Wives and Lovers...Steps to Happiness or Unhappiness?

[newbadass]

Originally Posted by `TRISH

I still think it is just a selfish reason.

Maybe it is. In fact, it probably is. But so what?

He is simply telling us his approach. He is not arrogantly claiming that everyone else is wrong and he is right. As long as his decision and his approach does not harm any unwilling parties, who gives a shit what he thinks is right?

Chill!

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by newbadass

Maybe it is. In fact, it probably is. But so what?

He is simply telling us his approach. He is not arrogantly claiming that everyone else is wrong and he is right. As long as his decision and his approach does not harm any unwilling parties, who gives a shit what he thinks is right?

Chill!

Tks bro, before i begin, allow me to state the following which is not related to u but the CLONE:
On the start page, when one logs in, whether to PM, view or reply certain threads, it'll be reflected.
Funny thing is that this character was logged on & then left & within a minute, an old nick immediately logged in to view the FL Dome page.....
This is enough proof for me.
As I'm outta town now, now worries, some things, like i always say, will settle in person! Flaming is for the BOH JI

Back to the reply.
Yes, I have never meant or said its the way, its just my way...works for me!
But that doesnt mean it works for all.
As for whether they tell me all about their meat, it's people like you, the CLONE, who injects jealousy, insecurity and poison into anothers holy matrimony...but again, that's ur way & I respect it.
Damn, you already showed everyone how mentally unstable you r on the other thread liao, so why am i even replying to a psycho??????
hahaha

Anyways, again, its my way & it works for me & i never proclaim it works for everyone.
But through experiments and experience, you'll find the winning formula sooner or later.

Do Not, & I mean Do Not, ever say it's my way or the highway, like the clone mentioned, else you'll always be the screwed up psycho who thinks the whole world is wrong, as long as they do not see his point of you.
Conclusion: Never learn shit, & will always be nottin but that piece of shit!

I now close wif his new siggy:
MISSION ACCOMPLISHED

[Panamera]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Tks bro, before i begin, allow me to state the following which is not related to u but the CLONE:
On the start page, when one logs in, whether to PM, view or reply certain threads, it'll be reflected.Funny thing is that this character was logged on & then left & within a minute, an old nick immediately logged in to view the FL Dome page.....This is enough proof for me.As I'm outta town now, now worries, some things, like i always say, will settle in person! Flaming is for the BOH JI

That tiger12477 guy, correct? I also suspected him

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by Panamera

That tiger12477 guy, correct? I also suspected him

hahaha look in this thread:

http://sbf.directory/welcome...t-ar-bbbj.html

And look for the siggy which i used for conclusion of my post!

[Panamera]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

hahaha look in this thread:http://sbf.directory/welcome...t-ar-bbbj.htmlAnd look for the siggy which i used for conclusion of my post!

Now I know him liao, WTF!! its that cartoon wolfy guy competing for King Joker!!! He was the same guy in Chatroom using Smelly.Cunt nics that keep scolding others including my parents....WTF!!!!!! It's YOU.....Kefuso!!!! You Son-of-No-Good-Motherless-Goat! I recognized your exact "parents greeting" statement from last nite!!! ...Mission not accomplished, you M.F kefuSo, I will be your shadow from now....

On 2nd thought, think better, we send our ninja Kiko with his unorthodox arts of war to bombard him with pms......Or maybe he is also Kiko clone...

[Panamera]

Hey! The Wolf from RoadRunner cartoon, please read this thread I posted for you

http://sbf.directory/welcome...r-bbbj-26.html

If you need SPCA contact numbers, post here, I send you there personally along with my cat..

[`TRISH]

YES! It works for you, and what i've said works for me.
What you have just said have just contradicts whatever you stated in the beginning.
You dont care about them telling you all about their meat or whatsoever but then again you claims you have this openess between your family that I wouldnt understand. Care to explain what do you actually meant?

In any case, it is the others your talking about who injects jealousy, insecurity.
If im a psycho for expressing my views on having a lover or not then your a retard for doing what you claims.
At least a psycho can thinks better.

