Low sex drive or cheating?

[cocobun]

other then not having 'regular love making' session, are you happily enjoying other daily activities with your husband? does he treats you well and you feel bless for having him as your husband?

[Powerpuffgirl]

Hi all,

Tks for all the Pm's and advise.

My upgrade means increase in sex drive. The stories are erotic and really turn on.

We used to have a higher frequency of 2-3 times a week. Prob 8 to 10 times a mth. It gradually reduced to the current.

I still look the same after married, infant lost some weights due to new job, my boobs did not get smaller due to it. I also travel twice a mth but will usually be back every weekend unless extension needed.

I do make an effort to dress up, make a move, talk dirty and ask him about his fantasy which he claim he has none.

However, I do feel abit cheapand pitied at times as he doesn't initiates at all nowadays and that is abnormal to me. To be fair, he seldom talks dirty as well. Initiative from him for sex in the past start by passionate kissing when we are in bed preparing to sleep.

He is aware of the schedule of my flights in and out of sg. Now I decide to keep it from him to test certain reaction.

His phone is clean, no mystery SMS or call.

Once again, thanks for spending the time to read this. Appreciate it.

[Alantino]

Sistar, try to hold on there la. its not easy for 2 person to come together.

sometime ,the trick is not to plan a day for sex. hehe. give him sudden attack.

if you wants to maintain the marriage without flinging, you can get sex toys to keep your drive going.

jia you wor!

[RealEstateGuy]

Originally Posted by chnhubby71

Hi Sis, for your info, you are better than us already.

We sometimes end up ZERO a month. And if I am lucky, I will get average 1 times for 3months. hahaha

Bcoz of lack of sex, I intro my wife and g/f to swing with others. And luckily, it did helps to improve a little bit but too much to the end of us having sex.

But it do enhance our sex and marriage life when we enter into swing with others.

Hope you can have a good chat with your hubby and intro him to this forum to help both of you to move forward to enjoy sex as a happily married couple like us.

Cheer!

Braddah, your wife is not interested in sex with you but is more interested in swing situations. Braddah, deductive reasoning means she is not interested in you?

[Alantino]

Originally Posted by RealEstateGuy

Braddah, your wife is not interested in sex with you but is more interested in swing situations. Braddah, deductive reasoning means she is not interested in you?

bro, cannot so direct la.

there maybe other reasons like married couple sex is like brushing teeth in the morning and night. bored and routine.

[soccerboot]

Actually, you are not alone in this situation, my wifey is in even worse scenario! We can count how much times we made love in a year, 3-4 times only! I already known this problem before marriage as I am not sexually attracted to her. She enjoyed the sessions we had together but my shaft will be at 6 o'clock position when she tried to make passes. Have some faith in your r/s & find out or discuss the situation with him. No need to jump the ship or sentence him, be sure to be by his side when he need you. Cheers!

[HunterJ]

Originally Posted by Powerpuffgirl

Hi all,

Tks for all the Pm's and advise.

My upgrade means increase in sex drive. The stories are erotic and really turn on.

We used to have a higher frequency of 2-3 times a week. Prob 8 to 10 times a mth. It gradually reduced to the current.

I still look the same after married, infant lost some weights due to new job, my boobs did not get smaller due........

I do make an effort to dress up, make a move, talk dirty and....

However, I do feel abit cheapand pitied at times as he doesn't initiates at all nowadays and that is abnorma......

He is aware of the schedule of my flights in .....

His phone is clean, no mystery SMS or call.

Once again, thanks for spending the time to read this. Appreciate it.

Dear sis, the reason to not let him know your flight schedule?

Anyway, good luck to you. Hopefully there will be some changes in your marriage life. Mutual understanding between your hubby and you will sure work out fine.

[RealEstateGuy]

Originally Posted by soccerboot

Actually, you are not alone in this situation, my wifey is in even worse scenario! We can count how much times we made love in a year, 3-4 times only! I already known this problem before marriage as I am not sexually attracted to her. She enjoyed the sessions we had together but my shaft will be at 6 o'clock position when she tried to make passes. Have some faith in your r/s & find out or discuss the situation with him. No need to jump the ship or sentence him, be sure to be by his side when he need you. Cheers!

Braddah, wow. Braddah why marry if no attraction?

[vscelwan]

TS, may be he has STD and scare to spread the virus or he is doing raw outside with girls and afraid he contact any STD that will pass to you. Regardless of age usually most of the guys initial for sex provided he is already bored on you or something wrong with his dick..

As u mentioned that his hand phone is clean, do you know how many hand phone he have? Most of my friends they have more than one hand phone. One for wife/gf and the rest is for FL or bla bla.. but their wife/gf are not aware of it they own more than one hand phone. One of my friends own three hand phone. I also curious why he needs so many.

[AndyFeng77]

Or maybe his andropause is beginning?

Coz when i ask FLs what is the usual age of their customers, they said is around 25-30. This may mean that most men's sexual urges declined after 30. In fact, i also experienced the same thing though my decline is very gradual.

[kgbkgb]

There's no such thing as normal frequency. For some ppl, everyday is normal. For some, once a month is normal. It's a very individual thingy. I tink sex drive in men tend to drop beginning from 30s onwards whereas for women, the drive actually goes up! Thats where the problem lies.

[calvintan123]

Maybe you shd specify to us what did you wear when ur making ur passes....did u dress sexily or something? Men are 90% visual creatures....try wearing see thru lingerie or loose spags tops which can expose tits....even better go topless accidentally in front of him( complain shirt is smelly cuz never sun) then test his reactions..
Maybe ur hubby is tired. Try cosplay...go gmarket get a few sets...it will make this interesting....

For all you know...he giving u advice now on this thread as a senior semester.

[wally888]

Your hubby is one lucky dud. So many samsters here deprive of sex from their wifey! If your hubby only have sex with u 4 times a month and u need 8 times, then definitely if u dunn mind I can fill in the other 4 times

[guess67]

Why do majority guys think that ladies don't have the needs?

[Starkarat]

so many suggestions and informations from fellow samsters... sure Ts will be more confused!haha
hoped she managed to solve it asap... or u can pm me for answers too since ur pm is full...☺