Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[peachbloom]

Originally Posted by Hotcoffee

My wife even told me she don't like kissing me. Cause when I kiss I produce a lot of saliva.
It hurts.............

Most of the time when I want to ML, she just tell me no mood. Worse is she also told me I cannot turn her on. CCB to her!!!!

Usually first time kissing will be messy and have a lot of saliva. Married alr still so much eh, but it's good for licking her part, more wet better.

When she say all this words, most likely you make her angry somewhere therefore the rejection. Do a reflection and talk to her nicely to solve the issue.

[Hotcoffee]

Originally Posted by 5ag1_Boar

Bro, that's called feedback. Be glad she tells you - some bros don't even get that privilege. Now the ball is in your court, do you want curse her behind her back and let things slide? Or do you want to go do something about it? Talk to her, ask her how she likes to be turned on. Ask her how to kiss better. Singapore got sex therapist... check them out. Also have marriage counselors, conventions, etc.

If she say don't want to fix it, then you give her ultimatum.

Everytime I talked to her abt this she will just quarrel and scold me. She asked: 'Is this important? Is this a must?' Or she will change topic.

4D is 3 times a week, toto twice a week, big sweep once a month.
It's like waiting for big sweep every month for me, just wouldn't know which date will it be. Miss it and wait for 1 more month. Lucky it's not Toto CNY $10 million draw.

Originally Posted by peachbloom

Usually first time kissing will be messy and have a lot of saliva. Married alr still so much eh, but it's good for licking her part, more wet better.

When she say all this words, most likely you make her angry somewhere therefore the rejection. Do a reflection and talk to her nicely to solve the issue.

I didn't make her angry hor. Imagine when U kiss your partner and was told you r a lousy kisser.

[5ag1_Boar]

Originally Posted by Hotcoffee

Everytime I talked to her abt this she will just quarrel and scold me. She asked: 'Is this important? Is this a must?' Or she will change topic.

I went marriage counselling before. Seriously, some things some people will not take seriously or believe until a third neutral "professional" or "been there, done that" party tells them. If you do decide to go to a counseller etc, go by yourself first (without wife knowing) and get his/her advice about your marriage. You can also ask their advice on how to get your partner into the counselling. Also, don't bring your wife in on the basis that you want to fix the sex (don't even mention the word)... tell her you want to strengthen the marriage. In fact, you should also go with that same mentality. More and better love making is part of the whole package.

[jesterem]

Bros, going through all ur stories, I could not help to share my part.
You see I am the opposite, after three kids, sex drive getting higher, in fact her's higher than mine.

I dunno whether other bros got same experience like me. She got hornier with the latest addition, now already 4 years old. There are many times we ML with the toddler beside us and of course we are covered with blankets.

At times our son even ask why mommy is on top of me, so we answered him, mummy is exercising with daddy.

Luckily for ipads and iphones, we are often left alone by our toddler for at least an hour or so to do our "thing".

We were at the library last Sunday morning, I suddenly felt damn horny after seeing her white milky breast from her tank top she was wearing. Suggested we bring the toddler to the handicapped toilet.

Went in with the stroller and all, gave our toddler the iphone, sat him in his stroller and got busy with wifey. Did not realize that by the time I had finished with the boy, wifey was already topless and cupping her right breast and offeirng her sweet nipples to me to suckle like a baby.

She later unzipped my jeans, got out my dick and gave me a good damn 15 mins blowjob until I came in her mouth. Turned her doggy like, slipped down her panties from her her denim skirt, fingered her and found out immediately how wet she was. Doggied her with her leaning against the basin and fucked her brains out. She used her hand to muffle out her moans when she climaxed.

Then we pretended that we were washing our toddler, opened the toilet door and saw an auntie waiting to use the toilet. From the look of her face, I think she knew what we were doing inside,...hee hee.

[5ag1_Boar]

Originally Posted by jesterem

Bros, going through all ur stories, I could not help to share my part.
You see I am the opposite, after three kids, sex drive getting higher, in fact her's higher than mine.

...

Seems you're the exception here.

[yang punk]

Originally Posted by Hotcoffee

My wife even told me she don't like kissing me. Cause when I kiss I produce a lot of saliva.
It hurts.............

Most of the time when I want to ML, she just tell me no mood. Worse is she also told me I cannot turn her on. CCB to her!!!!

I think it's time you ask her to her face, "are you fucking someone else outside?"

What is the point of marriage if you can't have sex at home? Tell her don't blame you if you find someone else to fuck outside.

When my wife didn't give me enough sex, I found willing partners at work. No obligation and no strings attached. Though we stayed married, I now have my fb of over 20 years still loyal and dedicated to me. Best is she appreciate every moment we could spend together and would thank me for fucking her or cim and letting her swallow my cum. She is 20 years younger than me and best thing is she is financially independent.

So TS, you never know if you never try to seek your own happiness. Marriage is not the end of the road to a satisfying sex life!

[sup3rm2n]

Originally Posted by yang punk

I think it's time you ask her to her face, "are you fucking someone else outside?"

What is the point of marriage if you can't have sex at home? Tell her don't blame you if you find someone else to fuck outside.

When my wife didn't give me enough sex, I found willing partners at work. No obligation and no strings attached. Though we stayed married, I now have my fb of over 20 years still loyal and dedicated to me. Best is she appreciate every moment we could spend together and would thank me for fucking her or cim and letting her swallow my cum. She is 20 years younger than me and best thing is she is financially independent.

