Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[fixxxer]

Originally Posted by sgiceboy

Bro,

u are not alone, take heart

Thanks Bro... Sad But True to what u stated above No wonder men since the days of History being recorded stated that a woman can make you and break you at the same time

[fixxxer]

Originally Posted by notti4u

Bro, you are not alone.... me having the same issues as you... wondering why woman are like that wor? Good thing, I have my both hand which is Jane and Jenny to help Dick out when i needed to release hahaha

Same here la bro, but how long to depend on Jane & Jenny... Its a Fucked up cruel world....

[fixxxer]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

sad to hear that, sorry buddy!

Thanks for the support buddy \m/

[303258]

Originally Posted by fixxxer

Glad to see this thread. At least able to pour out some sorrows. Me too married for 04 yrs and just had a kid last year. Everything went downhill after that. At the beginning i too thought the childbirth took the toll on my wife and she needed time to heal herself mentally and physically but coming to nearly a year since my son arrived things haven't changed. We haven't had sex for 2 years due to it being ever since she got pregnant i didn't initiate it to respect her feelings and her cycle of becoming a mum. Before marriage, i was banging her non stop with all kind of passion. She even had a abortion before we got married. Iv'e tried talking to her but nothing seems to happen. I respect the fact that marriage isn't all sex, which is why i walk my own path now from Fuck buddies to Fl's. I'm still man and i ain't no saint. We've decided to stop with one child and i don't see myself having any action with her. Life still goes on even though its painful at times. Gd day my brothers \m/

im gonna get married soon, and thought of having a child the year after... but after reading ur story , it really scares me that i might end up with FLs only ...

[asdfghjkl]

Originally Posted by Papadude

I sweet talk her, buy XXX DVD, g-string, toys etc etc.... everythings I tried... finally she was moved...

wow.. impressive resume you got there! at least your efforts paid off!

[analog]

Sis's and Bros:

Haven't posted for some time....my heart goes out to all of you with these issues.

I've seriously toyed with the idea of a FB/affair but this scared the shit out of me:


Its called "Sex has a price", FUCK!!!! scared teh shit right out of me.

My advice to all of you if your spouse is not interested in sex, go to councelling. My situation is not great but its better than many of you.

What that video....sheeeese...
Scary. You have about a 75% chance of getting something if you fuck outside of your marriage, condom or not.

Yikes,
Jim

[stone08]

Sad to say, it is often a downward spiral after kids come onboard...damn pathetic ..

[analog]

Originally Posted by stone08

Sad to say, it is often a downward spiral after kids come onboard...damn pathetic ..

Councelling bro!

My stituation is not great but its a fuck of alot better thanit was 2 years ago. I mean MASSIVE impoovement.

In my situation, my wife really stepped back when I told her I went to councelling on my own. I then informed her that the MCYS councellor would be calling her.

Its very interesting to see your wife's reaction when you're both in front of a lady councellor and you say there is no sex in your relationship because your wife always refuses....and the councellor looks to your wife and says, 'What's the problem?". It really shocks moderm women sometimes when another, more experienced woman informs them that IT IS THEIR RESPONSIBILITY TO MAKE LOVE TO THEIR HUSBAND. Its not any more optional than eating is.

The look on the wife's face is priceless....try it man. It will change your life.

Cheers,
jim

[senja88]

marriage has a routine structure which was not in existence during courtship. some say this is good for bonding or stability but for some it numbs the senses after a while. so it is not surprising the sex life suffer.

guess this is what happen to some of the ladies with the extra responsiblity of taking care of the household chores, baby, in-laws and not forgetting the hub that she so loved and at the same time juggling a career. breaking down this routine for her like taking away some of her chores, eating out, spontaneous romantic romp etc will go a long way in keeping things fresh. dont always take the shortest drive home helps too.

well, the occasional external romp balance things out a bit for us men. i am no saint and i succumb to this school of thought. but at end of the day, we must know where our priorities lie.

