Safe to travel alone with PRC GF back to China? - Page 4

naemlo · #46 12-05-2008, 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by aczeta76

Life is like tat lah... me also no exception...

Hmmm dun blame life, u choose your own path.

Anyway, it is your life, all the best.

dap26 · #47 12-05-2008, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by naemlo

Another love love thread...

Again, anyone in this forum who falls for a WL will always believe

1) his ger is different from other WL.
2) his ger treat him better
3) his ger dun go out with another guy
4) his ger dun want expensive gift
5) the list goes on.....

BTW if ger so good why worry about visiting her in China???

Peng you,u sure appear in this thread...U r a good advisor mah....

Heart Break Kid · #48 12-05-2008, 10:30 PM

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Originally Posted by naemlo

Another love love thread...

What wrong with love love thread

Its improve our lifestyle a lot

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Originally Posted by azzaro23

To all bros out there,

Seeking advice from those who have traveled back to China alone with their PRC WL which they know in Singapore.

Any advice or experiences which you can share with me as I going on a trip to Shenyang with my PRC gf which i know her from Geylang.

Just feeling uneasy traveling back with her alone as i worried about my safety. Any one who think i should go or not go please do provide me with yr views & experiences.

Thanks....

Your trip maybe a dangerous one.. do pm mi if you want to know more.

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Originally Posted by dap26

Peng you,u sure appear in this thread...U r a good advisor mah...

bro .. long time didn't chat with you liao hope to see you display your PRC experience here

azzaro23 · #49 13-05-2008, 12:14 AM

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Originally Posted by colins

Bro azzaro, you really are adventurous. Both for travelling to Shenyang and to dare love the girl.

Place-wise, Shenyang is now quite tamed unlike couple of years ago when murder is just an inconvenience to get the rmb in your wallet. Olympics helped a lot. It'll be quite safe provided you stay out of the night-spots (esp out of women's street) and out of the streets at night. The local stories is that the snatch thieves say hello with a farmer's long curve knife tied to a long pole, and slit your throat from far behind so they can check your wallet while you bleed to death. Now probably better la, but how much better, you need to see how low it was that they started from.

As for the girl, you have plenty of reasons to go all the way out for her, dude. I think you really like her. Really ready to give up everything for her. Even give her everything she wants, probably including your life.

I've been in love with a lady from Shenyang before. If I cut short from page one to end page, I'll tell you that I gave her up even though I know she loves me, and I did love her very dearly. Like you, I can give everything.

I wasn't a very trusting person, and I even trusted her. Until one night, when I call her mobile phone and overheard a conversation between her and one of her friends. She answered her phone unknowingly and at that time was chatting with a guy on QQ. She was asking that friend to come out. She said 'if you just tell me once that it is your gf that is stopping you from coming out with me, I will never bother you again.'

It may mean something, it may not. But we were in a relationship. I realised that if I can give a reason to believe, I would and can forget about the whole thing. If I want to distrust, this event is also enough to call it quits.

But one thing kept me bothered, and in the end I realised what it was. It was the fact that I can never know her enough. Our backgrounds are too different. If I am a person who finds it hard to trust another, that sort of difference will be torturous. Many a times, events are always neither here nor there so stark naked for you to say, hmmmm she's a cheat. But you must get enough sense in your mind to tell you where is your limit. So consider this, if you trust a person so much, loved a person so much, placed her as your only object of ambition, wouldnt it be logical to say you know her well? Becos if you dun, and one day she betrays you to the dogs, can you take the suffering? This is not like what you say, take the shit and clean it if you can. This is reliving the betrayal every single waking moment for at least a couple of months in your life. The worst thing is, the circumstances of uncertainty makes you so damn unsure becos you remain confused, which not only keep you guessing for months, but the bloody rest of your life, on why must she lie to you when you love her so much.

So I hope you found a good girl, that 1% amongst the WL who are good. And I hope you can trust her. Lastly, if you can, wait a while longer. You can retain more logic to think for your own self this way.

yes maybe do need some more time to see what kind of person she is...

Three weeks is really not enough to see if a person if really meant to be one life partner.

colins · #50 13-05-2008, 12:35 AM

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Originally Posted by aczeta76

Hey bro.. nice to see your post.

Actually.. me also taking my trip to ZH as a gauge as I dun know wat we can talk about.. limited topics

Anyway, she said she will bring me around tourist areas and tour tour so I see how well we get together minus the GL influence lah.

Been busy like a dog, but will take a short vacation end of this month to go diving. When are you going to ZH? Like quite long never go there and now accumulated lots of things to get from qiguan.

Couples usually start out in groups first la, I know you guys been all the way but in terms of normal relationship, I guess its pretty much that budding stage. Should be quite sweet, I'm sure you'll be looking forward.

