Has any bros here seen this guy b4?

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by no_faith

bro AXL, i have a bad experience 6 yrs back, my gal betrayed me, behind me wif another guy for almost a yr den i find out. we been together for almost 5 yrs. haizzz, i wearing a green cap, i also dunno. losing too much faith...

anw, ur abv sentence 50-50 true. y? coz sum guy might not feel bad coz dey might have a galfren in the day time or could be juz making use of the WL for their money and use it to spend on other gals.

peace

my condolences to u, bro no_faith. not nice wearing green cap, but it is up to u whether to lose faith in women or not. personally, i dont intend to do so until proven otherwise. every person is different, regardless whether they r men or women.

i agree with u that there r a lot of such "opportunistic" men around. recounting 1 incident many years ago when i was a regular now defunct BOSS ktv, there was this waiter whose service was damn good. everytime i went, i would tip him $20-$30 personally. how much my other bros tip him i dont know, but 1 day, he told me that there was this girl whose bbbj was out of this world, cim, strip, digging and all. but mummy never bring into our room. so called her into the room and the waiter didnt lie at all. it was a fantastic experience. tipped her extra, a lot extra... (last time made $ easily, so spent like water )

after closing we went out for supper with the mummy and her husband who was managing the place and she told me that the waiter was her bf and bcos of his gambling debts and loansharks, she was bbbj-ing 6-7 customers a nite!!! just to help him pay off the debts but he was still gambling and taking drugs, basically enjoying himself. the bloody cheek!!!

i myself would not have the pride to step out of the house if my gf/wife is a ktv ger, but that is just me. everyone has different ways of making a living, so long they r happy. just dont start hurting others...

bro adrian_534, i think i m even more vengeful than u and i didnt get zapped, probably because i m upfront about it. instead of posting the pic and asking "has any bro seen this guy", say it right at the beginning that the guy trying to steal yr gf, got character problem, etc, etc. most guys here give u a chance to explain yrself and we know we r all human, it is natural and no shame in us to want revenge. be man enough to say it if u want it. my lousy 2 cents again...

however, if any bros here think that i should be zapped for my vengeful attitude, pls be my guest. no need to leave yr nick if u dont want to. i will treat it as a lesson learnt, albeit a small one though.

[blackeagle10]

Bro Adrian,

What do you want to do to him??? Do you have the "resources" to execute the plan??

If you seek a permanent solution to yr problem then you should not be asking questions in this forum.

Use yr brains, think of a plan. You know where he works and lives. He cannot run far unless he 'run road' now after he sense some people are after his ass.

There is no need to issue threats as there are childish. As they say in the IRA before it got disbanded: We don' issue threats, we carry them out

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by blackeagle10

There is no need to issue threats as there are childish. As they say in the IRA before it got disbanded: We don' issue threats, we carry them out

steady lah...

can i contact u if i need to carry them out, bro blackeagle10? yr nick sounds like US Delta Force leh!

[Derelict]

I have been reading this thread since day one. After reading AXL post I want to put my 1 cent worth into this thread as well. Take it with a pinch of salt please.

If a steady (gf) can be swayed or swoon by another man's charm than it can mean a few things.

1) the steady is not matured enough: She is young and gullible.
2) you have not done enough in her book: Woman in general have this secret book that they keep tally on what a perfect guy should have, act or do.
3) she is a player or at lease a player once: Take this as an example. If she ever worked in the KTV business than I dare say she is a player. They almost always look for their own and theirs alone. The green pasture seeker. You know what they say about green pastures. The grass is always greener...
4) you're seriously a dickhead.

The 1st two points can only be remedied by her experiencing other partnership. While I wouldnt bother with the last 2.

My verdict for the 1st two.

Let her go and dont burn the bridge. Talk with her one final time and make your plea meaningful and memorable if you plan to get her back. Find out why and the reason behind her action. She needs to experience whats out there while you have to make a judgement call on what you have learn from her. If you are man enough to except that than the chances are you might get her back albeit a later date. She will be more matured and have a better understanding of things.

