Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[jargon82]

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[bitterdurian]

Thanks for all the good advice

[5ag1_Boar]

Originally Posted by jargon82

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[HairyBottom]

this thread explains why many married men are more than happy to be relocated overseas to work or set up business.....alone.

[kenl8888]

I have been lucky since my wife and I have been sexually active until 5 years ago when she turned 55.. even with all the porn and lubrication it mostly turn into a painful affair for the both of us. then she proposed that i go get it outside but don't bring it back home.. which I have been doing. still I feel very guilty everytime i succumb to my lustful desires.. no wonder those rich men's wives will always handpick 2nd wife for their husbands back in the old days..

[smay]

Originally Posted by kenl8888

I have been lucky since my wife and I have been sexually active until 5 years ago when she turned 55.. even with all the porn and lubrication it mostly turn into a painful affair for the both of us. then she proposed that i go get it outside but don't bring it back home.. which I have been doing. still I feel very guilty everytime i succumb to my lustful desires.. no wonder those rich men's wives will always handpick 2nd wife for their husbands back in the old days..

That's why I always advise my friends to marry younger wife. I am 50+ now and I still bonk her.

[notti4u]

Originally Posted by kenl8888

I have been lucky since my wife and I have been sexually active until 5 years ago when she turned 55.. even with all the porn and lubrication it mostly turn into a painful affair for the both of us. then she proposed that i go get it outside but don't bring it back home.. which I have been doing. still I feel very guilty everytime i succumb to my lustful desires.. no wonder those rich men's wives will always handpick 2nd wife for their husbands back in the old days..

Bro, you not bad leh.... i am into late 30s and my wife told me, go outside and eat but if u let me caught u doing that... HA HA....

[kenl8888]

Many ladies do not understand why sex means so much to men.. When men reach a certain age when he has achieved most of his career goals; his body naturally pumps out more hormones and he becomes a sex machine - usually late 30's By that time his wife is will be too preoccupied with the kids and tired from work.. So what can the hubby do... draw your own conclusions
At that age; the man becomes very attractive and irresistible to other single women (be them ktv gals, mls, wls, whatnots). I am talking from personal experience.. being financially strong makes a man very confident and this can easily be detected by other females (it's just natural) . sadly not by the missus who takes him for granted. Luckily for me, my missus realise her mistakes and took many steps to make herself very attractive to me.. and that's why I am still married to her after 35 years..

[smay]

Originally Posted by kenl8888

Many ladies do not understand why sex means so much to men.. When men reach a certain age when he has achieved most of his career goals; his body naturally pumps out more hormones and he becomes a sex machine - usually late 30's By that time his wife is will be too preoccupied with the kids and tired from work.. So what can the hubby do... draw your own conclusions
At that age; the man becomes very attractive and irresistible to other single women (be them ktv gals, mls, wls, whatnots). I am talking from personal experience.. being financially strong makes a man very confident and this can easily be detected by other females (it's just natural) . sadly not by the missus who takes him for granted. Luckily for me, my missus realise her mistakes and took many steps to make herself very attractive to me.. and that's why I am still married to her after 35 years..

Good to hear that. keep it up, man.

[Brainstorm]

Originally Posted by notti4u

i am into late 30s and my wife told me, go outside and eat but if u let me caught u doing that... HA HA....

Then you tell your wife <if i check into hotel with fl, people might see. So because I love you, now I only choose fl that comes with room.> Then you laugh like Stephen Chow and rub your palms together. Then the next time you visit those fl, AV come and raid and you are caught with those fls that come with room. Your photo is splashed all over Wan Bao. But heng ah, your wife only reads Zao Bao.

Just kidding.

[Hotcoffee]

Originally Posted by kenl8888

Many ladies do not understand why sex means so much to men.. When men reach a certain age when he has achieved most of his career goals; his body naturally pumps out more hormones and he becomes a sex machine - usually late 30's By that time his wife is will be too preoccupied with the kids and tired from work.. So what can the hubby do... draw your own conclusions
At that age; the man becomes very attractive and irresistible to other single women (be them ktv gals, mls, wls, whatnots). I am talking from personal experience.. being financially strong makes a man very confident and this can easily be detected by other females (it's just natural) . sadly not by the missus who takes him for granted. Luckily for me, my missus realise her mistakes and took many steps to make herself very attractive to me.. and that's why I am still married to her after 35 years..

Good for you then. My wife only have sex when she feels horny. I'm so frustrated when most of the time I got to pcc. Sometime I told her things we could do to spice up our sex life but she also says no to all and brush off the topic.

Sigh. Wtf!

[LovePotion]

no choice all of us are human... we need sex

[Skinstad]

After years of marriage, 2 kids the sex part with my wife keeps getting more and more terrible....sheesshh!!!

[aseandude]

We need sex until the time we can no longer do it!

Men extending their shelf life due to viagra!

Hope my friend jaslyn123 reads this and be warn beforehand!

Keep the sex life fresh by not being predictable performing the same freaking routine with your partners.

Men particularly get stray due this in search of new excitement!

[aseandude]

Originally Posted by purple001

Hi there,
To answer yr qn- I am an woman. But take note that every women react differently to situations like these. I've have tried marriage counselling prior to my divorce, but my focus wasn't on the intimacy part then. But given the same scenario, if my ex were to tell me that one of my wifey duties is to have sex with my hubby, I may not agree totally. Deep in my heart I'll prob be think- damn, I've spend x years of my youth with u, bore u kids, take care of u and the house etc, and all u can think of its just sex ??? Likely it will make me angrier and felt so unappreciated. Yep, it's part and parcel of marriage life, I do not deny that. But this can only happen if my mind is willing., and i am ready. Dont expect it to be like before immediately, give some time allowance. For many women (yes, many.), our priorities changed once kids arrive. Maybe it's a shift of priorities / motherly instinct etc that kids well being comes first. It does not mean that there is no more love / lesser love towards the hubby. Not that case. Hormonal or what, maybe. At this point of time, the focus will be on other things, children, career, housework etc. The need for sex changed to something that is less needed.

A counselling session may work for some as I've mentioned earlier, Can try, but take note of the risks of being backfired. Double edge sword, it may break or mend the missing part in the couple's life. Congrats if it's successful, only you guys know whether yr wifey is the receptive kind. Sex only come when the moment, feeling is right, the need is there. Ultimatum or not, its yr choice.

Spend some time having a real heart to heart talk, don't jump into the sex part yet. Talk abt the younger carefree days before marriage, the beautiful memories you both shared and how u would like to grow old with her. Make it touching and romantic as much as possible. Nvr ever grumble abt how deprived or upset u r with her for the lack of sex. If the feeling is right, intimacy will come to u, and if u r successful, then talk abt the conditions on how u would wish to have it x times a week etc. It goes a long way.

You are not wrong from a women point of view but men being creatures with sperm to discard has sexual urges to relief before they can be rational! Bottom line, men usually think with their dicks before their brain.

Solve this before the 1 to 1 talk, otherwise what goes in the left ear will come out of the right or not go in at all.

Most men dont understanf women

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