Depressed girl

[digby]

Everyone has a past and I believe even the darkest cloud will fade so not to worry too much. Can't really advise you on whether you should tell the truth to your bf but if you believe he is the one, you should be honest to him but you may lose him as any guy cannot take this.

[trueno2008]

Actually you don have to admit, there are so many people who resembles. Not sure what is the degree you have went about with your bf's fren. Agree most bros here said, never give in, otherwise never end. Protect your own well being is top priority. Report that guy to police to take down those photos. Some people "never see coffin never tears".

[dom70]

hi TS, I also think you should talk to your BF. since his friend already know and believe you also worry that his friend will blackmail you with that pic. if your bf really love you, he will not mind as that is your past. Unless his love to you is not enough to make him forgive your past then I would advise you leave him for good.

everyone has their past and it should be forgive and forget and look ahead. Do raise up your head and face your past and walk on. wish you luck...

[Priest]

Hi TS,
well.. there are always look alike, so it will be easier to get away if that pics shown to you by BF friend does not show any body marks which can "pin" you down.

perhaps, it is good time to also find out for sure if your BF really loves you for who you are.. you are the best judge yourself.. determine what are your risk if you were to tell him only "half truth".. if not otherwise, the truth..

if he loves you, he will look beyond the horizon.. remember, everyone has a pass.. and everyday has it's dark side..

[anton]

What would a friend of yr bf do if he sees such a pic online?
I think a bf's real friend would just keep mum or tell you bf.
If he brings it up to you, then I think he is expecting to be rewarded
to keep his mouth shut, otherwise why bring it up at all.

Yup.. I think that guy's trying to wrangle some fringe benefits
- that is, if you haven't given it to him already...

[andy888]

Haiz, agree to all the bro here, the moment u give in to threat, Good Game. not only u lose ur bf, u lose urself in the loop of no returns. anyway, by not eating/sleeping dun slove the prob. what done cannot be undone. so do ur best to save it. in a rational way

[Frankiestine]

Well its obvious that the motherfucking son of a bitch is actually a samster in this forum and must have read all the advice for you to report him to the authority. If not he won't be so quick to contact you and admit his mistake. But the problem is he may have deleted the pic, is that to say no one else has downloaded it? Once something to put on the web it already left a carbon footprint you can never wipe the slate clean...

[pohh]

Since it was your past..... You should be brave to face the future ahead and overcome problems... Let the past stay and welcome the brand new days....

[Tana]

if you want to have a peace mind and want to tell your bf, better do early than late.

[wells]

You need to make a decision fast before the photo exploded all over the web.
Deny all the way is one option or coming clean may have a chance to lose your bf or go to the police and seek for help.

This forum is the best place to check should your photo appears.

[moruf]

Originally Posted by Thanks

Dear all...

I actually wanted to leave this thread quietly but I feel very bad as you guys have shared your time to offer me valuable advices .

These few days.. I rec pm everyday, from guys and gals...

The opinion from girls were not to say... Cos we have this feeling Tat what u don't know can't hurt u....

I'm sorry to say that until now, I am still unable to come to a decision.

But my purpose of posting here is to update a good news. Thanks to many bros for advising me to lodge police report , my ex client is now aware that he is wrong. He SMS me to apologize and say he has since deleted my pics. I responded that I do not blame him, and I mean it. I am too troubled with the mess and glad that at least one issue is resolved.

As for my bf, I need time to think over.

That's all the update for now.

Thanks you all so much.

Good for you girl.

My professional and personal opinion is that it's good that you didn't make a police report with less than full facts. The ex-client just needs to show that he paid for services, you advertised etc, both of you would be in a lot more trouble than either can handle.

As for your bf, I think you may need to come clean, especially if there has been any past evidence out there, especially now that more than yourself knows the secret. You wouldn't want to let him find out from someone else, where it may spread uncontrolled to your mutual friends.

As long as you have him on your side, life can't be that bad.

[moruf]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Well its obvious that the motherfucking son of a bitch is actually a samster in this forum and must have read all the advice for you to report him to the authority. If not he won't be so quick to contact you and admit his mistake. But the problem is he may have deleted the pic, is that to say no one else has downloaded it? Once something to put on the web it already left a carbon footprint you can never wipe the slate clean...

well it's likely that the photo was actually posted here as well. Little coincidence that she started an account in a forum where people look for FL and post pictures of FL etc.

And as most of us are here to share and enjoy such pictures it's hardly surprising that such photos are posted here.

As you've said, once out on the net, it's out there. Someday, sometime, somehow the picture will likely surface again, and this time may be by someone outside of her area of influence.
She needs to prepare for the eventuality...

[hunson]

Hi lady,

Take the courage to tell your bf as he will know sooner or later as paper cannot cover fire.

If he left you, then he don't really love you. There be other guys out there who are as good or better in case he cannot accept such things.

