Undergrad Investigator needed

[50shades]

Thank u for your jab of confidence!
Looking at some of the comments here do make me feel like a sore loser, a stalker even. Guys & girls are programmed to think differently. I don't hold on to hope that we would get back togt -whether the "someone else" exists or not (b/cos we never were togt in the 1st place).
It's like how u go for interviews, they seem all promising, but u never hear any outcome from them. So u take initiative to ask, they refuse to tell u why u fail the interview, why u aren't good enough, why the other chosen candidate is better than u etc.
I just want a closure, a full stop, instead of hanging midair. Idk how long I'll get over it or when will I ever have the confidence in a guy to love again.

[prettymannequin]

Originally Posted by 50shades

Thanks big bros for yr kind advice.
Although we did many things, dating isn't one of them.
None of his frens knew about me.
It just sucks that I've been there for him for sucha long time
He gives reasons why he can't date me - school, parents etc
Yet now he's seeing someone?!
Am I so undesirable? I just like to have Answers so that I can seek Closure as he's not giving me my Answers.
So if by chance, any year 1/2/3 engin undergrads are keen to help, lemme know.
Thanks in advance.

BABE. Sorry if this sound super harsh but the truth is: He doesn't want to be in a relationship... with you. He's just got no interest... in you.

It doesn't even matter whether there's another girl or not. It's not gonna happen between you guys anyway. Give it up. He's not worth your pining.

Closure 是自己给的，不是别人赐的。

[50shades]

" He's just not that into me"

God I hate that movie.

I wish he doesn't give promising signs or drag that long.
1 year.
He could have given us a chance & when we end us, I'd be convinced we didn't work out. Rather than not having tried. 50 yrs down the road, when I'm on my deathbed, my last Qn would still be how things would have turn out if I were given a chance.

[FatSpider]

SBF forum is not your personal army
maybe can try flowerpod or edmw

[prettymannequin]

Originally Posted by 50shades

" He's just not that into me"

God I hate that movie.

I wish he doesn't give promising signs or drag that long.
1 year.
He could have given us a chance & when we end us, I'd be convinced we didn't work out. Rather than not having tried. 50 yrs down the road, when I'm on my deathbed, my last Qn would still be how things would have turn out if I were given a chance.

Babe, the thing is you were never a candidate running to become his girlf... He doesn't owe you any chances to get together. So you need to stop thinking that you ever stood a chance, cause you were simply around for him to fuck and fuck off, which was exactly what he did.

[50shades]

Sorry :x
Just find edwm very hard to navi
Flowerpod : I dun want yet another girl to be involved

[Marlb0r0]

you already know that you are his FB, you are nothing but a sex tool him. i know you 不甘心 but from the start you already acknowledge its a no string attached RS.

anyway you can just sneak in to the campus and spy on him, makes the whole operation more exciting.

[kinny]

No point dwelling over it. You haven't found the right one. Move on and many more good things will be coming your way. Cheer up!

[kinny]

No point dwelling over it. Move on and you will have many good things coming along you way. Cheer up!

[50shades]

Originally Posted by Marlb0r0

you already know that you are his FB, you are nothing but a sex tool to him.

anyway you can just sneak in to the campus and spy on him, makes the whole operation more exciting.

It's an open campus. There's no need to sneak in.
Why does he need a sex tool when his is already big enough.
FBs to me is Friends with Benefits, not Fuck and fuck off Buddies. It's just sad that he's so extreme, taking out both the fuck & the friendship

[yang punk]

Dear 50
Your relationship from the little you divulged seems to be one way traffic. From the start he already told you there was no attraction but you wouldn't let go and used sex to entice him. You offered the FB relationship or he asked for it?

Well if you took the initiative then don't blame him for not rejecting free sex. To him it's just having sex (cover the face and fuck the base) but to you it's making love! Same act but 2 different emotions involved.

Perhaps to him you are just not good enough for him that is why he is embarrassed to be seen with you. It's your own fault that you can't read the writing on the wall. Lucky for you he is strong enough to walk away from you now rather than get entangled with you in say a loveless marriage and then cheat on you.

Trust me when a man does not love you it is near impossible to force love on him. Don't delude yourself, save your self respect for someone who reciprocate your feelings.

Would you rather he say it to your face, "fuck off you ugly possessive bitch, get out of my life, I can't stand the sight of you!"

Sorry to be so harsh to you. Hope it will save you further heartbreak!

[kgbkgb]

You simply refuse to face up to reality and I know you never will. The reality is staring right into your face yet you chose to ignore. He has had some pleasure out of you but he's not in the least interested in you. That I'm sure you already figured out. You're just his closet toy, to be thrown away once he got tired. Anyone could see this clearly. You mean you can't? Please leave him alone and do yourself a favour. Get real and get a life.

[demonhunter]

Originally Posted by 50shades

Thanks big bros for yr kind advice.
Although we did many things, dating isn't one of them.
None of his frens knew about me.
It just sucks that I've been there for him for sucha long time
He gives reasons why he can't date me - school, parents etc
Yet now he's seeing someone?!
Am I so undesirable? I just like to have Answers so that I can seek Closure as he's not giving me my Answers.
So if by chance, any year 1/2/3 engin undergrads are keen to help, lemme know.
Thanks in advance.

None of his friends knew about you because he has no intention of making you his GF .
1) he thinks you not up to standard
2) he has the opportunity to hook more girls
3) he is making use of your body to get off
4) You are the follower in the relationship , you give in to whatever he wants

Anyway , he already said he has another girl .
Although it might be hard to overcome the feeling of "ive been played " but its time to let go and move on..

Most guys given the opportunity will behave this way ...

all the best .

[Wintermelontea]

TS,

First thing first...welcome to SBF.

This is gonna be somewhat harsh. And I am not on the emotional high. Just from a normal guy's perspective. Period.


Face it! You are THE girl (during the time he wanted you, fucked you and only physically and lustfully used your body) and yet all those times you do not know you have been taken for a ride? Read, no introduction to friends, family, his personal life per se. Any girl will have their buzzers sounding loud and freaking clear?

Alright, so you are smitten...lovestruck.

I have read all your posts. The answers are all there. Yes, you replied to your own curiosity and you singlehandedly did your own closure. Yet, you refused to admit and seek further clarifications, investigations (help from NUS Engine people blah x3).

Many bros/sis voiced and countered your views. Nothing works.

Look lady, the only thing left for you to do is perhaps storm into one of his lectures and confront him directly in his face. No amount of investigations, talk, self pity, "oh, you poor thing..." will benefit you and your crushed egoistic nature and natural self.

Lastly, you enjoyed the fuck sessions and now missed it? Cool...find another and make sure he stay. Otherwise, learn to let it go, take a deep breathe and smile.

Have a nice day.

[prettymannequin]

Originally Posted by Wintermelontea

No amount of investigations, talk, self pity, "oh, you poor thing..." will benefit you and your crushed egoistic nature and natural self.

YES buddy you caught the egoism going on too! I was just about to tell TS how self-entitled she sounds. Everything she said about "my guy", "our relationship", "not giving me my answers" just reeks of one-sidedness and self-entitledness. And even making use of SBF bros to carry out her little investigation... it's kinda crazy.