Money Matter Btw BF/GF & Hubby/wife

[mamamiakuku]

I guess it is better you pay for the FB and dump your GF

[garlic]

Originally Posted by leungccsg

Hi Bro and sis

need your comments.

Does your GF / wife assume the man should pay for everything ?
from everyday makan to dating expenses . and family expenses and big ticket purchase ?

my GF think that man should pay for everything during and after courtship. even after married.

Man's pay is to be used for GF/wife , but GF/wife salary is for her own's keep. reason being for her own security and woman stuff.

can i know what's the general rule between guy and GF/wife?

Bro, you are fucked.. your wife/gf does not love you. And certainly do not think/ look at things from your perspective. Her own satisfaction and gratification comes above yours. There is no need to lay the cards or say everything out before getting together. She most certainly knows how much u earn and how much savings u have, all these no need to say one. If she loves you and feels the pinch for you when u spend too much on her, she wont expect or demand u pay for everything. GL!

[lihoblyde]

Hi, is your gf financially independent?

If she is then is is not fair to you at all. Traditionally, even though guys pay for the everything, the ladies do all the chores like clean toilet boil and stuff... further more, there was no women's chater.

If you pay for everything while she saves all her money, if you 2 divorce and you give her half the flat somemore, it would be ultra unfair for you.

I find that if you reason out with her she would be able to see in your shoes. If she can't then this relationship seems to be a little unfair to begin with since she is self centred.

[MoralEpitome]

Originally Posted by tiger2009

my wife and i have 2 shared accounts. i put in some money into both accounts every month. the first account is for the house - electricity, internet, ntuc. the second account is for old age savings. also, i give my mom money every month and keep the rest for myself - happy times. i use cpf to pay for the flat but she does pay anything.

25% households
25% old age savings
25% mom
25% myself

she contributes 25% of her income to old age savings and that's it. of course, I make 3 times what she makes.

Do you think it's fair. we have been married for 2.5 years with no kids.

Sounds good!...but when kids come how?

[dummy364]

Originally Posted by leungccsg

when i ask to open joint acct to save part of our income , she also very reluctant. when we go house viewing , i thought we would buy a house together. little did i realised that she wants a new house for us , but not willing to pay for it as joint name. she just wanted a house by her own an rent out .

i was damp unhappy though i still think that she is serious abt this relationship.Just that she is just overly stingy and protective on her own cash.

how to manage this kind of situtation >

It's obvious that the adage "Man should TAKE CARE OF YOU" has been drilled into her head since a young age. Might be an over-protective mother, pendantic asian soap operas or the like.

Zebras don't change their stripes. Dump her now. Cheaper than divorce later.

[leungccsg]

is it a malaysia thingie or what ?

i feel that singapore woman are more auto.

[gotcraft30]

i think should at least talk it out lah. If she really thinks that you must pay for everything then you must decide if that's what you want with your life. Most of the time, it's not the man or woman who is cheating that results in divorce. It starts from money. So better to be clear about things even if it sounds like you are damn anal and stingy.

I know of friends who buy their wives bmws etc etc just to keep them by their side. I find that seriously pointless... BUT if that's what you want in your life then so be it. It's not wrong, it's just how you choose to live your life.