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Re: The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?
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We can never be satisfied... not neccessarily a bad thing as it just makes us want to go out and improve things all the time... unfortunately improving on marital relationships by getting another wife is not an option available to most of us.
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1. budding relationship, both would be thickly blinded of the flaws in each other, only to learn of the ugly core within... and the dilema to cont or to call it quits. (change bf/gf, not much cost implication) 2. steady relationship, both havent experienced the hard core ugly truth within, only to realize it when much time & effort, sweat & tears been invested... and the dilema to cont or to call it quits. (change bf/gf, need to calculate & cut heavy losses... and start afresh) 3. marriage relationship, both now experience more sh*t from the in-laws & extended family, coupled with their default flaws, spots begin to show... and the dilema to cont or to call it quits. (divorce incumbent spouse, to pursue a new life starting from zero... cost 1 hellava bomb) so what happens? some choose to blind both eyes, deafen both ears, freeze the heart, grit their teeth & brave on.... whilst some adventurous ones would drop everything & venture for 'greener pastures'.
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find higher ground and try manz
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people are generally not contented...we constantly want newer things, better things and new experiences...same goes with r/s. So actually its really up to individual to surpress yr own urges or not... hur hur hur
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It reminds of a movie....If plunging into a relationship is Die Hard, then plunging into one with a cement ground is Die Harder......
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i got divorced shortly after i got married... for the past 3 years, i realized she was the woman i love the most..
so sometimes what they said is true - you'll only learn how to appreciate someone only after you lose them.. *sigh*
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what an irony of life..
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The 2 serious relationships i had so far- one during my 'A' levels as a student, the second during my 1st of army. Both time also no money, neither did i think about it. Nowadays, as i hear my peers talking about how they spend their xmas or new year with their loved one in plcs like Genting or Phuket, i feel rely left out.. Hopefully when i find the next gal willing to be my gf, i can spend a holiday, even a short one, in somewhere like Phuket.
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Dun worry. dude.... You will find urs soon..
Been love is a blessing...
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Maybe is becos they realise each other's "chao kwan" when they spend almost day and night together when go holiday together.
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Been following this thread for a while, but did not have anything to say until now. so here is my 2 cents...
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Back to the topic, "The one you marry, ...". If my memory serves me well, the one I married was the one I loved most at the time I married her. The marriage was a combined result of preceding events that led both of us into it then. There wasn't a reason for me to marry someone I did not love most at that time. <fast forward> >> "..., is not the one you loved most?" Such thoughts starts creeping in on and off over the years. They get stronger with negative feelings towards each other over all sorts of things that piss each other off. The relationship gets especially testy at times when a third party is available to sooth one's emotional and physical needs. For reasons unknown to me, but there must be good reasons why we men were evolved with a dick with no brain cells in it. Today, I shiver on hindsight what could have been broken during those times. Luckily, nothing was broken. I hung on till this day. <fast forward again> >> After these years, I now understand that keeping a marriage together is one thing, keeping love within a marriage is quite another. People change over time, and there is no telling how each of us will change. But we do have a great deal of influence on how we want those changes to occur. If 2 people open their hearts at a dead end, a new road will appear. Today, I actually look forward to holding my middle-age wife's hand in bed before sleeping. It's a very comfortable feeling. |
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That very thought of growing old with my wife turns me off. I'm envious of you... wish I could say that.
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sometimes i wonder if the one tat we feel we love the most will always be the one tat we neva get? bcoz we cant ever get her..tats y we can only depend on our memory to remember her and only think abt her gd..but once we are together..her faults become more noticable to us
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not really sure abt wat happen but then if u realise tat she is the one u love most..y not try to patch things up again? it might be hard but i sure tat she will b touched by ur sincerity also
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