wedding of her cousin, celebrating banquet of her grandma, etc. I have now believed what she has shown to me is true and I also hope the true will be true forever. (Well, I may become false before her.)

So, I would like to ¡¥assume¡¦ she is ¡¥genuine¡¦. Of course, I am still moving my feet carefully and doing my due diligence.

All the best.

[oaoo]

Originally posted by holly
Hi brud wahpiang,

Thank you for your advice and reminding which I appreciate it very much.

In the past one year, I have visited her home 5 or 6 time s and actually live together with her parents and siblings in my visits. I have also developed interactions with her relatives like her uncles and aunts. I have also joined her in her family events like wedding of her cousin, celebrating banquet of her grandma, etc. I have now believed what she has shown to me is true and I also hope the true will be true forever. (Well, I may become false before her.)

So, I would like to ¡¥assume¡¦ she is ¡¥genuine¡¦. Of course, I am still moving my feet carefully and doing my due diligence.

All the best.

Um ... just curious to know more about your ex-gals prior to this gal all have been talking about.

Were there similar experiences (visited her home, live together with parents, siblings, interact with relatives, etc.) as you have described above for other ex-gals of yours (if any)? How about your wife? Was it like that too?

I salute you and i also witness a few of my cheong kakis who are all happily married with children.My friends wife are all formally working gals.Maybe some of the old guys here might have on them before,but the past is the past.They even had childrens now and are leading a happy life.So guys dont be a spoil sports.Let him decide what he wants.Cheers

[benghwee]

Originally posted by holly
Thank you all for the advices/suggestions. A fact is: the more you earn, the more you spend. I get to know 20k/mo could mean a lot after my post because compared with my colleagues, my income level is not that striking. I am in the line of financial sector. This is the most I can disclose to ease many brudders¡¦ curiosity.

Many of you have suggested me to go after models, stewardess, OL, etc. Well, once upon a time I have 2 ¡¥good friends¡¦ who were/are SIA flight attendants. We get together to enjoy each other and they will even accommodate my travels to fly with me so our adventures cover most of the popular destinations. I also had a GF who was/is a model in HK. Anyway, at the end, the frequency just can get harmonized between those girls and me.

For this HC girl, yes, no doubt, there is a sky/ground difference between us in the sense of education background, ¡¥history¡¦, ¡¥profession¡¦, life style, etc. However, after living together for almost one year, well, I must admit that I still have some clouds in my mind but I am getting more and more confident with the decision I am about to make. She is not ¡¥practicing¡¦ since we have lived together but she is still maintaining a WP.

What is ¡¥true love¡¦? To be frank, I am not sure, but for this time, maybe.

I again want to thank those who have been kind to show me the light.

All the best.

[benghwee]

Holly,

I seldom post here but somehoe can understand why u want to marry your love girl(even she is from the HC)

I have no doubt you earn $20k/mth..
in fact if any1 check the registry, there are many middle income earners who are in this range and more in the $40k/mth category.

I may not reach your categoty yet but somewhere there..
And its true that the more you earn, the higher you spending power go, and the commitment is extreme high..
Sometime, even cashflow may rus low at times..

back to your issue, i believe you musy have a stong feeling for this girl before you made such a strong decision..

She must have something that attract you beside look and good body. perhaps her caring and understanding btw the both of you is one impt factor.
That is something that can last longer.

I wish you all the best. But just a word of causion..
Such feeling may be there for a while, maybe a few years..
But u must tell yourself that you can accept her in the long future and accept that she is once work in a HC.
Since u accept her, the past must not be mention again in your future arguement after your marriage.
Can you do that? Not many can..
What if happen that one day when u are with her, and met one of her previous customer... the customer maybe a nice one that just ignore and walk away.. but what if a nasty one come along and tease her.. U must be able to take it...

Just some thought that runs thru my mind..

No matter what, its your decision and yiu have to accept whatever outcome after you made the decision.

Cheers and good luck
When come to love, there is just no why, no reason, no whatever... This is what I always believe

[owen10]

fully agree.
not forgetting the stigma if yr children find out 1 day mummy has once worked in a HC n .........
not tryin to discourage u but marriage is for life - need to consider very carefully