Dating older women

[Notary]

Originally Posted by tabio99

Hi guys,

I'm divorced (no kid) and am trying to restart my life, and am ready to try dating again. Recently got to know another lady, who is also divorced, and has a young kid. She is 4 years older than me, and we are both in our 30s.

Have you guys dated woman older than yourself? I have the perception that ladies wouldn't be attracted to guys several years younger than herself.
Would like to have some views from you guys! Ladies are welcomed to offer your opinions too..

Greetings Bro Tabio,


It's good to hear that you're restarting your life, it takes a lot of courage to face divorce and the potential shame that you might receive from your family, friends and society.

I think the most crucial question you got to ask yourself is, are you hastily trying to get into another committed relationship to fill a void in your heart or to prove to the whole world that you're stable again?

Apart from your partner being 4 years older than you, I'm sure you're very aware that you're into a "buy-one-get-one-free" scheme - her young kid will become your responsibility and the young kid's biological father might still be pretty much involved in the kid's life, maybe not now but it might be so in future.

Ultimately, who is to be the judge when it comes to the matters of the heart? I would say there is no age gap in love. Just be aware what you're in for and if shit hits the fan in future, just know that this was the decision you've made and no one is to be blamed, not even yourself.

Good luck bro.


With pleasure,
Notary

[jasmineltr]

I agree with Notary, you really have to think things through before getting into a serious relationship with this lady. There's a very real chance that this kid would grow up to not feel the same affection for you as her 'biological' dad regardless of how you take care of him/her. That's probably the main issue to discuss here when contemplating a relationship with this lady; not only your compatibility with her, but also the compatibility with her child.

Do take care of yourself TS and the best of luck.