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#32
05-12-2006, 10:31 PM
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Re: Relationship problem that require advice from all the expert here
hi bros.
firstly sry for the multiple threads i've caused due to laggness anyway thank you so much bros for giving me advice. anyway its her who wanted e breakup. i did try to win her back but she say no use. i guess i'm juz too soft hearted. though i wanna end it clean, everytime she call & tell me her prob, i'll hlp her out. really hate to guess wat gals r thinking. mind games r always so tiring. dont u think so? 
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#33
05-12-2006, 10:33 PM
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Re: Relationship problem that require advice from all the expert here
My advice is tat you hv a good talk with her..be prepared to lose her for gd for the moment...my exp is tat gers sometimes can be more heartless than guys..when u 2 broke off..it is weird that she wld still wan to keep contact with u in the short term..in the long term yes..but in the short term..its weird
from my past exp..last time somethin similar happen to me and my ex also...i was the one who broke off with her but we still keep in contact even after then...i did tried to hold her hand then but she pulled away also..to cut a long story short..after we patch back then..i found out tat she still like me then..juz tat bcoz we are not officially together again..she dun let me hold her hand 
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#34
06-12-2006, 11:34 AM
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I'm in exactly the same situation with my ex-gf. Honestly, she is just using you as a spare tyre and also for companionship until the next guy comes along.
It's very difficult to be in your position especially if you still have feelings for her. Nevertheless, it's easier if you face up to the truth of the situation. My ex-gf is the woman that I truely love till today (almost 10 yrs already). Unfortunately I married someone else. I try to forget her everyday and not to think too deep. Somehow I have conditioned myself to cherish every single moment that I have with her even though I'm the spare tyre and have conditioned myself not to be too heartbroken by her. It's weird. I meet her every now and then and we behave like couples... bonking and all. But after the short period, it's over and to be repeated again in a few months. The closest I can liken the situation is like falling in love with a Fuck Buddy. The most important thing is for yourself to take a step back everynow and then to put things into perspective and not get drowned by your own emotions. Try to commoditize everything and perhaps tell yourself that since you're spending time and money with her, better to enjoy it to the fullest but not get involved emotionally... and even if you do, keep in your mind constantly that it is just a fleeting moment and only temporary. It's a cruel and harsh world and we have to be conditioned and adaptable to the situation.
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#35
06-12-2006, 01:37 PM
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U probably have to decide and know and understand yrself what u see in her and what u appreciate about her. When u truly know ...
Next step decide if it is worth yr while to pursue this relationship ... i.e. bfgf till marriage. If not as a wife, then OK to stick as frens (not so much bfgf) If u think is wife, then reality very often we do not understand our own feelings. Very often we only apprecaite what we have until we loose it!!! Hopefully sooner or later she understands herself and knows what she wants. It will be difficult, but it may be worth your while to help her find this out ... and u too. In the process if u both find it finally but realise that u r not hubby-wife kind, then i think u will both remain good frens. Hope this littel bit may be of some help. Cheers.
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#36
06-12-2006, 09:53 PM
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hmmm, come to think of it, yr situation might be like this:
1. She is bored cos her mr right not appearing yet, so taking you like a float (so that to kill her time) 2. during these times, she got advantages from you than u getting from her (am i rite?) 3. but once her mr right appears, she will disappear in yr world, might even change her hp (or scold u upside down) if u try to contact her continuously bro, this may happen ... anyway how much do u spend on her while u meeting her? and does she hints or expect u shld do the paying?
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#37
07-12-2006, 11:35 PM
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ya i know she is definately taking advantage of me
but i'm wondering if she was like wat e other bro had said. she didnt wan to hold my hand cos we r nt officially tog. well i'm afraid i might miss e chance of getting a sexy buddy opps i mean gf aiya i'm in a dilemna rite nw. shld i juz ignore her calls frm nw on????
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#38
08-12-2006, 12:21 AM
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well, the brothers here have given you kind advices here.
the rest it is all up to you to handle it properly and not to risk hurt to either of u...for the time being just do your work/stuff and preferably keep her out of ur activities/life for a while..."out of sight...out of mind" good luck! cheers!