The moral of my deduction.

If you want a relationship. Get older and be wiser (for us guys at lease) and that means having at lease a two experiences. Make your mark and look for someone within your calibre. Just dont degenerate yourself into a monkey, you will only get peanuts in turn from all the noises you make.

Hope I made sense.

[no_faith]

hmm.....maybe my comparison too offensive or not appropriate.

letz say, u have a dog and accidentally u let it run out of the house. if it shd return to ur side after days, going thru the temptations tat may exist outside. shd u be happy tat it is really loves u and loyal to u?

if it nvr returns, shd u be happy tat it's loyalty and love for u is questionable?

i not sure my comparison make sense or not but at a point it make sense to me.

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by Derelict

I have been reading this thread since day one. After reading AXL post I want to put my 1 cent worth into this thread as well. Take it with a pinch of salt please.

If a steady (gf) can be swayed or swoon by another man's charm than it can mean a few things.

1) the steady is not matured enough: She is young and gullible.
2) you have not done enough in her book: Woman in general have this secret book that they keep tally on what a perfect guy should have, act or do.
3) she is a player or at lease a player once: Take this as an example. If she ever worked in the KTV business than I dare say she is a player. They almost always look for their own and theirs alone. The green pasture seeker. You know what they say about green pastures. The grass is always greener...
4) you're seriously a dickhead.

The 1st two points can only be remedied by her experiencing other partnership. While I wouldnt bother with the last 2.

My verdict for the 1st two.

Let her go and dont burn the bridge. Talk with her one final time and make your plea meaningful and memorable if you plan to get her back. Find out why and the reason behind her action. She needs to experience whats out there while you have to make a judgement call on what you have learn from her. If you are man enough to except that than the chances are you might get her back albeit a later date. She will be more matured and have a better understanding of things.

The moral of my deduction.

If you want a relationship. Get older and be wiser (for us guys at lease) and that means having at lease a two experiences. Make your mark and look for someone within your calibre. Just dont degenerate yourself into a monkey, you will only get peanuts in turn from all the noises you make.

Hope I made sense.

bro derelict, after reading yr post, it just dawned on me. so i m going to put my half cent worth of my own thoughts.

1. my ex is neither young nor gullible. that's why i dont even dare to fool around, even with fls, whenever she is around. n i m the 1st to admit yes, i fool around, but i pay $ everytime and i do not become a regular of any fl. not that it makes it better.

3. she might or might not be a player. but i think if this is the greener pasture she is looking for, then i have nothing to say. she was driving my car around and that might have gotten people's attention cos i dont think she told people that it is not her car. but this guy had to ask for her help to pay off 4 months of car instalments (2k+ only also got problem?), how can she seriously believe that he can give her the money to open a beauty salon? my rough estimate would be 150k without reasonable equipment but not state of the art ones.

4. i certainly dont look like a dickhead and dont act like one. i certainly put in my best efforts to treat her and her daughter well, and i made sure i would make all the time i could afford to spend time with them. she has never complained about my lack of time due to work and she even emphatised that i was doing the best i can and appreciated it. she never had to worry about $ when she was with me.

so i guess i m no.2. just too bad.

oh, by the way, the guy already knows that i know about him n my visit this morning. so guys out there who r worried that u might be the one i m coming after, i m sorry to disappoint u, unless u know about my visit lor...

sorry to those bros who were coming in to read juicy things but instead found my ramblings. cheers.

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by no_faith

hmm.....maybe my comparison too offensive or not appropriate.

letz say, u have a dog and accidentally u let it run out of the house. if it shd return to ur side after days, going thru the temptations tat may exist outside. shd u be happy tat it is really loves u and loyal to u?

if it nvr returns, shd u be happy tat it's loyalty and love for u is questionable?

i not sure my comparison make sense or not but at a point it make sense to me.

i do have a dog who is old already, shits n pees all over the place (he was toilet trained when he was young), barks indiscriminately at bangala, made me spend $800 to go for a bladder operation due to too much junk food. he can always make his way home. even if he is lost, we will always find him cos he will bite at strangers who try to take him away cos he is still too damn cute for his age.

yes, it is offensive to dogs, my dog especially, to make such comparisons.

naaah, just kidding!!! (but not about my dog hor...) just trying to reduce the sombre mood of this thread. threadstarter already disinterested and took his attention to some other threads liao and we old foggies are still here rambling. hahahahaha...

