Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by naemlo

U r so determine to marry her... what advice u need?

This is an open question, as in no one can answer what u meant by "decent marriage"

U have to state example, like 5 stars restaurant or small coffee shop in HCMC. Your decent might be 5 star restaurant in a small village while others decent might be a normal restaurant in city.

Always enjoyed reading your replies...will you be in hcm on 13 Aug weekend...

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Always enjoyed reading your replies...will you be in hcm on 13 Aug weekend...

I doubt so, I am planning to go BKK to celebrate National Day. Time flies, it is your monthly trip again. Help me look after all the SYT in HCMC. I had enough of SYT in Hanoi. Currently taking a break from them.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

there is only 1 to marry

Your love story was well documented and we had been following for past 4 years...so please dun need to repeat for just one newbie asking...sorry dun mean to stop you posting again...you know what I meant la...

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Your love story was well documented and we had been following for past 4 years...so please dun need to repeat for just one newbie asking...sorry dun mean to stop you posting again...you know what I meant la...

Hope that there is an investor to make a movie out of this.

[Honey Boon]

i was about to say that, but you win .....

Originally Posted by KangTuo

I thought you gonna ask whether the gal from north or south

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Your love story was well documented and we had been following for past 4 years...so please dun need to repeat

Old man keep repeating story mah

[SureScore]

Originally Posted by naemlo

I doubt so, I am planning to go BKK to celebrate National Day. Time flies, it is your monthly trip again. Help me look after all the SYT in HCMC. I had enough of SYT in Hanoi. Currently taking a break from them.

How can one bro Hurricane88 help you to look after so many SYT in hcm? You got so many SYT and still hunting in BKK.

[Lieutenant_Thai]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

You named a few KTV (NC, E*** and K2) in your previous posting. I do not know if you know her in these 3 KTV. You should know what happen inside. She go lam tinh with you in the first meeting in ktv, she may go lam tinh with others if she work. So when she come to work in KTV, you have to make sure you can take it.

Hello bro she comes from G* Ktv @ Lavender. But i will take note of ur advise thanks.

[Lieutenant_Thai]

Originally Posted by RealEstateGuy

Brother, seems like love to me. Keep us informed on how things progress.

Not a problem ill update once shes back in singapore couple of months. Cheers.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Lieutenant_Thai

Hello bro she comes from G* Ktv @ Lavender. But i will take note of ur advise thanks.

She can go with you lam tinh then she can go also go with anyone...hope you can tolerate all the customers pawing on her when she working...wish you good luck..

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by xyman

So how much to spend for a decent marriage in vietnam?

Like a bro say, its open ended how decent can be decent .... only u can specify ...

For my case .... I just recently married my BX in Singapore and then in Vietnam.

1. Full Wedding Reception of 20 Tables inclusive of dance, singer and MC + free flow of drinks and beers - 40 Millions Dong.

2. Full Wedding Photography + Videography + Bridal Car - 23 Milllions Dong.

3. Customary Accessories + Invitation Card - 3 Millions Dong.

4. $$ for M-I-L - SIN $3.5K

5. Golds for Bride - M-I-L buy for ceremony, after ceremony, the golds sold back ... hhahhhhaah

For reference .....

So I guess and all bros wil agreed that my wedding in Vietnam was not a decent one ....

Rgds ...

[Lieutenant_Thai]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

She can go with you lam tinh then she can go also go with anyone...hope you can tolerate all the customers pawing on her when she working...wish you good luck..

Yes bro, i have to understand her situation that she come to singapore for work, but its very sad in my opinion that she have to work in this kind of place with a heart so tender and loving. vietnamese girls might not be as educated as the singaporeans but their love really touched me very much.

