An affair with an ex-colleague (im married)

[henry_ang10]

Originally Posted by lustandfast

Appreciate it man. Will try it

bro, once a woman decides to let go, she will become a heartless monster no matter how happy u were with her last time.

Anyway is ok to grieve over the loss of someone u shared happy moments and so close with.. eventually u get over it...

But i can promise u something... THERE IS NO WAY BACK WITH HER ANYMORE!.. once a woman lose her feeling for u, that's it.. 99.999% no way she wants u back..

So it takes about 6mth to 1 full year to get over the woman.. U will regret if u try to contact her as she will start getting more and more nasty and cruel and u will be stab deeper and deeper..

Start telling urself everything is over ... at times especially at nites, u will feel super emo, feels like ur heart is dropping, feels like u cant breathe like suffocating.. This ill feeling will last at least 3 mth then start tapering off until one day u suddenly find that u can sleep peacefully without thinking about her.

Then the next 6 mths is the most crucial.. no more contact with her .. ABSOLUTELY DO NOT contact her... after the next 6 mths, u will be cured 99%.. occasionally u may think of her say u pass by the places u gone with her before.. other than that, u will not be thinking about her anymore..

One thing that can accelerates the healing is to go and f all the chio bu/FLs/MLs u can find.. once ur sexual urge is satisfied, it reduces the chance of u thinking about her.

Is like cold turkey for drugs.. So when u undergoing the cold turkey, u can use substitutes for drugs to keep urself satisfied.

Bro, one thing for sure.. u will not be the only one who suffers the same kind of thing.. Usually flings do not last.. A woman will not last forever with a married man becos eventually she will be sick of having to hide behind the relationship, she will eventually find a bf and will start dumping u..

BUT hey, we really cant blame them cos we cant give them a name and we dun expect them to hide forever. The only way out is to divorce ur wife and marry her BUT then u will start thinking about ur wive and the whole cycle repeats ...

So let her go ba... i can understand how u feel... But please dun contact her anymore if u really want to recover

[henry_ang10]

Originally Posted by lustandfast

I got ask her before if she still miss me but her reply: “Miss so what? You also cant be with me. Wait till you can be with me then talk.”

Its very ungentleman of me to make her feel worthless and i regret. Why should guys do this when the affair decides to call it quits? On the bright side, at least she nv come find me at my house and make a nuisance because shit will turn really bad and you will lose everyone.

I used to have another partner before marriage. Asked her to come my house and stayed over and we have sex once. This was during my poly time. After the fuck, i lost all feelings and gave her the cold shoulder.

Sometimes i wonder what girls see in me. Im nt handsome. Not very muscular. Just have a humorous tongue to make them laugh. Thats all. Why are they into me knowing that i already hve a partner?

YES... imagine u keep pestering her... then she gets fed up and go ur house tell everyone about ur affair and call the police say u keep pestering her or even worse say u blackmail her with all those naked photo or sex videos.. then u lose everything for NOTHING..

That will be the WORST!

haha.. my solution is to go look for FLs and MLs to satisfy ur "needs".. then without the needs, u will not think about her liao...

Maybe look for a sugarbabe... at least any problem that money can solve one is not a problem BUT remember to use protection. Cheers..

Bro I feel u... dun worry ... time + no contact will heal

[VoicesWithin]

Curious question. If a married man frenches, hug, kisses, fingers. But never use his tool to penetrate the woman i.e no sexual intercourse no oral sex, is it still called an affair?

[sky_liner2]

Originally Posted by VoicesWithin

Curious question. If a married man frenches, hug, kisses, fingers. But never use his tool to penetrate the woman i.e no sexual intercourse no oral sex, is it still called an affair?

Yes, as long as there's intimacy involved, you are having an affair!!!