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by Papadude

My Heart Goes out to Fixxer...
It is really sad and indeed a torture to your manhood... he had been tested for 2 years before your started to stray out...

My wifey had the same problem after birth, before becoming a mummy, we tried all sort of stunct... bake cream, honey on my cock and her pussy etc etc... sound very adventures.. right!!!

But when my daughter came to this cruel earth, more cruelties awaits me...
my wife didn't allow me to touch her, even putting my arm around her shoulder irritate her....

I sweet talk her, buy XXX DVD, g-string, toys etc etc.... everythings I tried... finally she was moved...

From dried dessert underneath growing only cactus and she become hot and dull of water....

That's how I have my 2nd one...
I still remember my wifey initiate a FJ when she was into her 7month...
Fortunately, the spell was broken even after my son arrived at the beautiful world.

Bro Fixxxer, Don't give up on your wifey yet...

good advice bro....thanks...

[jskywalker]

I feel for you bro...

I too have the same problems after marriage.
before marriage, everything was cool. we would fuck when we had the opportunity. that's an average of 3-4 times a week and that's really good enough for me as there's always work and life routines to deal with.

After marriage, out came our little precious girl and things just changed. sex does not even happen once a week!

I think sometimes women need to understand that men have needs. And these are real life biological needs.You can't let a lion go vegetarian just cause one does not feel like buying meat from the market today.

When a couple signs on the dotted line in marriage, it means " we will be fuck mates for life " no other way around it. If you bonk someone else, that's a breach of contract! But who should we do it with if the only woman i'm supposed to bonk isn't game for it all the time?! Going solo in private does not solve the problem as it's just a mild and temp distraction from a real problem.

I'm still looking for answers to my problems as well.
Really feels like a curse at times just trying to be a faithful husband.

Cheers Mates!

[lucaswilliams]

Originally Posted by ferragamo

Before marriage my wife was very active during sex, willing to try everything.

Now after marriage, especially after kids - the times we have sex, it is just going through the motion - strip, touch abit, insert, pump, cum

I am sure some guys say no Fish, Prawn also good

But I beginning to feel very sian during and after this type of sex.

(already tried all the usual suggestion like role play, new places, blah blah blah)

want to find out if other married guys face this issue also

In the end do you just also go through the motion?

some days I just feel don't have this type of sex better, feel more dulan after that.

or is your thinking got sex better than no sex...

Bro,

It's her hormone problem, after giving birth plus chores at home... But there's way to improve things... I always felt foreplay isn't just physical... Usually I will text her erotic messages during the day to fish her desire out... If possible take her out on a dinner date or movie... Then it will be natural to have sex with her... It's usually more fulfilling!!!

Never try to understand women, just love them!

[shiokpleasure]

Wa lau, if she not interested, then just outsource the sex department to someone else la.

[Nokia69]

Most bros here are luckier than me.

No sex during 6.5 years of dating, fr uni all the way till marriage. At the very least then, i got to paint her and do the usual stuff except sex. Did not get even a decent bj all these while.

Been married for 7 years now and we probably have sex like 26 times annually. Somehow, 2 lovely kids (boys) appear effortlessly. I brand myself a one time shooter. Sex to the wife is about lying there and the husband finishes the pumping job, even though pussy not lubricated. Btw, foreplay like painting not allowed since 2007.

We are financially very stable so its not the daily stuff that causes low sex drive. I suspect it is her upbringing in a traditional singapore chinese family. Even then, i believe her siblings have slightly higher sex drive..i hope...

I do evny bros here who have had at least good sex in the past. At least these are good memories which i will probably never have.

I hope all bros intending to go into a long term r/s or marriage seriously evaluate if the girl is the right one in all aspects. Otherwise, a lifetime of regrets.

[stone08]

Bro Nokia , that's really sad, u really can tahan without regular sex , good discipline ..