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Hey man, just like you I have a thai girlfriend. Perhaps I can share with you some of my views.
1) Generally, thai girls are very nice people. They are not scheming, and are very good tempered people.
2) Unfortunately, they have poor money sense. They dun usually plan ahead financially, they spend what they have. So to them, money is never enough.
3) Thais tend to think that all foreigners are more well off than them, and thais are very well aware that cost of living in thai is much lower than other developing countries. Thus, its very difficult for them to understand that we( singaporeans) are not as well off as they think we are.
4) Someone brought up the notion of sharing in this thread. I agree very much with it. Cos in a thai family unit, the most well-off child will naturally take on the responsibility to contribute financially to the family. My guess is that your girlfriend is the only member of her family that has a foreign boyfriend. And thus, the responsiblity falls in you.
5) Generally, thai women are very virtous, and they make very good wives. They try their best to satisfied all your needs. In return, they develop a tendency to apporach you the moment they have problems, be it money or something else. They look up to you as a source for solution, be it whether you are a thai local or a foreigner.
6) My girlfriend ask me for money as well, I'll give her what I can. Personally, I feel that it is important for us not to feel troubled over money matters. Always make sure that whatever you give her is on top of the your own financial commitments. What I meant is that surplus that you have after your usual spending and the pre-set amount that you put to savings, your loan to her should come from this surplus.
7) Be honest with her, more importantly, be honest with yourself, if you are tight on hand, just tell her you are unable to do it. And if she is understanding about it, congradulations, you found a good girlfriend. If she doesn't, good for you as well, cos you know she is not the one for you.
All the best to the 2 of you.
Hi Bro. It's really good to read what you have shared. Confidence booster.
I guess I became suspicious after reading the experiences of many others, especially in Stickman. I started to wonder if my gf is secretly scheming something, and I am deep in her trap.
Now that I have followed some good advices from the posts, I have talked with her about it and she understood why I was upset. In fact, she became very anxious and assured me she would return all the money fast.
Now that I have followed some good advices from the posts,
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"Advice" is a non countable noun; you do not add an "s" to make it plural.
"Advice" is like "Rice". You say... "Please pass me the Rice." You don't say "Please pass me the rices" because "Rice", like "Advice", is a non countable noun.
Hi Bro. It's really good to read what you have shared. Confidence booster.
I guess I became suspicious after reading the experiences of many others, especially in Stickman. I started to wonder if my gf is secretly scheming something, and I am deep in her trap.
Now that I have followed some good advices from the posts, I have talked with her about it and she understood why I was upset. In fact, she became very anxious and assured me she would return all the money fast.
Bro, you have to stay alert all times. Try not to fork out any more money for the time being.
Good to know that you had a talk with your girlfriend. If she has given you her word, then I guess in time you will know if she's good on her word.
Just one more point, I seldom give loans to friends or my girlfriend. But if I do, I dun expect to take any back. Over the years, I realise the importance of being frugal, and when it comes to lending money, the lesser the expectations, the lesser the disappointment you"ll get.
Remember, whatever you channel out should only come from your surplus, such that in a event you dun get the money back, you will always be on par with your savings plans. Take care.
Hey man, just like you I have a thai girlfriend. Perhaps I can share with you some of my views.
1) Generally, thai girls are very nice people. They are not scheming, and are very good tempered people.
2) Unfortunately, they have poor money sense. They dun usually plan ahead financially, they spend what they have. So to them, money is never enough.
3) Thais tend to think that all foreigners are more well off than them, and thais are very well aware that cost of living in thai is much lower than other developing countries. Thus, its very difficult for them to understand that we( singaporeans) are not as well off as they think we are.
4) Someone brought up the notion of sharing in this thread. I agree very much with it. Cos in a thai family unit, the most well-off child will naturally take on the responsibility to contribute financially to the family. My guess is that your girlfriend is the only member of her family that has a foreign boyfriend. And thus, the responsiblity falls in you.
5) Generally, thai women are very virtous, and they make very good wives. They try their best to satisfied all your needs. In return, they develop a tendency to apporach you the moment they have problems, be it money or something else. They look up to you as a source for solution, be it whether you are a thai local or a foreigner.
6) My girlfriend ask me for money as well, I'll give her what I can. Personally, I feel that it is important for us not to feel troubled over money matters. Always make sure that whatever you give her is on top of the your own financial commitments. What I meant is that surplus that you have after your usual spending and the pre-set amount that you put to savings, your loan to her should come from this surplus.
7) Be honest with her, more importantly, be honest with yourself, if you are tight on hand, just tell her you are unable to do it. And if she is understanding about it, congradulations, you found a good girlfriend. If she doesn't, good for you as well, cos you know she is not the one for you.
All the best to the 2 of you.
bro,dont mind i use your post to copy to another thread about viet spouse cos i think is a very solid post to share
Good to know that you had a talk with your girlfriend. If she has given you her word, then I guess in time you will know if she's good on her word.
Just one more point, I seldom give loans to friends or my girlfriend. But if I do, I dun expect to take any back. Over the years, I realise the importance of being frugal, and when it comes to lending money, the lesser the expectations, the lesser the disappointment you"ll get.
Remember, whatever you channel out should only come from your surplus, such that in a event you dun get the money back, you will always be on par with your savings plans. Take care.
Hi bro, yes I'm not really concern over money itself. Just want to use this chance to test if her values and mine align. At the same time, let her know about this issue.
30-07-2011, 09:31 AM