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Lieutenant_Thai

Hello to all bro, just want to share my story about me and my vietnamese girlfriend.
Hope you can give me proper guidance for me.
This started when i went down to a KTV few months back, got to know this vietnamese girl, sat with her then brought her out to lam tinh on that day, it turns out that she is a very nice girl as after that day, she followed me wherever i went, she even skipped work just to accompany me, not once not twice but everytime when we are together, i only went to this KTV once, so all the other times i went out with her was outside the KTV, we started having feeling for each other, went out to watch movies together, go to the beach, shopping and all the other events where couples do.
Felt very in love with her, she doesn't ask me for money even the subsequent times i brought her to hotel to lam tinh, she would even pay for my cab fare and sometimes meal we go on dutch, feeling really bad for making her follow me while she have to work,
i decided to give her money to go shopping and buy whatever she likes but she always decline the money i gave to her, but i usually will just slipped it into her handbag and once i send her home ill sms her that i have give her some allowance to spend. Her english is limited but our feelings speaks for us. This carry on for a few months then 1 day she went back to Vietnam, brought her to the airport and then she left, but before she left she gave me a home address, home number and cellphone number, tell me if 1day im going to visit vietnam she will bring me around.
After she left, we still got contact each other thru the phone and sms, just last week, i wanted to see her real bad, i book the ticket to HCMC told her that im comming, she told me that she is going to be free whenever im in vietnam. Btw she told me in vietnam she is working as pedicure. Once reach vietnam, saw her waiting for me outside the airport, got out and gave her a hug like long lost couple. She also brought her friend along, which speaks really good english, so we can communicate better, she brought me around HCMC. We took pictures together, eat together, sightseeing and explaining to me about vietnam. The 2nd day her friend have to work so she left, leaving me and my girlfriend. So we went out together again the 2nd day.
On the 3rd day i pack my bag as i only staying in vietnam for 3d2n. Then she send me to the airport and bid farewell, she told me that she will come back Singapore and find me nx month. So now im really confuse just to stick to her or not as i would like to be with her really bad, she have been really good to me all these while.
Any advise from any bros on what kind of girl will she be if i continue seeing her?

Bro ....

I understand how you feel right now ... me too love at first sight and carry on for 1 year ...

I too flew to HCMC 1 month after she went back because really miss her alot ...

Imagine phone bills chalking up to $1.6K but then luckily subscribe to M1 paying additional $5 using the IDD as local call charges ... and paying $160 in final bills ...

I guess it all boils now to trust and acceptance .... BUT of course don't love blindly.

Even Bro KT took years to find out and accept ... guess you should learn from him ....

Especially when you are told not to go fetch her after work ... you mind might run wild, what is she up to ....

Especially when you can't contact her and nexy day she tells you she is drunk the night before ... hhahah .. runs wild again ...

Therefore, there is alot of spot checks, waiting ... like Bro KT said ... very tiring proccess ...

It also took me a while to accept and understand .... although we still quarrel abit here and there la ....

But then we are now happily married and she is now 2 months pregnant ...

End of the day ...

whats your tolerance level?
Whats your trust level?
whats your acceptance level?
Now + future or choose to lived in the past?

I guess bro here will agree ...

If you cannot afford to give $$ and support her ... then she has to work and you have to accept...
If you can't bare the fact she is working in these environmet ... then give $$ and support her ... so she no need to work ...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

current gal - I am still in a mess. Wondering where she go, what she do, who she get to know, wondering whether she xao me or not, etc... never able to overcome

Bro KT ...

you are so experience and got difficulty to overcome .... guess it must be a very painful process for you ...

I guess sometimes its difficult to strike a balance between heart and head ...

Me too in this areas .... talk about it ends up in quarrel , no talk ends up suffers in sience ...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Lieutenant_Thai

Yes bro, i have to understand her situation that she come to singapore for work, but its very sad in my opinion that she have to work in this kind of place with a heart so tender and loving. vietnamese girls might not be as educated as the singaporeans but their love really touched me very much.

I had been to hcm for the past 3 yrs...knew most of Vn gals are like what you described...so to me nothing new...alot of brothers can be the judge here because they all travel there often to see their gf...not that I discourage you from loving this gal...just telling you there are at least 40 millions gals in Vn so there are plenty of choices...