[Derelict]

Dear me.

Samster AXL. I know I quoted your name in my earlier post. I just want to set the record straight that I did not intentionally single you out in my rhetoric. Infact I was compel to write my post in reference to some of the findings in your post (good points). You have hit a cord and I wanted to give my point of view to the threadstarter as well as anyone bothered to read.

Sometimes we cannot perceive or pretend to understand what goes on in any given relationship. Take an argument between spouses as an example. In can just be an excuse to vent their frustration on simple miniscule redundant problems. If you care to look into it further you will simply notice that they want timeout in the relationship at that given time or at that instance. Thats usually when one should take an R&R from each other or better yet surprise her (if you can but I think leaving the room than works better). If one missed it, than it might blow out of proportion. If it goes on continuously it will poison the relationship no matter how good you are in other things. Us guys can be very dramatic. It short we can be clinical but in the end it all boils down to understanding ( I know I have preach this like a gazillion time already ) each other's needs.

another example I cant understand why my mom will remember all the wrong doings of her employee and how she can recap in detail what they have done many years ago during our weekly dinner. If anything good she have to say about any of them is like she just chewed a sour grape and always end with a grunt. Why? Because she can and because it pleases her. She does that because nobody in the office ever pointed it out to her right in her face. I doubt anyone dared. I cant remember ever hearing her talk about us (family) that way. Point I am making. A person can act or do things differently. She can be the dragon lady in the office but she can also be the loving mother and wife at home. So, dont pretend to understand relationship.

Frankly being in a relationship is never easy. There are so many mitigating factors involve in it. Its like driving a car, seriously. It is either you end up being a damn good driver or you can pretend to think you're a damn good driver. In the end if you dont take pointers from others, than you will never really know how good or how bad you really are.

Remember this. Most quarrel starts from an opinion. Opinion is the very foundation of problems that we face in this world. Infact opinion are like ass hole. Everybody has one. It takes an unclutted and well learned mind to spot and defuse it on the spot. (Here comes the boring part from me again) Talk and learn to listen.

If things goes amiss. I think its a damn good idea to look back and look in the mirror if what you have done is clear or succinct enough. Worst come to worst cut your losses and take it as a lesson learned.

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by Derelict

Samster AXL. I know I quoted your name in my earlier post. I just want to set the record straight that I did not intentionally single you out in my rhetoric. Infact I was compel to write my post in reference to some of the findings in your post (good points). You have hit a cord and I wanted to give my point of view to the threadstarter as well as anyone bothered to read.

sorry if u took it that i was offended. was thankful for yr post cos it dawned on me that i was harping over the wrong reason. greener pastures was not the reason. the fact that i was not good enough was. the truth, i have to face myself, just like the consequences of wanting vengence.

so sorry again if i came across as too agressive. but u have to listen to me this time, i took yr post personally but it was not a bad thing to me. it should not be for u as well.

so keep on contributing. cheers.

[84gunner]

many brudders here are steady, got principles. But there's oso some fellows out there who not steady, even gals got hb / bf oso wanna sian. Looking at another point of view, if the everyone in the whole world so steady, then there'd be alot less fights / war!!!

From a religious point of view, there's retribution, tit-4-tat, wat goes around comes around.

My opinion:

in a serious r/s, there must be trust. U trust tat yr judgement is correct, yr partner is faithful 2 u, wont fool around. U have the confidence in yr partner, and oso the confidence in yrself, tat u are able 2 attract yr partner & stay in a long-lasting r/s, tat other guys are not able 2 snatch her away from u. Vice versa, yr partner should have the same trust & confidence in u!

