Both me and wife working. Should I still give her monthly allowance? - Page 3

adonis · #31 01-11-2013, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by TheArtist

... Then the rest maybe other expenses? I ask her, dun want to say. What to do...

She appears fishy. Try to find out what or who she spends the money u give to her on.

BBBJOK · #32 01-11-2013, 04:40 PM

Bro TS

If you are are paying all the bill, it is not unreasonable that you collect S$1000\- monthly from her to relief yourself financially.

Happy weekend

Intltuk · #33 01-11-2013, 05:23 PM

TS,
Only u and ur wife can work it out. If u take advice from here and ur wife is not happy...what then??? Sit down and hve a talk with ur wife....it's about compromise.

MrSeahLK · #34 06-11-2013, 09:39 PM

Good day TS

Since you are paying the bill and she has income, up to you how much you want give her . Don't give also make sense since you also need to spend on yourself.

Regards

faiwahnrt · #35 07-11-2013, 03:50 PM

Good day TS,

My wife and I earns similar amount and we split household expenses including for our kids 50/50. Whenever she needs to buy something for extra for the house or kids, she automatically will split the cost to 2....no more asking me to pay for everything......

It took awhile (probably close to a year) and lots of argument to get to this point.

You can start by listing down all your house hold expenses including for kids.....then tell her 50/50.....and standfast for the fireworks!!!

faiwahnrt · #36 07-11-2013, 03:56 PM

Good day TS,

My wife and I earns similar amount and we split household expenses including for our kids 50/50. Whenever she needs to buy something for extra for the house or kids, she automatically will split the cost to 2....no more asking me to pay for everything......

It took awhile (probably close to a year) and lots of argument to get to this point.

You can start by listing down all your house hold expenses including for kids.....then tell her 50/50.....and standfast for the fireworks!!!

hippiehippy · #37 07-11-2013, 06:37 PM

I think 1k is reasonable.

MrSeahLK · #38 07-11-2013, 11:32 PM

Bro

Did you split the housing loan into 50/50 ie deduct half from your CPF account and half from her CPF account?

Thanks in advance

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Originally Posted by faiwahnrt

Good day TS,

My wife and I earns similar amount and we split household expenses including for our kids 50/50. Whenever she needs to buy something for extra for the house or kids, she automatically will split the cost to 2....no more asking me to pay for everything......

It took awhile (probably close to a year) and lots of argument to get to this point.

You can start by listing down all your house hold expenses including for kids.....then tell her 50/50.....and standfast for the fireworks!!!

faiwahnrt · #39 08-11-2013, 07:49 AM

HDB housing loan is also 50/50 from CPF deduction......

SaveMoney · #40 09-11-2013, 01:27 PM

It is good to share the household expenses equally. Both party have equal allowance for personal hobby.

Fornicators · #41 09-11-2013, 10:24 PM

I like the idea of 50/50 sharing.

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Originally Posted by faiwahnrt

HDB housing loan is also 50/50 from CPF deduction......

faiwahnrt · #42 11-11-2013, 03:52 PM

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Originally Posted by SaveMoney

It is good to share the household expenses equally. Both party have equal allowance for personal hobby.

Good to have this setup....but i can tell it was very difficult reaching to this point.....we actually have a couple of huge fight to the extend that i was ready to walk out....

It all depends on on how far you are willing to take it......

At that time i was frustrated and feels like a water fish even though we have been married for more than 10 years.....everything were from my side.....she knows how much i earn and yet wants me to pay and pay. Even to the extend ask me to take up credit card zero interest loan to buy aircon, furniture when we got our HDB......i told her no loan, no money, no buy....then give me crap that salary not stagnant sure will get yearly increase...so no problem in getting loan.....really KNN!!

This is all water under the bridge....now everything is 50/50...just got to give her shock therapy that the marriage is going bye bye if she does not change...

Are you willing to go that far?

hornie · #43 11-11-2013, 05:35 PM

Enough or not enough is really depending on the financial situation of the person. If you are earning $10,000 then $1k is barely a dent into your finances. Sure your wife knows that you are earning a lot and wants to lead a more comfortable lifestyle.

If you are earning about the same as her, or less, then I do not see why you should give her. A mutual combined fund is better for all parties for long run. My wife makes about the same as me and we both share burden to pay all expenses in house.