So TS, you never know if you never try to seek your own happiness. Marriage is not the end of the road to a satisfying sex life!

Very true and well written, until alimony comes into play, women are usually "more" protected by law. If you get caught, really is GG.

[yang punk]

Originally Posted by sup3rm2n

Very true and well written, until alimony comes into play, women are usually "more" protected by law. If you get caught, really is GG.

Bro. The trick is to marry someone your equal. Don't be so mcp as to be the dominant half of the partnership. Keep separate bank accounts. Her money is hers and your money is yours. Agree who pays for what in household expenses. Property(s) in joint names and payments also 50-50.

But most importantly, tau chak must remember to wipe mouth.

[tapzs]

Originally Posted by jesterem

I dunno whether other bros got same experience like me. She got hornier with the latest addition, now already 4 years old. There are many times we ML with the toddler beside us and of course we are covered with blankets.

happening man!

keep it up!

[liveonce75]

Originally Posted by ferragamo

So what was your solution in the end? or is the problem unresolved still?

Sorry bro ferragamo, strangely only now then I realized that you asked me a qns. Haha better late then never..

Well, we try to talk it out. After the talk we do it weekly (like most middle age couples) and after some time it became twice a month to once 1 month... as expected.

Guess my case is still not as bad as other bros here as my wife and I still have a very good relationship during the day, and with kid's school work and our own work stress tying us down, sometimes the sex part seems to be of lesser importance, compared to how I feel 1 year ago. Or am I really getting old, i ask myself.

Its frustrating sometimes.
This week she say headache, so I say ok you rest.
Then next week she say menses come, I say ok ask your auntie make herself feel at home.
Then the 3rd week I will be anticipating with excitement cos I knew surely something happening soon, only to be met with a "now so late, don wan la, tmr still gotta wake up early" kinda answer from her. So I say, huh? ok lor..
Finally on the 4th week, she got response!! So try to foreplay a bit, after 10 mins say she wan it, so prepare to give her, then realized she not wet at all. At that time I will feel like wtf, doing for the sake of doing??
Well at least she pretend to wan la..

I foresee this sex frequency thingy will naturally decline over time. Its probably one of the many obstacles a married couple gotta face and hurdle over in life together.

So till now, I do not have a solution.

[BitchyBoy69]

after having 2 kids, my wife oso not so keen to have sex anymore...sometimes even hv to beg her to masterbate me to release...sigh...perhaps i shld really built up 6 packs muscle to turn her on liao...;p

[Tomthefucker]

Originally Posted by Hotcoffee

My wife even told me she don't like kissing me. Cause when I kiss I produce a lot of saliva.
It hurts.............

Most of the time when I want to ML, she just tell me no mood. Worse is she also told me I cannot turn her on. CCB to her!!!!

if you think your case is bad, wait till you hear mine...my wife told me straight off that she hope that i wont find her attractive anymore so that i wont attempt to approach for intimacy..

[takashi31400]

Sigh.........I divorce my ex just to with my current gf.We has been together for almost 8 years .When we know each others for the first 5 years ,we ML anytime ,any place you name it....she was very daring.....but now we only ML once or twice a month with she just lying there let me use vibrator to make her come a few times then pumping her till i come.....

Just wonder why women dont take care of your own guy and let others women to take care for you ....i really dont wish to eat outside but.....
we has been discuess this issue for so many times but with no solution .
Most of the time i have to settle by my both hand......

[WIBlack]

It's sad to know lots of brothers here having such problems. It's not easy for woman to multi task and at end of the day, still have to serve husbands like more than once/month. Don't flame me, but I am saying from my point of view.

Most times, he won't talk to me, care about me, show me his love. I asked for his concerns, attention, a hug or a peck on cheek now and then, no response. But when he wants sex, he will come touch me, caress me. I will give it to him. When I horny, I diy myself too. Told him, he heckcare!

I did try to caress him more often, give him hj/ bj, but he wants more and after those sessions, back to inattentive mode again.

Did you bros give your partner enough attention, even care? Go out for couple date over meals or movie, or just two of you together without kids around. Listen to your partners when they plead with you for these dates. Don't just turn deaf. You may find you will get more satified in bed and more often.

I have give up on pleading but I still ML with him when he wants it. Life is short, both parties have to care and give in/ best to the ones we choose.

[Botakhead]

Originally Posted by WIBlack

It's sad to know lots of brothers here having such problems. It's not easy for woman to multi task and at end of the day, still have to serve husbands like more than once/month. Don't flame me, but I am saying from my point of view.

Most times, he won't talk to me, care about me, show me his love. I asked for his concerns, attention, a hug or a peck on cheek now and then, no response. But when he wants sex, he will come touch me, caress me. I will give it to him. When I horny, I diy myself too. Told him, he heckcare!

I did try to caress him more often, give him hj/ bj, but he wants more and after those sessions, back to inattentive mode again.

Did you bros give your partner enough attention, even care? Go out for couple date over meals or movie, or just two of you together without kids around. Listen to your partners when they plead with you for these dates. Don't just turn deaf. You may find you will get more satified in bed and more often.

I have give up on pleading but I still ML with him when he wants it. Life is short, both parties have to care and give in/ best to the ones we choose.

Hope that he truly return what you gave him, equally and fairly.

Take care.