If you never proclaims it works for everyone then why claims im wrong?
Correct me but your the one who jump in on me in the first place.
So why do I bother? Cause you bother ;]

Maybe it is. In fact, it probably is. But so what?

He is simply telling us his approach. He is not arrogantly claiming that everyone else is wrong and he is right. As long as his decision and his approach does not harm any unwilling parties, who gives a shit what he thinks is right?

Chill!

If it is, so what right? No biggie right?
I think so too, but I would still love to express myself.
I dont think it is wrong of me to either, isnt it?

I do admit that I am pissed with the person who said
"if your wife makes you toolan, you got a lover to turn to, and vice versa." Because that is really a lousy reason without really considerating other factors in life.

[Panamera]

Yo, Bro DO_YOU_BJ,

Thanks for the link.

Wishing you a Super and Fruitful Trip!

Best Regards,
Panamera

[colins]

Originally Posted by `TRISH

Come on who does that? "Reality is, one side will always compromise" how far are you from reality? You have not seen it doesnt mean the world only exist in your point of view.

Sure the dopamin rush with a new face. We all know it comes back to the original state of mind. Whats new?

I still think it is just a selfish reason.

Well that is my reality. For the first 18 months max, everything can be consultative becos love defies logic. For many many relationships my friends have, likewise for relatives, bros here, friends' friend etc., and I dare say everyone looks pretty normal, that is truth. Perhaps you too, unless of cos you are in the middle of your first puppy love, then dun need to say and I will have to discount your argument.

Well I guess if I know you now, and I treat you like a friend while you take me as a fool, then I am far from reality. Otherwise, you have yours and I have mine. I pointed out an example of how relationship tends to work and you dig the language of whether I have seen it or not. I refer to your points that relationships is seldom consultative and you say I have not seen it doesn't mean it dun exist. Your points are universal arguments to start a useless fight based on ignorance, not on experience. Like everything you say, I can also reply you back, boy you are wrong cos you have not seen it, wait until you can prove it then you come here and talk. That is so weak and useless isn't it? Challenge me on the same points la. Tell me how can consultative relationship can work and that can really save the day for many bros here.

You think its selfish? Thats becos you haven't seen more selfishness from people who are even paid to be selfless.

[QQBoy]

I like to share with the brothers here that I have a girlfriend or mistress although I have been married for 14 years and love my wife. However, life has been quite monotonous and our activities are surrounding our kids. This is probably the typical Singapore lifestyle. If you've watched the HK movie July Rhapsody acted by Jackie Cheung, I'm probably in the same situation. A SYT appeared out of nowhere, and we are able to click just like that. I am 18 years her senior. I love her, and I know that she is loves me too. We've been together for 6 months and our love for each other is going stronger day by day. Even if we don't date, we still talk on the phone everyday. She knows the rules with our relationship and is willing to be my number 2, and she has no motive to destroy my family. She's not embarrassed to get stares from strangers when we hold hands in public. My wife doesn't get suspicious because she trust that I don't betray her. She is also busy with her business and doesn't have time for me. I don't know how long this affair is going to last, but I am certainly enjoying our exciting moments together.

[`TRISH]

Originally Posted by colins

Well that is my reality. For the first 18 months max, everything can be consultative becos love defies logic. For many many relationships my friends have, likewise for relatives, bros here, friends' friend etc., and I dare say everyone looks pretty normal, that is truth. Perhaps you too, unless of cos you are in the middle of your first puppy love, then dun need to say and I will have to discount your argument.

Well I guess if I know you now, and I treat you like a friend while you take me as a fool, then I am far from reality. Otherwise, you have yours and I have mine. I pointed out an example of how relationship tends to work and you dig the language of whether I have seen it or not. I refer to your points that relationships is seldom consultative and you say I have not seen it doesn't mean it dun exist. Your points are universal arguments to start a useless fight based on ignorance, not on experience. Like everything you say, I can also reply you back, boy you are wrong cos you have not seen it, wait until you can prove it then you come here and talk. That is so weak and useless isn't it? Challenge me on the same points la. Tell me how can consultative relationship can work and that can really save the day for many bros here.

