Married female colleague

[driedlemon3]

TS - Feelings might be hard to control but take practical steps like just doing lunch and not dinner or drinks alone. It becomes tricky when it comes to business trip, I notice man I met have little control, they would always contact me to ask for dinner or drinks even though I can see that they are making effort to control. I would decline but not every woman would say no so the ultimate control has to come from you TS. Enjoy the friendship but put in the boundaries. All the best!

[Neoguri]

TS, I believe you know what you want deep inside.
And a major factor is your state of mind.
If you want it to happen, you will make it happens.
However, if you felt it is safer not to shit where you eat, then you will take steps to prevent it.

I must say that it is quite tempting to ons someone who works with you.
The work place is where you see the work performance of the individual and most women admires capable men who are decent/nice, and vice versa for men as well (at least for me).

I had shared my experience of seducing and ons-ing a former colleague now supplier from Shanghai in other posting.
The sexual attracting and tension is there and then it is a question if you want to pursue it?
I am glad I did and it is an item off my bucket list.
The sex is also good as she was very wet and after twice in that first trip where she came to the USA, I had another 6 nights when I got her to come over for a meeting again, and another 2 times when I went to Shanghai.

Looking forward to my next trip to Shanghai when the pandemic travel restriction is lifted.
She has become a regular FB in my pipeline of supply

[Squeezy]

Dear TS,

It's normal for human to develop feelings for each other lah...we're humans afterall.

From your post, it seems like she had the same feeling but she exercised some self control. If she's cold towards you or tried to distance away from you, it's already a hint that - either she's in love with you and she know it's wrong, or you did something which left a bad impression on her.

IMO, never ever get yourself into a relationship, who is married and with Kids.

[Buibuicat]

Originally Posted by georgie1994

yes need to be careful as the female already married. If not, many things will happen later on

I was in a way the same predicament.... the issue she not married but was abt to be .... and also in my work place too ... we hit off great but she decided to MIA ( abt 10-20 years much later )n go cold as she was also in love with me but due to unfortunate circumstances she said her hand was force to choose her former life and I was married as well but it was not good enough for her to wait till my issues was settle ....

So I guess we got to move on ....

[unsung80]

Since u arenot sure, just do it. Bring her out for a drink, get her high, touchy a bit on her, if she reacted, go for the kill. Dun po po ma ma later think back I should have do it then regret. If dun wan to do then keep be a professional and gentleman of yourself.

[js005]

especially while alone overseas too easy to cross the line of fidelity.
the covid only made it worst since being located overseas only made family guilt less.
that being said live it while you can still have it!

[Lijunde]

Originally Posted by Kinetics

Haha after re-reading what I have written...not too sure if the bros here understand what I am trying to say....

Follow your heart. Sometime too much logic is not necessarily good