Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by hottip

Hahaha... many of these JC girls also come in search of love. Unfortunately, they are not quite doing it the right way,but there really is not much choice for them. Most of the time the boys go to JC in search of lust. Occasionally the VBs get lucky and they find someone like some of our kinder bros.

I still don't understand how come I come into the picture as a KC to the girls... are they lucky to meet me?

[see see only]

Originally Posted by naemlo

U today nothing to do?? So free? Go n disturb other thread.

Bro naemlo you no swee lei ...

Say I so free -- wahahahahahahaa ... I where got disturb other ppl? me only let other ppl know you got plenty of chio bu only what

Ok I no say anymore ... anyway everytime ask you introduce chio bu to me, you always mentioned you not in town, sigh

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by see see only

Ok I no say anymore ... anyway everytime ask you introduce chio bu to me, you always mentioned you not in town, sigh

Bo pian, most of the time in oversea. I need to help other countries in their economic and let the gers taste how gentlemen SG guys are.

[hottip]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

I still don't understand how come I come into the picture as a KC to the girls... are they lucky to meet me?

....Occasionally the VBs get lucky and they find someone like some of our kinder bros.

Its a compliment. I am happy that you have someone you care so much for and she for you. It is not always easy to find. I am sure your bx was glad she came out and feel it was well worth the effort.

Not all the stories are that pretty.

All the Best !!

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

bro, when you are going after any girls, you got to waste some time and effort to find out. You cannot tell straightaway. Furthermore a long distance relationship takes more time and effort. If you like her, no matter how long also worth. A bad seed can be polished into a good seed if you know how to.

So you contact her once every 3 or 4 days.... I do my reporting DAILY since day 1.

Those who wants to have Vn gf or spouse...learn form bro KT...why you must be able to go for the long haul and not short period...dun just go there to expect to have sex and then fly off...

[dodgyboi69]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Those who wants to have Vn gf or spouse...learn form bro KT...why you must be able to go for the long haul and not short period...dun just go there to expect to have sex and then fly off...

yeap. Totally agree with bro hurricane and bro KT.

Call me a loser, but I've not have sex with her yet. I don't think she's that kind of girl though.. I treat her like any other girl that I'm dating. Treat her like a lady and with respect. I will ask her out for supper or lunch and then send her home. The sex part will eventually come into the picture when the time comes like any other relationship with any other girl from regardless of nationality. I like it that way I guess and she's worth the time and effort. I think I'll invest my time and effort on her..

Thanks for the input bros..

[dodgyboi69]

Originally Posted by hottip

I think you need to start off with mutual respect to begin with. If the girl is stereotyped as a WL, then a longterm relationship is a non-starter, as she will always be seen as such and treated as such. I made a mistake once on a very sweet young lady, and suddenly realized how wrong I was, and indeed made up to her later. Although we remain good friends, I am never sure if the episode is ever erased from her mind, even that it wasn't that serious.

Tel comms Sgp-VN is very expensive both ways. Singtel charges S$1.15 (VND16k) per min. It adds up very quickly. 10mins=S$11.15. Even sms's from here are: S$0.60(VND$8k) a pop. It adds up very quickly. I think it is even more ex in VM for them to make overseas calls and sms s. If u figured that you can get a good Pho lunch for one minute's talktime, phone calls are a luxury item. My friend has email, so it helps alot. I also leave her some budget money to top up her card and she responses once a day. I usually call her instead of getting her to call me or sms back.

If you want a successful longterm relationship. Establish the friendship first. You can then figure out the compatibility for a longterm partnership, if not compatible, you can still remain friends. Its not about Fxxk&Forget anymore.

truly understooded bro hottip..

I too don wanna make that mistake of treating her like a WL. but I have to work out on the trust issue. I'm paranoid by nature. So still tring to work out the issue. I think I should just play along cos and take thing as it comes. So far she hasn't lied to me. We only had some communication breakdown.

As for the SMSing and calling thingy, I understand that it's expensive for my bx. I will SMS her most of the time and will be ok if she doesn't reply or take a day to reply. But she'll always apologise when she reply late. Sweet girl. O don usually call her because we'll be usually lost in translation when we yoked on the phone(no hand signals mah) hahaha..