This is something which I see missing wif many SGPeans! The gals frown when their hb / bf is going somewhere where there's temptations to stray, example travel 2 Thailand or China 4 business, etc. They'd "impose rules", make regular phone call checks, etc. If the guys going India or Africa (sorry here, not trying to be racist nor offensive to Indians nor Africans), these gals aren't so worried. So it seems, SG gals feel more "superior" than Indian / African gals, but feel "inferior" when it comes 2 Thailand, China, etc. Similarly, the guys not happy, when they see other guys talking 2 their wives / gf, especially when it looks like the guys try 2 sian the gals.

Wat I believe in is, if the gal is fated 2 b 2gether wif u, end of the day, she's yrs. If not, u werent fated 2 be 2gether. If the gal make u wear green hat, then there's a saying: 绿冒不怕带，只要脱得快！

This kinda gal is not worth being 2gether wif her anymore. She has betrayed the trust. She can make u wear green hat 2day, she can oso make her future men wear green hat too! Like investment, I regard it as 少输当着赢, cut loss, stop loss. She's oredi farked by other guy(s), can she be un-farked? It's not like $$, where, if u lose, u can still earn back! Take the green hat off earlier, u wear it 4 a shorter duration. Delay it longer, u wear the green hat 4 a longer duration!!! How are u going to raise yr head & face the world, for each day u are wearing the green hat? So the earlier u take it off, the earlier u can raise yr head & face the world again! I'd say, this type of gals is cheaper than prostitutes! At least, prostitutes get paid. These gals are not paid (otherwise, they're oso prostitutes!). Worse, sometimes these gals pay the $$ ! Some more, these gals often like 2 act high class, "educated", "civilised", etc etc. Not for sale, $$ can't sway them? But end up, for free??! Saying this, I respect the prostitutes more.

If u are married wif no kids, then it's not tat bad, the adults solve their own problems. If married wif kids oredi, then as an adult, as a parent oredi, still dunno how 2 tink?

Talking is easy, but I can understand how it feels, how it hurts. I'd been through r/s, where some break-ups almost caused me 2 cry, there's oso a break-up, where I wanted 2 get myself into traffic accident, or grab the gal & jump off the building 2gether, die 2gether wif the gal!!! I'd say, though painful, I want 2 get my priorities right, no matter how painful it is, the future is still more important. Wat has happened has oredi happened, it's oredi become a fact.

For those guys tinking of revenge, there's another saying: 君子报仇，十年不晚！ I'd say, often, it may not be the guys' fault. If it's the gal who tempts & tell lies 2 everyone, then we can't blame the other guy(s). The guy(s) may not even know it at all! But, if the guy knows tat tis gal is oredi attached / married, yet still wanna sian the gal, I'd say this kinda buay steady guy deserves a good revenge from her bf / hb!!!

Plan properly, get all the resources & everything, wanna execute it, 一不做，二不休!!! Otherwise, not worth the time, effort & risks, juz 2 do something small!!!

[Looksee]

Originally Posted by S3vw

he post so tat we can come hijack the thread....

now the thread is hi-jack.....chop.....stamp.....confirmed.....

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by 84gunner

many brudders here are steady, got principles. But there's oso some fellows out there who not steady, even gals got hb / bf oso wanna sian. Looking at another point of view, if the everyone in the whole world so steady, then there'd be alot less fights / war!!!

one thing about principles, they shape one's character. if one can allow his principles to waver, then the character would not be much better. character decides what kind of man one decide to be. so in my humble opinion, principles are the building blocks of a man's life.

close friends tell me such things happen all the time nowadays, so just let it go and move on. so, that's what the world has become:- a man can now knowingly steal another man's wife and walk around like a dandy. olden days must drown in the pig's cage, u know? but there r some people who likes to go after people's wives/gfs just to make them feel good about themselves bcos they r such losers in life.