You think its selfish? Thats becos you haven't seen more selfishness from people who are even paid to be selfless.

Pardon me if I didnt think it is necessary for me to point out that I have seen many who are in a loving marriage for decades.
I dont think relationships work on the way you said, you give in once and vice versa. How can you compare in such a way?
And of course truth is what you've seen, and I dont blame you for that.
Given the words of my friends and relatives who have been in a great marriage, they all gave me the same comments about how to keep marriage lives exciting and not boring.
Sure there are boring times in their marriage, but each have their own ways to tackle it instead of substituting with an external adrenaline rush.
Its only a matter of trying and put utmost efforts. And of course both have to play a mutual part of it all not only a one sided party.
Whoever said marriage was easy?

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by `TRISH

Its not how you manage it, is how you put your boundaries and principles above all. A bigger man put his own moral boundaries above his family.
It just shows how shallow you as an individual is.

i rem there's an old story of 2 animals, one saw the other animal able to climb up the tree and eat grapes while it can only watch and salivate. but this animal very clever, it comes up with a way to stroke and console its ego by saying the grapes are sour, the other animal is just stupid to have ate them.

anyone heard of this story b4?

[Panamera]

Originally Posted by `TRISH

Given the words of my friends and relatives who have been in a great marriage, they all gave me the same comments about how to keep marriage lives exciting and not boring.Sure there are boring times in their marriage, but each have their own ways to tackle it instead of substituting with an external adrenaline rush.

Spinster Trish, Although Matters of the Heart is to help those that has a commercial fuck that turned into a torrid love affair, our experts here can also advise career women and old maids beyond their customary age for marriage whose life been upside down, not having 69 or upside down position for ages! with a drying well crisis. Please share you story.. BTW, if you are prettty, I don't mind letting you to Prime my Pump!

[mike1304k]

Originally Posted by Panamera

Spinster Trish, Although Matters of the Heart is to help those that has a commercial fuck that turned into a torrid love affair, our experts here can also advise career women and old maids beyond their customary age for marriage whose life been upside down, not having 69 or upside down position for ages! with a drying well crisis. Please share you story.. BTW, if you are prettty, I don't mind letting you to Prime my Pump!

Hehehe bro Panamera... U split me like a banana... Lols... But seriously lah... don know wat issues Bro or Sis Trish has, but there are some who will want to moralise the sanctity of marriage. Some do not give a hoot as long as they are happy... To each his or her own lah... I do believe in the sanctity of the marriage fully and would hope that my marriage lasts forever. People have their own way of staying married and there is no "secret formula". We are all humans and we all have our own ideas, thoughts and so on.

I would also like to say that no matter how moralistic one can be, or idealistic one can be, being human, we will be tempted. It is only how we react to the temptations. I for one was really tempted (please find my thread) and it was only after a long thought that I found my way out. I did not compromise to anyone for any reason. Just a choice for myself. If we say compromise, it will mean someone has to give to some extent or other. If we choose our action, there is no compromise. I chose. My wife also supports me on the choice.

So to return to the topic... Steps to happiness of unhappiness all depends on the individual. The husband or wife has a choice. He or she can find life boring, may want an extra bit of spice or a full blown halepena chilli... it is their choice. Whether when they have somethig on the side and they are happy or not... it is also their choice... A guy can have a rich wife who will dote on him, a slutty lover who will stroke his rod and a SWT to stroke his ego.... is he really happy? Or a guy with plane jane plump little one, who will be his wife and the mother of his children till the day he dies... will he be happy? Happiness is a state of mind...

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Well said mike.
Looks like you've answered all that has to be answered and i find it meaningless to reply to Trash.
Sorry, its Trish lol
Some people live in the real world, where some people, who claims that a psycho thinks better.....OMG, live in LALA Land....to each his own.
Damn bo liao man hahahaha