For me, most of the time, just take the initiative to do a 'get together' in bed first, then everything will come as natural as it can be.

Hope you do enjoy your trip bro.

colins · #51 13-05-2008, 12:48 AM

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Originally Posted by azzaro23

yes maybe do need some more time to see what kind of person she is...

Three weeks is really not enough to see if a person if really meant to be one life partner.

If you ask me, and I admit that I am generalising, I am no longer impressed by girls from Shenyang. To me, the environment in which they grew up in is too complicated. But of cos, you probably need a very very objective mind to consider such stuff, like background incompatibility. Since you said you are like committed head-on now, its hard to convince you, so you're probably right to go 'see' the truth.

Maybe a lot of bros here will say the same thing, but I think I've been there and back and you know my decision. Ultimately, if a girl can make you feel happiness even when she is not around you, then go for it.

After breaking up with my own shenyang girl, I realised that I had not been happy when I'm with her (the imminence of her leaving sg and the lack of ownership of the relationship at her side), and when we're apart. There are some decisions in relationships that I had regretted, but taking the pain to break up with her wasn't one of them.

Take a short breather bro, a reaction like yours (3 weeks and you're head of heels with a WL) isn't exactly normal dude. You may not like singaporean girls but there are lots of prc girls around mah. Dun need to commit life and death wan.

dirtyhairy · #52 13-05-2008, 12:53 AM

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Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

I am thinking of banning morons in this forum. I think I'll need to come up with some sort of declaration form as part of the sign up process whereby a potential forum member declares that he has an IQ of at least 40.

heheheee BOSS Mr Ah Sammy...like you I am thinking of hostile take-over of websites owned by the arrogant ....but I think I need to come with a plan to convince my financier to accept my roti business for dough to take over

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Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

"if they can help it"??? Come on you really believe this shit! ...Girls don't become whores by chance or because they are forced into it. ...If they tell you they did it because they were broke and had sick children, husband, uncle, grandfather etc, it's an insult to all our ancestors who arrived in Singapore with nothing more than the clothes on their backs and survived by doing hard but honest work to put food on the table and buy books for their kids.

Yo BOSS Mr Ah Sammy
how wrong can you be
before just like now,…there were also ladies who came here to work as prosties
only that there were no forum such as this previously
so what made you say there were no such working ladies?
Imagine if you have no skills yet in debt so heavy
requiring you to cough up payment very quickly
you will also be forced to sell your body, even smelly pussy
becos how else can such gals find money in a jiffy?
therefore to generalise and stereotype scornfully
based on prejudices and heresy
just goes to expose a shallow mind actually

azzaro23 · #53 13-05-2008, 01:13 AM

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Originally Posted by colins

If you ask me, and I admit that I am generalising, I am no longer impressed by girls from Shenyang. To me, the environment in which they grew up in is too complicated. But of cos, you probably need a very very objective mind to consider such stuff, like background incompatibility. Since you said you are like committed head-on now, its hard to convince you, so you're probably right to go 'see' the truth.

Maybe a lot of bros here will say the same thing, but I think I've been there and back and you know my decision. Ultimately, if a girl can make you feel happiness even when she is not around you, then go for it.

After breaking up with my own shenyang girl, I realised that I had not been happy when I'm with her (the imminence of her leaving sg and the lack of ownership of the relationship at her side), and when we're apart. There are some decisions in relationships that I had regretted, but taking the pain to break up with her wasn't one of them.

Take a short breather bro, a reaction like yours (3 weeks and you're head of heels with a WL) isn't exactly normal dude. You may not like singaporean girls but there are lots of prc girls around mah. Dun need to commit life and death wan.

After listening to the advices given, maybe it time really for me to slow down after all it is only 3 weeks, no point burning myself out b4 my trip in late June

Maybe need to keep telling myself not to sms & go down see her so much. Create a buffer so I wont feel so Xin Ku.

Anyway love the feeling of going to see her but hate the feeling of leaving her when she go to do her work. Jealousy stabbed me over & over in the heart.....

Niceman · #54 13-05-2008, 01:20 AM

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Originally Posted by azzaro23

After listening to the advices given, maybe it time really for me to slow down after all it is only 3 weeks, no point burning myself out b4 my trip in late June

Maybe need to keep telling myself not to sms & go down see her so much. Create a buffer so I wont feel so Xin Ku.

Anyway love the feeling of going to see her but hate the feeling of leaving her when she go to do her work. Jealousy stabbed me over & over in the heart.....

