Depressed girl

[manitou]

Please pour them out quickly. You will feel much better after that.

[dulanjiao]

I think its better you tell him then he finds out.
But if he finds out and can forgive you, he's a keeper. Otherwise, he is just as good as any other.
Don't feel cheap about your FL past. Everyone has their past. Its just how you think of yourself that matters. Guys also have wild and crazy days. So you dun consider those cheap? Its how you think about it.

I think the other samsters here also advice well. Never be blackmailed into anything. There is no end to it one.

[arsenal_84]

Originally Posted by Thanks

when i read the answers , it was like a knife, piercing thru my flesh. FL are sluts...whores...cheap... yes all this i agree. and yes i am cheap. i really wish FLs read that post. and to all the ladies who are FLs now, please stop. and those who are thinking of offering services. please DO NOT do that,please. one day, u will end up like me, hurting the man u love most. and no matter how successful u are, u will never erase this black mark. once a whore, always a whore.

i do not think once a whore always a whore...if a leopard can change, so can those working in the flesh trade, is only a matter whether do they want to and do they have the will power to leave the trade behind.
some horny guys can't even pay a cat 150 for her services so how can a whore be cheap ?
the difference between a slut and a whore is, at least the later party get paid for her role but slut get laid for free.

[WildatHeart]

My guess is that at least 80% or even 100% of the samster have dark secret which cannot even tell the closer people beside you...

Everyone has past, we just move on.... after sometimes, our new things supercede the past and if that new things is good.. grow it.. else as some bro explain... move on again...

for your case....
if you really want to forget.... just forget...
when you forget... you cant remember....
you have to REALLY forget and move on...
dont need to relate thru writing, speech or flash the past in your mind any more...

when you cant remember, at least to you.. it did not happen..
then you walk ahead boldly.. deny all the past and ignore those sms or phone..

I believe you are still within some same circle of reach with people of your past and revealed your new phone number somehow.. (eg facebook?, forum? tuition network?, etc)

fear not, can change number again..

regarding your bf, he will not be sure if it is you... unless you confirm with his friend b4.. if this is the case, you have no choice but to come clean as the pict as from your ex bf.. (can never say your FL matters) however, i must say not many Male can accept these.. end result is usually not very good.. as somehow there is already imbalance between the 2..


if you had nvr confirm with anyone b4 that the pict is you.., then pls continue to do so... the ball then become at your bf side..

if he really concern it very very much and really feel it is you... he will "force" or coerce or sweet talk you to admit (even so, try not to admit) and/or he will ditch you just like that... either way, you will know that its better not to continue the relationship and suffer later..

if he truely love you... he will ignore and move on..

note:- i need 3 pts to regain power.. anyone kind enough just up me la.. thanks..

[waiwaiz]

interesting story.pls continue........After pouring out everything, i'm sure u can move on...........cheersss n take care

[dinlou]

sometimes fate comes around and you never really know if it is a good thing or a bad thing, but for a guy,... i wun comment whether it is a good thing or a bad thing to come clean.

it could also be worse if you keep it from him and he finds out later, and on the other hand, there is no point tormenting yourself psychologically worrying when he is going to find out.

dun sucuumb to those arses that blackmail you. but then again, dun do anything you are unsure if you will regret in the future. (think long term)

just my two cents worth. jyjy!!

[gambofini]

Originally Posted by Thanks

hi everyone.. its me again, depressed girl..

i am penning this in my car now.. feeling extremely emo..down..helpless..lonely..

TS do take care of yourself. Life is not as bad as it seems. Not all guys think badly of FLs. If your bf really loves you i think he wont mind your past. But as many samsters have mentioned, the truth will surface someday, and I think your bf deserves to know the truth.

[naturegreen]

Why feel sad and regret over things you did in the past? Move on with life. There's no such things that whores are sluts. Think about this way, you choose to earn money the easy way while others don't. Since it's the past already, just let it go. You don't have to really come clean with him if he never ask. You are not lying. Just try to avoid telling the truth.

[spidey123]

Just tell the truth... someday along the road you may even consider marrying him and then you will face the same dilema again. If he loves you enough he wont mind your past.

[exskk]

Sis, just 2 words for you 加油!