There will always be a past that are not to be told for some people.
It is how u yourself look at things that makes the difference.

Don't take the past as a haunting experience but a past that helps you grow and appreciate your life better. We bros are always here for you to seek advise or chat with.

MOVE FORWARD LADY!!!

[ol'coyote]

dear Thanks...
the best answer to your problem is already given...
REPORT TO THE POLICE...
treat it as blackmail...
oso...by posting pornographic pics...he is breaking the law...

[Thanks]

hi everyone.. its me again, depressed girl..

i am penning this in my car now.. feeling extremely emo..down..helpless..lonely..

do u ever a secret so ugly, that u can never share with the person u love the most.

i am still in a struggle of whether to come clean with my bf. few days ago (or last week), i posted a poll on whether guys mind their gf was an ex FL, here in sbf.

when i read the answers , it was like a knife, piercing thru my flesh. FL are sluts...whores...cheap... yes all this i agree. and yes i am cheap. i really wish FLs read that post. and to all the ladies who are FLs now, please stop. and those who are thinking of offering services. please DO NOT do that,please. one day, u will end up like me, hurting the man u love most. and no matter how successful u are, u will never erase this black mark. once a whore, always a whore.

over these few yrs, i have completely erased my memories as a FL. and selective memory is very powerful.. i have almost forgotten everything that happen during tat 1yr+. however it is very damaging.. i seem to have lost my true self. today i have everything a woman can wish for, but i dont feel happy at all. because i feel cheap.

i know i will never be happy again... but i dun wan my bf to suffer like me. guys can play around, but they never wan their girl to be loose. i wan to make an exit in the relationship with the nicest memory he has of me. but i wan to open up myself to him also, this is a very big dillemma im having now.
we never quarrel. yes we dont quarrel. u must be thinking, which couple dont quarrel? but we are both the sui bian kind. even if our opinion differ, we would not be so stubborn and jus talk it nicely. and we make it a point to say thanks and welcome.

sorry, i know my story is boring. but i really need a listening ear, i am really too vent up inside. now im crying like a mad woman in the car, and the love songs from radio made it worse. but i hope gers will learn from my story, and not step in my footsteps...

my first customer was my student's dad.

since i step out of sch, i have always took more than 1 job.
i have a full time job, and i would teach tuition at night. this student i have, he stays with his parents in a condo. i rarely see his mum, its always his dad around only. later, i learnt that his dad invest in shares and property. his mum runs a business in msia and returns on weekends.
it was a normal day. i went to his place to give tuition. when the tuition was coming to an end, a heavy rain started.
i : oh no, later can i borrow an umbrella ?
my student immediately shouted towards the door : daddy !!!!!!! get umbrella for teacher
few seconds later, his dad came in.
him : umbrella?
me : sorry uncle, i dont have a umbrella, can i borrow? i will return next lesson
him : ok
and he walked out (very cool)

around 15mins later, i ended the lesson. his dad was sitting in the hall, wearing a different outfit already.

him : hey i am going out for a while. u stay very near right, i can drop u.
me : huh , its ok la, i can take the bus. (but inside, i feel so happy. i am already falling asleep in class earlier, after a long day at work) tuition really drain my energy
him : its ok, lets go (still very cool)

it was very awkward in the lift. we hardly talk to each other. i cant wait the lift to reach the CP level.

he : tired ?
me : ok, used to it already
he : how many students u have nw?
me : Just sam and another sec 1 student.
he : then where got time for bf?
me : i dun have one yet, so am quite free.
he : huh? how come no bf? then his eyes started to scan my body (=.=)
lucky at this time, the lift door opened.

ever since after that encounter, he sent me back after lesson without fail. of cos i know lust plays a part, but he has never once lay finger on me. we only chatted like good frens in the car. slowly, i was attracted by his charisma, and secretly wish he is my bf. although we have age gap of nearly 20 yrs.

but this only last 1mth+. 1 mth later, it was also raining cats and dogs when he sent me home
him : rem the 1st time i sent u home?
me : yes, also raining heavily then
him : ya lor
erm, i always wan to ask u a qn but i worry you would get angry and stop giving tuition to Sam
me : no worries, what is tat?
him : u should know guys need to release right
me : haha yes
him : can u help me?

actually i never felt insulted at all, i jus feel he is jus honest, and nothing wrong with being honest.

me: ermm
him: actually i do engage gers to help me... but i hope to have u providing service to me on long term basis. at least i know u, and i know u are clean.
me : ermm
him : i only need you to use your hand thats all, dun worry i wont force u to have sex. and i will pay u $100 each time.

i must be crazy over $$ tat time.i actually was over the moon when i heard this. cos i only earn $40 per hr giving tuition, and thats hard work.

now i only need to use hand and he pays me $100.

me : erm, i can try...
him : thanks, i take u to a place.

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i see the carpark attendents approaching.., guess i sud leave the car since its already so late..

night night