Advice needed

[templton]

i would say change some of ur habits.. he might have fetish of ur fragrance that can stimulate his hormones and get him horny, changed to some baby powder or something. The clothes you wear can be casual, or even while sleeping or even while at foreplay, you can do a simple few tricks to turn him off.

Change some of the habits maybe?

[templton]

Originally Posted by sweet_pea

@kragb: i am 26. I haven't thought of settling down. Too far to talk about.

@walle: then he can just source outside, he can always get a chance if he wants to, but he doesn't. Even my daily schedule is pretty much watched by him, meaning he knows my movements throughout the day.

I asked him why he needs to have it every night. He says cos it's me. Everytime when we are together, there's a desire to have me and he wants every inch of me, his.
So much so to an extent, if I lost weight he knows when he grabs. My butt is also firmer now, used to be flat like a pancake. After being with him for a year, my ass started to rise like cupcakes, due to the pounding of a certain mating position.

He said alot girls can't withstand sex every night and it's physically taxing, that's why when I am tired, he restrain himself and let me have a good sleep, but actually he very much wants to get close to me and be intimate.

Then I asked whether it will be better if I don't go over his place at night, say cut down to 2-3 nights per week, he said he is already used to me sleeping beside and I am actually to help him sleep better, although I am always the first to doze off.

How brothers?

sis.. .can i ask how long you been together with him???

i am wondering as, sorry but trying to be honest here, he is still having you as his gf and rightfully having sex with you is no wrong, but too much now wont it affect in the future??? usually i see men have this problem of sex too much with gf till they got tired of her and start looking for other.

Not trying to say that he is 1 of this kind but maybe telling him that too much may hurt future instead??

[sweet_pea]

You know, he is so sharp that when I toned down my dressing, he kept quiet even though he observed the diff, but it did not turn him off. until one day when I wore normally as I used to, then he asked why did I tone down my dressing previously. So purposely doing things to turn him off will instead turn him on even more. My beau is a deep one, i would say.. Sigh, or he knows me too well.

I am with him only for a year. Being in the nature of business that he is in, he has no lack of girls to choose from if he really wants and in fact it's really easy for him to cheat behind me if he wants to. I really have no idea why though... Other brudders has forewarned me that perhaps it's sex and not love he's into, that I am not worried for I know he loves me and way too much not because of the sex but in other aspects as well.

I know what he really dislikes and I am actually thinking whether I should do it.
ie: cutting my hair to a bob instead. Should I?
ie: Putting on weight and having a tummy.(But, i can't stand this myself)
Hmm...

[templton]

Originally Posted by sweet_pea

You know, he is so sharp that when I toned down my dressing, he kept quiet even though he observed the diff, but it did not turn him off. until one day when I wore normally as I used to, then he asked why did I tone down my dressing previously. So purposely doing things to turn him off will instead turn him on even more. My beau is a deep one, i would say.. Sigh, or he knows me too well.

I am with him only for a year. Being in the nature of business that he is in, he has no lack of girls to choose from if he really wants and in fact it's really easy for him to cheat behind me if he wants to. I really have no idea why though... Other brudders has forewarned me that perhaps it's sex and not love he's into, that I am not worried for I know he loves me and way too much not because of the sex but in other aspects as well.

I know what he really dislikes and I am actually thinking whether I should do it.
ie: cutting my hair to a bob instead. Should I?
ie: Putting on weight and having a tummy.(But, i can't stand this myself)
Hmm...

sis, what ever you do, beware of the consequences behind. If you did that, he get dislike, it wouldnt be just only on sex. It will be as overall image. That is a totally no-no if you do cherish your relationship with him alot. Especially a guy that loves you.

I had one experience which i encountered before, which i can share with you in PM. see it and see if that may work for you.....

sent private message le...

[ch33zy]

Originally Posted by sweet_pea

@ ch33zy: it's normal for the partner to know your whereabouts no? as in know when she has night outs, gatherings and etc... It's the intimacy he wants when he sleeps and when he sleeps. Hmm..

ok.. from the sound of it, you seemed to be like the type of xiao nu ren ba.. anyway, as long as you are happy, i believe that is the best ba..

[seelookseelook]

aiya.....haven married yet, why stay together?????

seems like he very sticky/processive type.....talk to him about your situation, and if he really love you, he should know what to do.....

suggest you stay at your home and he stay at his home, stay at his house once a week lor.....bluff him you got work assignment to do lor, or you go pick some courses then pretend you got many assignment to do lor......

hope it helps......

[xiaomidnightz]

Don do it ah. later he don wan u den jia lat. ask him masturbate before u go his house lo.

[candidfan]

Originally Posted by sweet_pea

He loves and cares alot for me, that's why am here to seek opinions to see how I can bring my message across like have it say twice a week to him without hurting a man's ego.. When I am tired or having menses, he lets me sleep through the night, which means actually he can curb himself. He doesn't force it on me, neither aggressive. other days, he's always pouncing on me!

He proposed and is actually all ready to settle down. If I go get pregnant, it's no issue to him at all. It's me, I am not ready.

It's not I am not comfortable having it everyday with him, but it tires me out and affects my functioning in the day... grrr..

He is cheeky in a way, he knows my weaknesses and does it on me to get me turned on and I will all ready to roll, but the after effects comes when day breaks.

I see alot of brothers advising me to speak to him and let him know my concern. I think i will try soon and tell him whether it's possible to have it twice a week. Not too little right? This is a sex forum, I should say I am pretty amazed at all those replies.. So many kind souls around who are concerned.

Thanks! Merry Christmas Guys!

Why not take some vitamins? it might be becos u r lacking some form of nutrients and it's causing u to feel tired more. or might be becos of diabetes? kidney problems etc? It might even be becos u r not comfortable with ur sleeping position. In fact, most pple sleep better after sex. u shld be feeling refreshed when u wake up, not feeling tired when u awake.