in my instance, my ex knew the guy has a wife, but the desire to have her own beauty salon overcame all propriety. she is no saint too. it always takes 2 hands to clap. should i rejoice or regret saying no to her desire to open her own salon?

if the guy (not bro 84gunner hor, just bcos i quoted his post) is here reading my posts, here's to u. i now know u trawl this thread regularly. revenge will come in the form:
1. u will lose yr job - that's a guarantee. my company's account wields greater power than u ever know.
2. u will be totally broke - that's a guarantee too. u will see yr creditors hound u once yr credit rating changes.
3. u will lose yr family - that, i m still deciding bcos of the fear of karma.
4. u will experience all of the above at the same time.

yes, i have made it personal, and i wont hesitate to use my professional standing or any goodwill i have accumulated to bring u down. employing professional help to break yr leg just isnt going to cut it for me anymore. cos going to jail for u just isnt worth it at all. go ask my ex, and she will tell u i m capable of it. war is declared on u now, for the 2nd time today. but dont worry, i wont post yr pic (dont know how anyway) or yr info here (which i m certainly capable of). u have decided to fuck with me even though u knew who i was, so i think u would be ready to face the consequences. when i decided to bite back, i m already prepared to face whatever u throw at me. so i hope u would be ready for mine.

good luck. u will need lots of it. be thankful that i have decided not to take the path of my all-time idol, krishnasamy naidu, else heads will roll.

sorry to all others who took time to read and decided it was rubbish and those bros who think it is a waste of posting space.

[Titslover]

It takes two hands to clap.... Anyone can sian gals at nightspots, whether she is married or attached... come on.... wake up...if your the other half dun make it clear and reject those that sian her, dun blame others, it is just becos your wife/gf is not matured enough, and dunno wat she wants actually.. or put it this way, ur relationship or marriage is not steady...

Sorry if my comments offence anyone...

[Tsingtao]

I see so many good & logical points given out generously by all the brudders here. Ok..all relax while I serve a good chilled Tsingtao beer to let you quench the thirst!!!! Kekekeke

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by Titslover

It takes two hands to clap.... Anyone can sian gals at nightspots, whether she is married or attached... come on.... wake up...if your the other half dun make it clear and reject those that sian her, dun blame others, it is just becos your wife/gf is not matured enough, and dunno wat she wants actually.. or put it this way, ur relationship or marriage is not steady...

Sorry if my comments offence anyone...

no offence at least to me, but waked up i have, since yesterday. i should have made it clear that i met up with him tonite and he was saying that he knew i was making comments in the forum, so and so... i asked him in his face whether he knew of my existence (as her husband-to-be) and the answer was a positive yes. gave me a cock and bull story about how much he fell for her the 1st time he saw her and told me not to worry, he has a lot of money tied up in US stocks. so helping her to open her salon was not a problem.

i agreed that it takes 2 hands to clap right from the beginning. my ex is not stupid, she got into this knowing that i will not be able to accept it but she chose to do so. loneliness and ambition just couldnt cut it for me lor... until this afternoon, she was still pleading for me to give her another chance. but once i said my decision was final, she went over to the guy. oh, how right have i been? i have to confess i didnt know that our relationship was that unstable that some married man could just walk in and ruin it with just an empty promise of a beauty salon.

and the guy openly challenged me when he waited for me at my office lobby. i m sure he would have gone up to my office if there werent tight security. if war is what he wants, it's war he will get. i think it is my prerogative and responsibility to protect my own pride and manhood.

no offence bro titslover, but have u gone through the same thing? if u have, do share with us how u felt then. if u have not, i hope that u dont get to experience this. i wish i m irrational, but i m not. too calm and vengeful now for my own good.

too much ramblings from me in this thread. i will kick back and enjoy my carlsberg (no tsingtao at home lah...) i think as an opponent, i have given my enemy a good enough heads-up on what to expect from me. not that he has the ability to stop it though. sorry if i have offended any other bros here. if zapping is in order, pls proceed.