would you marry a girl with low sex drive?

[bulldog1234]

Originally Posted by Softcore

Hate to break it to you, but it may be as simple as that you don't arouse her sex drive. Even the most demure girl will turn into a sex machine if you press her right buttons. Doesn't always have to be physical - in fact the mental game is much more important.

if only it was as simple as you make it out to be. Anyway what I have now is a choice...to marry her and accept her for what she is...or break up with her and hopefully find someone that is more suitable. It's always making such decision which is the tough part. We are quarreling frequently cos of this problem.

cos frankly as much as I love her, the lack of sex makes the whole relationship very dull and exasperating.

[bulldog1234]

Originally Posted by Gaofar

Sigh bro TS..

What I am about to tell you is of my own life experience: My ex-wife (yeah we divorced) used to like having sex every now and then when we are younger.

However, as years went past she slowly became less interested in having sex, something like once every 4 months or longer.. I asked her what's the matter and be concern if there's anything wrong but she'll just said that she is tired or not in the mood..

I tried every tricks in the book to entice/stimulate/jump-start her, by bringing her out to romantic dinners, taking her to nice places to relax, buying her things that she likes, etc., but to no avail and I patiently kept doing that for the next 4 years plus.. It's not that I did not persevere and try to keep the marriage alive..

Like I said, she's now my ex-wife so what do you think?..

Thanks for sharing...this is the exact situation that I really don't want to be in if i marry her. I'm sure that if you have a choice, you would have wanted to know before you married her rite?

[Softcore]

Originally Posted by bulldog1234

if only it was as simple as you make it out to be. Anyway what I have now is a choice...to marry her and accept her for what she is...or break up with her and hopefully find someone that is more suitable. It's always making such decision which is the tough part. We are quarreling frequently cos of this problem.

cos frankly as much as I love her, the lack of sex makes the whole relationship very dull and exasperating.

Look at it this way: Even if you marry her, you will likely use the lack of sex as a chip in the future in your arguments with her. This would disrupt your marriage and deteriorate your relationship.

It is also unlikely that the quarrels will stop even if you marry her - because your need is still not addressed.

[FuzzyFusion]

I don't think you love her enough to accept she has low sex drive? If she has openly accepted the fact that you can practice safe sex outside, she love you enough to accept the fact that she cannot fulfill her part in sex life.
But can you accept the fact she has low sex drive? Is it the sex or the intimacy that you desire for?
For me, low sex drive is very good if packaged with approval to have my meal outside.
Because like Bro Sam said, after a few years, I will be looking at others and not her. Having low sex drive, will decrease the chances of her fucking behind my back.
Ultimately, You alone decide the outcome. All the best bro...

[goodpartner]

Came across this post while reaching on nympho girls...

I am a young Australian woman who at 27years of age has clinically been diagnosed as a nymphomaniac.

Part of me wants to scream it from the roof tops. Hello world, my name is Naomi and I am a nympho. While another part of me wants to crawl into a dark little hole and disappear.

While I do not fall into the category of highly risky behaviours such as approaching randoms in the street and doing them in dark alleys, I have a much higher than normal sex drive. So high in fact that I spend a great part of my waking life focussed on sex. I have lost count of the partners that I have had since the age of 15... Yes this started when I was 15.. At the same time that I went through puberty and started mass producing hormones, I started craving sexual gratification and it has been my downfall for the past 12 years.

The problem with being a nympho is that I have a great deal of trouble holding down relationships. I have one failed marriage behind me which was followed by 3 years of rampant one night stands, short term relationships and affairs. Flatmates, Friends, Strangers, they were all fair game.

Then 3 years ago I met someone in a swingers club and thought that I had finally found someone with a sex drive to match my own.... Only to find after three years and the introduction of a child that he is satisfied with sex once a week and I want it three or four times a day.

We bicker about small things and it feels like my condition is sabotaging our relationship because I am not sexually satisfied, and I wonder if I ever will be.

Being this way does not make me happy. It is a very lonely life when the only way you feel satisfied is when you are getting all you can from someone and either have them running away from the pressure as the midlifebachelor has explained in his post, or alternately having to leave the situation yourself because you are finding yourself feeling unsatisfied when things go off the boil.

If I could find someone who could keep up with me, laugh with me, enjoy life with me and manage to keep the spice and desire at a constant I would be amazed, delighted even...alas I feel like that may never happen.

Instead I live life in a daze, trying to subdue my urges to jump on the closest man...

Woe is me.

Will you prefer to marry such a girl instead?

[Erasure]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

....I would prefer to marry a girl with low sex drive. Wives who want frequent sex can be a real pain.

No husband is interested in screwing his own wife after a few years of marriage. The wives of other men are far more interesting.

To have a woman who you have no real desire to fuck constantly badgering you for sex is the stuff of nightmares.

To add on....if my wife-to-be has low sex drive...she is less likely to cheat on me given that she is not keen on sex....so its more assuring.

[Newborn]

un lucky for me,,my wife didnt really interested in sex..that why i join this forum to hanging around

[back_it_in]

Originally Posted by bulldog1234

Thanks for sharing...this is the exact situation that I really don't want to be in if i marry her. I'm sure that if you have a choice, you would have wanted to know before you married her rite?

i think i was in a situation just like you before. i have a girlfriend who NEVER masturbate before. she has a low sex-drive even though i took her virginity. i love her. but the problem is that she can never satisfy me sexually like others.

how i solve it is this way. i subtlely let her know that if this goes on, the possibility of me finding other gals to fuck is higher. as a result, she put in more effort to satisfy me. as we get to know each other more sexually, her sex-drive improve a bit. the important thing is that she must learn to try harder and we, as a guy, must learn to be patient with them.

now, she can also be a horny bitch given the right mood and foreplay. even though her skill is still not as good as some other girls, im happy with her progress that i believe i will marry her. previously, i also thought of breaking up with her cos of the sex thing but the love feels stronger than just about sex. i even thought that after marrying her, if she cannot satisfy me, i would go for my fix in GL every week.

so now, even though her skill is not up to par yet, i've given up on GL. cos the GF feel is the best when having sex.

[makemecum]

Originally Posted by back_it_in

i think i was in a si....
so now, even though her skill is not up to par yet, i've given up on GL. cos the GF feel is the best when having sex.

all to best to u, Bro

[Wally]

Low sex drive but if have good character and understanding, I can accept. Just have to be discreet and find my release elsewhere, but will try to compromise with wife on maybe 2 or 3 time a week.

[makemecum]

Originally Posted by Wally

Low sex drive but if have good character and understanding, I can accept. Just have to be discreet and find my release elsewhere, but will try to compromise with wife on maybe 2 or 3 time a week.

haha 2-3 /week for low sex drive...
so wat is normal...