[zyspt]

don't ever think of yourself as cheap, cheap does not exist in you.
one get to choose from the many path that is in front of him, in your case your past is the result of walking down a wrong path, but you choose to walk out of it which is very good.

given a chance to reverse time and standing at the crossroad to choose the path again, i'm sure u will not choose the same path again.
so live on, there is still a long road ahead of you and many path for you to choose.

if this incident is such a torture to yourself and your bf, maybe is time to do a show hand. the worst scenario is that he leave you, but both of you will be relieve from that torture and you can start fresh again. maybe outcome can be a bonus to you, that your bf is able to forgive and forget about the incident and continue to love u, which remove the heavy stone that is in your heart.

Life is beautiful, look forward, theres always a better tomorrow.

[BernardFrosty]

My God...your student's dad is a real true blue samster.

Why it comes to relationships, listen to the female's advice cause guy's usually makes an ass of themselves when it comes to relationships.

Blackmailers are bullies. When dealing with bullies, you can't give an inch. Give them an inch and they'll go for a yard. Make a stand and show that you are no pushover.

[anmakit]

TS, what has passed has already passed. And you've definitely learnt your lesson, so don't block away that one year of memories and just forgive yourself for the mistakes and choices that you have made and move on. Release your belief that you'll never be happy cos happiness is a choice, and as long as you hold on to that belief, then you'll hold yourself back from enjoying the happiness that you have now.

Let your bf know the truth now cos sooner or later, you'll have to do it so why don't u just do it now instead of suffering inside, fearing what will happen if he knows the truth? If he really loves you, he'll definitely go thru some pain but will ultimately forgive you.

And it's best to ignore the results of the poll here in sbf cos it's not representative of the whole singapore male population. Remember that most of us are mainly here for one reason (Sex), and so our opinions will be more biased than those outside sbf.

[Thanks]

Hey guys

Thanks all for your words of comfort, advices, well wishes..

Everytime I visit this thread, I am really touched from the bottom of my heart,

We do not know each other but u are willing to spend time reading and replying... Thank you so much..,.

It's amazing how I felt this after posting the thread , it's like talking to an old fren about my ugly past , and realise my vent up emotions..

I don't know when my bf will find out, also dont know if I would ever muster enough courage to tell him the truth...

But If one day he finds out and decides to leave me, I hope he would read this thread and understand The emotional struggle I faced during this period ...

And to girls who are reading , I hope you learn from my mistake. It's hard for u to leave the line definitely... Yes u earn tens of thousands in less than a year... But eventually u need to settle down and how do u expect your bf to feel when u give him a BJ ?

I can think of a million reasons to prove u that this money is not worth earning, but u have to make The decision yourself... The next sentence I am saying may make u angry, but I still wanna say this...

Stop cheapening yourself. Leave this line.

Thanks.

[dk1903]

hi there. i think a lot of us here will agree that WL are not cheap.
i have never seen it that way, and i don't think i will ever see it that way.

i started to look for WL after my wife had an affair with her colleague.
we were together for 10 years and she threw that out the window with a married man who has a son! the man is now divorced and they are staying together. i am proud to say that i have never ever cheated once on her in the 10 yrs that we were together.

perhaps because she was my first and only, when i started to look for WL, i always chatted and find out that background first. in fact, there are 1001 sob storied out there on how they became a WL. most of them is because of family, some because of husband/boyfriend,etc. till this day, i have not met anyone who became a WL because she wants prada, LV stuff, etc. so how can u say they are cheap?

it's true, every guy will be shocked to know that their girlfriend was once a WL. but, if the person really loves you, he will want to know how the circumstances lead you into this. i mean come on who will you choose - a gal who became a WL because her mother was sick and she has no money to treat her OR a gal who previously partied every night and have ONS with more than a hundred guys? if u ask me, the real tramps are the ones offering ONS.

so, be brave. tell your boyfriend the truth. if u love him, he deserves the truth. if he loves u, he will understand and show u more love. if he can't accept your PAST, then he is not worthy of your love. who in this world has not baggage? there are so many divorcees who are single parents out there. if a WL has no hope, then what about these people? nobody will ever know u r a WL before, but how do u hide your children from your new boyfriend?

this is not an easy decision. all i can wish for you is that u find the happiness that u truly deserve.