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#39
08-12-2006, 02:44 AM
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Hi bro deathsyct,
Can't help myself to put up FR in here after reading about your relatinship with your ex.... I do have to agree with some bros frm SBF that your Ex may take you for granted. But whatever it is.... once a relatinship is no longer there, don't expect too much to rekindle. No matter there's a barrier btw at both sides even as normal friends. Not many guys may like you to have the chances to be friends with yr Ex... after break up. Cheers!
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#40
08-12-2006, 10:03 AM
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Brother, i take my hat off to u.. most man are the same... but taking the emotional part of it is tough.. same story .. we r married to different person.. nv meet after that.. somethings do think back, at least on my part-.. part of memories... but she probably hates me  haha..cheers!!
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#41
08-12-2006, 10:22 AM
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bro surfer.. looks like we have similar opinions and experiences too... my ex-gf is now my FB.. we met when i was having a crisis in my marriage. for 1 yr my ex-gf and i were together and i fell deeply in love... we eventually split becoz we realize that we lived in different worlds and that there was no way we could be together (personal issues). I patched up with my wife and managed to stay away from my ex-gf for a grand total of 3 months before I received a phone call from her late one night telling me that her friend had passed away.. all i could think of was how much i wanted to comfort her then.. i went to her house the next day and ended up sleeping with her again.. since then we have been having regular sessions of sex.. FB is a term which she used on me ("pao you" is the exact word), but when we are making love, everything seems so right.. I know she still loves me, but she refuses to admit it.. it is in the way she holds me and kisses me.. the feeling of longingess in her embrace... Threadstarter, in my case, its about 2 grown and mature adults who love each other but know that we can never be together.. Time will put things in perspective. We may say that we control our own destiny but in reality, fate sometimes denies us the opportunity to be with the person that we truly love and cherish.. Make no mistake, i love my wife, but my ex will always hold a special place in my heart (a soft spot if you will call it). I am not proud of it, but I am man enough to admit I know what I am doing is wrong.I know that one day, I will come clean and tell my wife about it. Talk to your ex-gf.. bring up your exact thoughts about how you feel. If you still love her, then it is the right thing to do. But if you do not love her anymore and are not keen to reconcile, tell her to move on.. you can always be friends again in the future.... then get on with your life without her.
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#42
08-12-2006, 01:58 PM
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i finally got my courage to talk things out with her 2day.
her ans is tat she is juz treating me as a fren. after hearing this, though my heart sank to rock bottom, i'm oso happy tat i finally know e ans. i told her tat bcos of her body language tats y i tot she was juz waiting 4 me to patch back or watever. and her ans is tat cos she is too used to it when being wif me. anyway after e talk she said tat she got my idea & will keep a distance frm nw on. mayb its gd 4 both of us mayb. and i totally agree wif some bro's cos i know she is juz making use of me to keep her accompany. juz tat i'm juz too stupid to avoid it even knowing her motive. haha. well for nw i'll juz keep my finger cross tat she will call me up someday & mayb bcome sex buddy like other bros. haha
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#43
08-12-2006, 02:12 PM
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It is good that she keeps her distance from you from now on.. don't go around trying to be her FB.. if it happens it happens... u may also not be mature enuf to handle the emotional baggage that comes with your FB being your ex-gf... so give each other time to get over past feelings... As they say hindsight is always 20/20.. when u look back on this relationship in a couple of months when u are happily involved in a new relationship, you will say.. life does indeed go on.. happy cheonging...
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08-12-2006, 07:25 PM
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The only ex that I have had problems doing this with is with the one I truely love. I tend to forget myself and fall in love with her all over again and hurt myself in the process. We're contacting less of each other now (intentionally on my end) in case I get hurt again. So, to the threadstarter. If you like her and not love her, keep her as a FB and a close friend but keep your mind, heart and eyes open. If you cannot do that, steer clear or you will hurt yourself. Its difficult to control the heart so make sure all your thoughts come from your head (both Big and Small Heads).
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14-12-2006, 04:35 PM
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