Hey Bro,
I do know a bro who got married to a KTV ger and now he happily married with her with a baby and 2 apartments now, not to mention he even got a better job. Not all are that siong.... but, if u could find,is machiam u tio toto 1st prize, and but again, certain places of china, is a big NO NO. Shengyang is for sure a place diff to "convert" a ktv ger into a homely housewife if u r not rich enough to satisfy her shopping and greed.

Take care and pls go back to your dreamland. Sillyporean are always so naive.

My 1 cent worth nia

goodpartner · #55 13-05-2008, 01:33 AM

To TS, just go

Your risk can't be bigger than any backpackers traveling to remote places alone. Use common sense to manage any travel risk involve. Treat it as a little life adventure and adopt a tourist mindset, putting the lovy dovy stuff secondary. You'll enjoy it and won't regret later for not following your heart.

If it makes u feel any better, I've quite a few of such adventures not only in PRC but other more risky corners of the world, ya with WL too

I too have this discovery mindset to find out how "bad" life can be to make someone sell their body.... and it's really eye opening. Right, don't stereotype is the answer

For PRC, one of the more ulu place I've been to is in An Qing (a city of An Hui) deep into the farmer's land where I need to trek on foot for hours thru hills and farm lands, after more hours of bumpy rides via tricycles and long distance bus rides from the main city. I think it's also one of the poorer part of the province too.

Call me nuts, but to me it's the same feeling as those who choose to live life on the edge. Btw, all cheongsters have this trait in various degree isn't it?

Oh, remember to FR here after you're back in one piece

colins · #56 13-05-2008, 01:35 AM

I recently met up with all my uncles and aunties during my dad's birthday. One of them mentioned one of my uncles. They said he left his family, gambled, did odd jobs, refused all other people's help and now destined to spend his miserable life alone. His children are now grown up and could have supported him comfortably. Yet, he now sleeps in the open without a roof and avoids everyone.

Sorry if this story seems too far shot ok.

I was curious as to why nobody wanted to help him. My eldest uncle said, this is what he want. 这是他自己要的. They tried, everybody tried, but he dun want to be help! What else can everybody conclude, that he just want to be without family and relatives and be miserable?

Unless you are not socially normal, how can you like your girl to be doing that? If you choose to like her knowing to the full extent what she does, then isn't this your choice? Conflicting right? Sounds like you really want to get burn yet you like the flame.

Trust me bro, the xin ku part is inevitable. Tell me now that once you marry her in sg and both of you will be happy, and I'll tell you whatever suffering later is Ni Zi Ji Yao De. You dun even need to leave her. You only need to leave that feeling alone. Do it now and it'll last a few weeks. Do it later and it'll last a couple of months. Let her do it for you and it will probably change you forever. To her, this relationship simply never happened, Singapore is a place she's dying to forget anyway. Its you bro.

MichaelWinn · #57 13-05-2008, 01:37 AM

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Originally Posted by colins

But one thing kept me bothered, and in the end I realised what it was. It was the fact that I can never know her enough. Our backgrounds are too different. If I am a person who finds it hard to trust another, that sort of difference will be torturous. Many a times, events are always neither here nor there so stark naked for you to say, hmmmm she's a cheat. But you must get enough sense in your mind to tell you where is your limit.

i agree , based on personal experience i can say some PRC girls will seem to be ''frank'' and tell us many things about their lifes and personal stories when
i meet them in singapore, but when i visit them in china, they seems to be secretive and not want me to know too much about them over there,their body language in china very different from that when they were in singapore,so this tells us something,doesn't it ?

lurpsexx · #58 13-05-2008, 02:16 AM

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Originally Posted by naemlo

Another love love thread...

Again, anyone in this forum who falls for a WL will always believe

1) his ger is different from other WL.
2) his ger treat him better
3) his ger dun go out with another guy
4) his ger dun want expensive gift
5) the list goes on.....

Eh... siao eh..!

Ur GF also lidat one ah (i mean pt 1 to 5 above...)

lurpsexx · #59 13-05-2008, 02:25 AM

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Originally Posted by azzaro23

After listening to the advices given, maybe it time really for me to slow down after all it is only 3 weeks, no point burning myself out b4 my trip in late June

Maybe need to keep telling myself not to sms & go down see her so much. Create a buffer so I wont feel so Xin Ku.

Anyway love the feeling of going to see her but hate the feeling of leaving her when she go to do her work. Jealousy stabbed me over & over in the heart.....

My fren.. all you've got is a case of the "infatuation"... like puppy love la...

Go and see her in China all you want.. treat it as an adventure.. but once you're back in SG n she's not, sooner or later you'll start to feel distant from her n will forget her after 6 mths, or after u got new tirak in the KTV la, whichever comes first...

Most of us also went thru the same thing as u are now, just earlier nia...