Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by finn2046

hi bros
I'm new here.

Hi Bro SingViet, do you mind share with us how much is the higher class chinese resturant with 10 tables and transportation cost?
Thanks in advance.

When i got married in early 2004, per table is around 2 million VND (without drinks and alcohol). 2 million VND is quite something there at that time as exchange rate was S$1 = 7500 VND. There's a choice of 1.5 million to 2 million VND tables. My wife only allowed them to drink Heniken and the total bill added up to around 25 million VND. As my wife's province is nearer to TP HCM and one of her relative has 2 buses plying b/w TP HCM and their province. They charged me 2 million VND per bus for return, so total 4 million for transportation.

These are roughly from what i can remember. 2004 is like 5 years ago, very difficult to remember all details.

Her mother initially wanted to hold the dinner in the province. She estimated around 250 tables for the whole village. Each table around 500,000 VND (inclusive of heniken). I almost fainted. That will be like 125 million VND

[VietnamLover]

Originally Posted by leecs

Some pics from my trip. Nothing spectacular..

One of the photos is at Suoi Tien in district 9, right?

[finn2046]

Originally Posted by SingViet

When i got married in early 2004, per table is around 2 million VND (without drinks and alcohol). 2 million VND is quite something there at that time as exchange rate was S$1 = 7500 VND. There's a choice of 1.5 million to 2 million VND tables. My wife only allowed them to drink Heniken and the total bill added up to around 25 million VND. As my wife's province is nearer to TP HCM and one of her relative has 2 buses plying b/w TP HCM and their province. They charged me 2 million VND per bus for return, so total 4 million for transportation.

These are roughly from what i can remember. 2004 is like 5 years ago, very difficult to remember all details.

Her mother initially wanted to hold the dinner in the province. She estimated around 250 tables for the whole village. Each table around 500,000 VND (inclusive of heniken). I almost fainted. That will be like 125 million VND

Thanks Bro SingViet for the infomative price guide for wedding dinner in HCM City. I was newbie regarding Vietnam and its culture.
I met a gal there in one of my trip this year. I kind of having feel for her and ask for mobile number. She is not from HCM City but working there as selling noodle. But she dont speak english or chinese, we communicate using viet dictionary. She just started to study chinese and she never been to singapore before.
Just my little vietnam experience to share.
Again thanks Bro SingVet

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by finn2046

Thanks Bro SingViet for the infomative price guide for wedding dinner in HCM City. I was newbie regarding Vietnam and its culture.
I met a gal there in one of my trip this year. I kind of having feel for her and ask for mobile number. She is not from HCM City but working there as selling noodle. But she dont speak english or chinese, we communicate using viet dictionary. She just started to study chinese and she never been to singapore before.
Just my little vietnam experience to share.
Again thanks Bro SingVet

I always feel that communication is very important for a couple. No matter what differences the couple have, as long as they are able to communicate well, the differences will be easy to resolve. Singaporean man has 2 major choices for their viet gf who only speak vietnamese:

(1) Singapore man spend the next 1 year of so learning vietnamese
(2) Viet gf learn mandarin or english for the next 1 year or so

I always feel that unless the Singaporean man is going to settle in Vietnam for good, or else its better for the viet gf to learn either english or mandarin if she is going to come over to Singapore.

3 months of language course is surely not enuff. Good to be able to learn the language for up to 1 year continuosly for the viet lady.

By the way, my price guide is very much outdated as Vietnam has experienced high inflation these few years. So prices are very much inflated nowadays.

[jackbl]

Wow so large a figure!!! I would rather give her mother half of the sum than to spend it on dinner and the chance of getting back thru ANG BAO is NIL

Originally Posted by SingViet

Her mother initially wanted to hold the dinner in the province. She estimated around 250 tables for the whole village. Each table around 500,000 VND (inclusive of heniken). I almost fainted. That will be like 125 million VND

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Wow so large a figure!!! I would rather give her mother half of the sum than to spend it on dinner and the chance of getting back thru ANG BAO is NIL

Now you knew vn gals are precious commodities...now vn couples prefer to have daughter rather son for one child policy...

[leecs]

Originally Posted by VietnamLover

One of the photos is at Suoi Tien in district 9, right?

Yup.......

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Wow so large a figure!!! I would rather give her mother half of the sum than to spend it on dinner and the chance of getting back thru ANG BAO is NIL

For me, i chose not have the dinner in the village. Why bother to give my mother-in-law so much money? If starting give her a lot of money, then next time she will have a lot of request to ask for much more. I don't believe in setting the trend for giving money. That's why my mother-in-law doesn't like me and i don't like her too.

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by SingViet

...... If starting give her a lot of money, then next time she will have a lot of request to ask for much more. I don't believe in setting the trend for giving money. That's why my mother-in-law doesn't like me and i don't like her too......

Agreed!! You dun want to start off on the wrong foot and set an extremely high precedent for yourself in you relationship with your in laws.

You may think that they will regard you highly if you give a lot more money...but the truth is they will expect more highly from you instead!!

Its the same with your relationship with Vn gals. i find that many a times, people start off on the wrong foot. They tend to think that by giving your gal more money, they will like you more. In a way, that's true cos which gal dun like man who gave them the impression that he is well-to-do? But at the end of the day, if it's a relationship built solely on money, then you'll find that when you are not able to "contribute" then it's bye bye time.

Never think that you could be their "knight in shining armour" unless you have the wealth of a prince.

[papillon30]

Originally Posted by finn2046

Thanks Bro SingViet for the infomative price guide for wedding dinner in HCM City. I was newbie regarding Vietnam and its culture.
I met a gal there in one of my trip this year. I kind of having feel for her and ask for mobile number. She is not from HCM City but working there as selling noodle. But she dont speak english or chinese, we communicate using viet dictionary. She just started to study chinese and she never been to singapore before.
Just my little vietnam experience to share.
Again thanks Bro SingVet

A Viet gal selling noodle is zillion times better than a WL. Your chance of getting a good wife is very high. Congratulatons! By the way, where is her noodle shop?

[papillon30]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Now you knew vn gals are precious commodities...now vn couples prefer to have daughter rather son for one child policy...

Generally speaking, Viet. gal is more filial than a Viet. guy. It's better
to lay an egg than to have a male child. Many already late 30s still
sponging off parents or sisters(WLs).

[lovesprout]

Any bros here share the same feeling that VN girls are hardly on time? Or is it just that I am unlucky? I never ever meet a VN girl and she is on time.

From my own experiences, I would be very lucky if they are only late for 10-20 minutes. 30-40 minutes are quite normal. 1-hour late is not unusual. Sometimes even no show. I am wondering whether it is a Vietnamese culture or not.

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by lovesprout

I am wondering whether it is a Vietnamese culture or not.

It is Viet culture.... their timing is super rubble.

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by lovesprout

Any bros here share the same feeling that VN girls are hardly on time?

next time tell them you strike 4D and wants to give them money. They sure on time.

[justin]

Can anybody help?

My friend a vietnam gal want come singapore.How much money must she have to come singapore?

After her stay in singapore(after Extension of Short Term Visit Pass) and went back vietnam.Must wait how long then she can come to singapore again?