Could you do without sex in marriage?

[loveWNBA]

A marriage without sex is just like ice kachang with no ice....think about it.what's the point of ordering ice kachang then?!?!??!

Sex between a married couple is one of the most essential ingredients to keeping a strong and healthy relastionship, haven't u noticed no matter how much you have fought, but that next 5 minutes after you cum during sex, all is forgiven and the world seems so beautiful...both of you become so affectionately comprising. The couple bonds better than any kind of industrial adhesive, superglue,etc.....natural loving bonding man,bro!

Then again knn if a marriage has no sex, my advise is please go see a marriage counsellor and sort things out....or whatever beliefs that brought you two together will just vanish into thin air.

[inlaw]

Originally Posted by aqcmme

the frequency of activity drops, the longer together, the lesser the numbers. Throw in a kid; then two. Additional stress for those staying with in laws. Throw in work if work environment if stressful.

Add the stress up and you can see why some look out of marriage for hot sex?!?

well said, and i believe sex sometimes is the best stress relieving action

[joncheong]

sex is magical...no matter how troubled or stressed we are...when we are high in the midst of bonking...everything is forgotten...and the magical moment of seeing your loved one cumming the expression on her face and then you cumming shooting into her love hole...then after that hugging snuggling together in bed...caressing her hair, kissing each other's body...wonderful...

couldn't imagine a marriage without sex...

[shctaw]

I prefer

Sex without Marriage.

And I believe all bros here do not mind.

[kennylee]

Sure will have, question is how often....as the years goes by, with kids, work, etc the frequency gets lesser. Sex is not everything in a marriage, part of it, marriage comes with commitment. Wife is wife, no matters what, at the end of the day, we still will come home. Men do enjoy outside, but at the end od the day, still stays committed to the family and our love ones.

[mustachio]

Originally Posted by Bris7

I don't really agree with your view on 'marriage to have safe sex'. Sex is an activity that's naturally happen between you & your spouse. Maybe you don't really mean it that way; it just did not come out right.

I sympathize with you and unfortunately I am also in a situation similar to yours (for the past 9 months). Initially, I was dishearten and don't feel good.

But it is easier for me now. Primary reason is because I no longer have much feeling towards her. I've think about divorce but with a child, it is not an option as I do not want my daughter to have a broken family.

So now, I only concentrate on work and bring up my daughter. My spouse is only legally my wife but she is just a housemate as far as I'm concern.

As what the others have suggest, consider counselling. It is not the end of the road yet till all options are exhausted.

Good luck bro

In another post i estimated that 7 out of 10 of us here are having some kind of relationship problems. Counselling will only work if both are willing.

I have been putting up with my wife's lies, nonsense and constant refusal to have sex. The last straw was when she flirted with people on line. A few months ago she even went to visit this guy overseas using the excuse of wanting to go into business with him. To me this is utter crap. I am in my early 50's and have a physique and look that will pass me off as early 40's. This ang mo is 64 big, fat and ugly and reportedly impotent. Maybe that is a ploy to make women feel safe to be with him. She said she felt comfortable visiting him because he is impotent. She will consider going into a relationship because he cannot and she also cannot. She said she will not find another able man and end up back to square one. What kind of woman is that? Menopausal?

Sure we had sex 2 or 3 times a month at most over the last 10 or 12 years because the kids are in the same room and we live with my parents and need to be discreet. The work stress and her body aches all add up. It is always quick cap it, put it in and you cum. I don't want to cum and sometimes it is faster, faster finish it. It never was like that when we were courting and before the kids came along. We quarrelled numerous times over this sex issue. I surmise that the dissonance in our sex life is the sole cause of our breakup. We got sucked into the viscious cycle of no sex leading to frustration and it goes round and round in circles. I ask myself can a marriage survive without sex? The answer is yes and no with so many scenarios to cite.

I am in the process of filing for divorce after tolerating for so many years. I held back because of my young children. Like you I did not want to raise my kids in a broken family. Now that we have come to this stage with no more feelings the best is to divorce and then treat her like a tenant who does not pay rent but helps out in looking after the kids.

Yes. The kids do matter and like you i will focus my energy on my kids. Don't be disheartened as there is still life. There will always be a leaf to complement a flower! You just have to find the right match.

Bless you!

[blohsg]

sigh ... perhaps it's an emotional need from the angmo fella that your X is looking to fill ...

Sorry to hear it didn't work out and it's like living as house mates ...

Guess compromise can only get you so far ... Hope there's a 2nd life waiting fer ya

[Super White]

Sex is required for a healthy marriage. A woman withholding sex in a marriage is like a man withholding talking in a marriage. A marriage missing either intercourse will fail.

Not referring to you but I have no pity for those who sound high and mighty about saving sex for after marriage and then citing sexual incompatibility as a reason for divorce.

Not making sure before hand is a gamble. Buy 4D don't strike got refund meh?

Be serious about making sure the right boxes are ticked.

Please fuck before marriage.