I learnt a lot of things about the VN girls and the relationship issues from this forum! Kudos to the residents here.. You guys have been a lot of help in giving insights bout my bx.

[ykhttq]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

See how love makes ppl break thru barriers...must be able to sustain long and not short time...

Kudos to bro KT...4 years long...

I'm putting my every effort to keep this long-distance relationship alive by calling and sms her everyday since we first kissed and became a couple.

Recently been to her village to meet her parents and siblings. Been a good experience to see what she went thru' all these years. It dispel many of my doubts if this is a 'trap' as what some of my friends cautioned. At times I did try to test her by offering to buy her expensive stuffs but each time she turned it down.

Nevertheless even till the day we get married, I'll still be cautious in the relationship not because I do not trust her. It's I don't trust some of her siblings and I know she is very concerned with her family. It's their culture that family comes first.

[hottip]

Originally Posted by dodgyboi69

truly understooded bro hottip..

... But she'll always apologise when she reply late. Sweet girl. O don usually call her because we'll be usually lost in translation when we yoked on the phone(no hand signals mah) hahaha..

I learnt a lot of things about the VN girls and the relationship issues from this forum! Kudos to the residents here.. You guys have been a lot of help in giving insights bout my bx.

My girl also apologizes for late responses. I think it is the gentle culture about them. She also wishes me "Good Luck" each and everytime.

You are very bold to get into this without verbal cues. I chose someone with reasonably good English. I am actually surprised that there are more of them with English language capability in country than at JC. Another observation is that their written English is much better than the spoken language, must be just becos of the confidence levels.

There are somethings that are absolutely adorable about VBs that is particularly attractive. I see more successes with our bros here than in the China threads. I guess when we get into the China threads, we have to put on our F&F hardhats. ... hahaha. Good luck.

Originally Posted by ykhttq

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Nevertheless even till the day we get married, I'll still be cautious in the relationship not because I do not trust her. It's I don't trust some of her siblings and I know she is very concerned with her family. It's their culture that family comes first.

On track bro. This applies in every other places as well, not just in VN. All the best.

[Rejuvenation]

Hi guys...where to get vietnam products in singapore? as in vietnam shows or books... need to get something for my viet wife to kill boredom...

[ykhttq]

Originally Posted by Rejuvenation

Hi guys...where to get vietnam products in singapore? as in vietnam shows or books... need to get something for my viet wife to kill boredom...

Maybe you can try to search the internet for these shows and books.

But I would suggest that you buy some books and CDs for your wife to pick up our language so that she can enjoy the movies and shows on TV here. I think it would be a more practical approach. She would also be able to bond with your family and friends better when they have a common language as well as common interests to talk about.

I've been telling my gf that she must learn Mandarin and English bit by bit so that when we get married here, she'll not have great difficulties esp when I'm out-stationed.

[ykhttq]

Originally Posted by dodgyboi69

yeap. Totally agree with bro hurricane and bro KT.

Call me a loser, but I've not have sex with her yet. I don't think she's that kind of girl though.. I treat her like any other girl that I'm dating. Treat her like a lady and with respect. I will ask her out for supper or lunch and then send her home. The sex part will eventually come into the picture when the time comes like any other relationship with any other girl from regardless of nationality. I like it that way I guess and she's worth the time and effort. I think I'll invest my time and effort on her..

Thanks for the input bros..

Once you found that she's the one, sex should not be seen as the main driving force every time you meet her. Though it could be one of the 'programmes' during the meet-up.

Every gal has different views and opinion in sex. Some gals will be put off when guy keeps demanding sex while other will start to wonder if the bf really likes her when he asked for none!

[miua55555]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

If you keep thinking that the vietnam girl is after your money... than you will always have doubts about her. My girlfriend use to have some $ problem in her family. I help her to a certain extend w/o thinking that she is after my money.

Hello bro,

How much did you help her financially already?

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by dodgyboi69

The only thing that bothers me is that she doesn't really reply to my Random "how are you? I miss you" SMS.
She will take about a day to do that.
She'll SMS me like once in every 3 or 4 days.
I was thinking that maybe it's expensive for her to SMS me every night since she only earns like 3 to 4 mil VND a month and still have to support family.

Dun sms her la. Once a while call her over phone. Her incoming calls are FREE

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by ykhttq

Having to keep in contact via phone is not cheap too.

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